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Famous for his psychological thriller movie, ‘Acrimony’, American actor and producer, Tyler Perry, is all out to thrill his fans again with his upcoming movie ‘A Fall From Grace, collaborating with Netflix.

‘A Fall From Grace’ tells the story of a divorcee Grace Waters, played by Crystal Fox, who in the adventures of her lonely life falls into a heated romance with a younger man. They eventually get married but Grace’s life takes a drastic turn afterwards.

The movie will be exclusive to Netflix from January 17th, 2020. It stars, Crystal Fox, Phylicia Rashad, Bresha Webb, Mehcad Brooks, Cicely Tyson, Adrian Pasdar, Matthew Law, Donovan Christie, Jr., Walter Fauntleroy, Angela Marie Rigsby, and Tyler Perry.

Will ‘A Fall From Grace’ overshoot the accolades awarded to ‘Acrimony’ or fall short of recommendations?  ( Cc folio.ng)

Watch the official trailer below:

The release of Acrimony in 2018 stirred so much controversy in the society as it assumed a pivot of virtually every discussion. Its storyline stirred so many lingering arguments among various groups, friends and couples, whereby each party became so opinionated about their allegiance to either Melinda (Taraji P. Henson) or Robert (Lyriq Bent) who were the main characters of the film.

Brief Plot of Acrimony:

When Melinda met Robert, she was sceptical of his charming nature, but couldn’t deny how attracted she was to him. Once they fell in love, Melinda moulded herself into everything he wanted her to be. She sacrificed for him, worked to support his grandiose dreams, and put up with him for better or for worse. Then, one day she realised that, after all, she had done, another woman was reaping the lavish rewards. That’s when Melinda lost it, and now she cannot let it go. ( Cc wikipedia.com)

Without dubiety, Acrimony was the most talked about film during the time of its release, grossing $46 million worldwide with a bone of contention, ‘Who is at fault?’. If you watched the film, you can relate too.

Read: A Quagmire Is Enjoyed With Friends Inside

Throwback Reviews Of Acrimony From Mutterers…

Femi Wager said:

“I feel that Mel was not reasonable enough. Although she was a support system at the trying phase of Roberts life all she needed to do was trust a little more. How can we say they have been married for several years and she couldn’t forget an act done a long time before marriage? Definitely, she didn’t trust him enough.

He had his flaws alright, but we all do. He was from the streets, he played his cards like a typical dude from the streets but he acknowledged that he owed her everything. How would you explain the ten million dollars? This dude wanted so bad to reconcile things but she had already concluded about him before he even repented- that’s even if he did anything in the first place.

If she was so wonderful like people claim she is, why take him to court after the deal worked out? He was fair. What was she expecting when she went to his house? The lady was there for him at the time when help was fundamental. Most times with help, it is not about when you did it. It is about at what point you did it. The other lady was there for him, up to the point when his deal clicked and he was meant to leave her like that? Haha. I don’t think so”.

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Oluseyi Vandy said:

“The cause of the problem is in the title itself is money.

If Robert didn’t become wealthy, Mel would have gotten over it. She was just mental.

Like 10 mil comes chop?

Honestly, your divorce argument doesn’t count cause he knew he’d never win when she came with her sister that hates him. Nothing he could do or say to her there that would’ve saved the marriage and she admitted in her monologue when she said: “The funny thing is I believed him then I felt sorry for him”.

The truth is what he was trying to invent was history groundbreaking and yes he should’ve been there for her but the truth was he cared for her not loved her.

Like every great inventor that is building something revolutionary they never have time for anything else; all them Albert Einstein Nikolas tesla they normally have someone funding them so he just used her and yes he was a con but to a large extent that breakup broke him at least her stopping to believe in him cause no one else did

She could’ve still had access to him if she got over it and not snapped they could’ve ended amicably and been good friends but like the therapist said she didn’t want to accept any blame cause they both were at fault”.

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Some of the cast from Acrimony

Grace Nwaobilor said:

“I just saw the movie Acrimony and this question comes to my head, How will you feel if the same person your partner told you not to worry about with the line ‘she/he is just a friend or I don’t feel anything for her’ ends up being with your partner after you guys are no more together? Bad, right?

I guess that was how Mel felt, the same person she caught her man cheating on her with, the same person’s purse that led to her divorce and then the same person ends up with her man with a much better condition of life than she had with him.

Or in a different light, she was just a jealous psycho who was just after him because of how successful he had become or was surprised and bitter that something good could come out of him and she wasn’t the cause neither would she be there to enjoy it with him.

I guess, if he had just kept working in the kitchen washing dishes she would care less if he was together with Diana. In all, she was a psycho for love😁”

A fall from Grace
Meet Tyler Perry, filmmaker of ‘A Fall From Grace’ and ‘Acrimony’

It’s two days before the release of ‘A Fall From Grace’, judging by its trailer, and bearing in mind two themes common to both films, love and betrayal, do you think it will be as successful or surpass ‘Acrimony‘s’ rating?

 

 

 

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When The Rebels Disappoint…

“Hi Sophie, good morning. How far, were you able to read English for Journalism Course?” I asked with my hopes up, so sure she was going to say No.

“Hi, Doris! Yes, I have started. The course actually got interesting. Beside hubby encouraged me to begin”. There goes Sophie’s response. 

On God, I wish I had a golf ball to throw at her skull so I could get her thinking straight. How could she have? 

Friends

Here’s what happened Prior to this… In a bid to make us better journalists, the publishing editor where we work made it mandatory for us to study a Journalism course on Coursera and failure to do so will involve higher authorities and pay slash.

I was not going to study the course, at least not this past week. Asides that I got pissed at the threat to improve my skill, I was ill and had a lot of activities to cover this past weekend. 

Getting to work yesterday, aka D Day, a select few of my colleagues who had initiated a mini-revolt over the course last week began speaking some English I couldn’t comprehend. 

ME: Did you read the course?

Person 1: Errrrm kinda, I just glanced through last night.

Person 2: Not really, I watched the videos, it was quite helpful.

Person 3: I’m almost done with the course.

At this point, I knew that my adversaries had caught up with me.

Misery Loves Company

Well, that’s enough about me. Many times we wish we were sunk in the same predicament with our friends and that’s because It makes it bearable. Does it mean we don’t wish them well? No. It only goes to show how well misery loves company

A person who reads day and night to pass an exam only to end up failing won’t be as sad if she knows her close friends failed it too.

Read: Friendship Is a Ruse

A lady who is single somewhere at the back of her mind wishes her friends were single too. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like she’s jealous but if the status were even, it will allay the burden of questioning one’s worth.

This might rub off as silly but then it’s one of the genuine qualities that validates our human nature. We are this way. No one wants to be left behind especially when it has to do with a failing remark.

My Adversaries Caught up but it was a Draw

Now back to my story…

“How many of you are done with the English for Journalism course”…the boss charged.

Wow! No hands were up. Not even Sophie’s or the recalcitrant child who told me he watched only the videos. 

Friends
I got saved yesterday yippy!

I have never been this relieved in a long time at work. Guess what, all our names were filed to the HR. All the while in my mind I was singing sweet praises to God. What if she gave a hall pass to those who haven’t completed it at least? I would have been the scapegoat of the company knowing fully well Christmas has been long gone.

Read: Why Are You Not Crying 

I got saved yesterday yippy! It’s a lesson. Catch me next Monday defending the course.  Heaven knows I wouldn’t take this grace for granted. 

 

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Why do you rethink letting down those tears? Is it because the offender is not worth it? Is it because you’ve heard the people say ‘Crying is for the weak’?

“Don’t let people see you bleed”… “Conceal your words”...yen yen yen. Not once! Not twice! But the umpteenth time have I seen and will I keep seeing similar texts bearing this message.

You are hurt. Its evident in your voice, your hands have activated that subtle vibration mode and your tongue fails you. Not even a word can be mustered. You know why? Its because it’s time for those tears to have an overflow, trickling down your cheeks. But No! You indulge in a battle of conserving tears because the folks said crying is for the weak.

Why are we so ashamed to cry in front of people?  No! I’m not about to give you one of those you look beautiful when you cry speech. 

Read: When A Priest Takes It To The Shrine, Who Gets The Sentence? 

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Read: Do you Read With Your Mind or Eyes

Diverse situations occur daily, some trigger an ocean of emotions. At this point I can’t move my lips, tears fill my eyes and my jaw becomes so heavy like a hen. Suddenly, I look at everyone around me, wondering if they will enjoy the feast my eyes are about to conduct. 

“Oh there! That’s my crush, does he deserve to see this at all”

“Oh No! My colleagues, will never forget today, they’ll probably reminisce anytime they are out of jokes”

Here I go, weighing my options, I guess it happens to you too.

Most times I excuse myself or hold the tears all up in my eyes until they become too heavy for my eyes to carry and then they run down forcefully. 

It could be embarrassing you know, and funny enough when someone asks me why I am crying, I deny it.

“Me? Cry? Naaa. Too much air had been let into my eyes that’s why you see tears”...such dumb lie!

Crying

Read: Facts About Tears

People have become so hardened that everyone who sheds tears in their presence is pretending. Since they have forgotten how to cry, why else should someone cry? I remember a sermon of a man of God where he said, “If you dont cry when some grave situations occur, cry that you couldn’t cry”.

Don’t shut people up when they are crying. Sometimes it’s the only and best way they can communicate how they feel. Allow people cry however they desire to express it.  If you must console, don’t try to shut them up, don’t laugh, don’t say to them it’s a sign of weakness. Maybe you can join in their cries too or a hug or bare silence could do the magic. 

If God knew we would be shy to let down those tears, he wouldn’t have put it there or given us eyes. In my opinion, God put tears in there so they can be seen and admired, connected with, be it tears of joy or sorrow.

Letting down tears has its own beauty. I admire the strength that comes with it. How are we comfortable to mock or hide such raw emotions? You might be ugly when you cry, but those emotions don’t care. All they crave is to have their way through tears, do we deprive them?

 

Note: I have no crush! I only ran out of lines there and I took a preference of getting into your head with those lines. Huh! You think I am lying right? Ok! You win😂😂

 

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When someone visits your page on social media and likes almost all the photos you have on there and also follows you, what do you do?

  • Do you ignore? 
  • Do you go to their own page and like back? 
  • Do you follow back?

This is guilt-tripping. Most times the person is waiting for the same reaction. You think you’ve found a fan but when you don’t reciprocate, they unfollow you. And if you reciprocate the gesture, moving forward you will notice that the follow back was all they needed. No more traces of them on your timeline. 

A friend of mine told me she got angry at her cousin for not replying to her comment on Instagram. She got so angry that she went back to delete her comment. I asked why and she said her cousin replied to all the other people who commented but her. I told her, perhaps her comment didn’t warrant a reply.

Read: Does Staying Offline Validate Our Existence

It could also have been that someone else commented something similar to hers and her cousin had to choose one. It’s just like asking for the price of an item in the comment session, and eventually, when you scroll through, you realize some other person’s comment has been responded to in that light. 

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Like for like? follow for follow?

So here’s the question, do you comment on a post with the intention to get a reply or to air just your opinion. Yeah I know it goes both ways, it depends on the post right! but will you be that angry and see it as an insult like my friend did. The truth is not all comments warrant a reply, it is even tiring sometimes having to reply to comments.

Read: How to Respond to Social Media Comments

Also are you the type who does ‘like for like’,  ‘follow for follow’ and all other social media shenanigans? Basically, how do you play on social media?

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Have you noticed that sometimes no matter how many times you’ve read through your written work, there’s just going to be a typographical error fished out when someone else does?

Sometimes when we go over what we wrote, we are oblivious to the typos despite reading the umpteenth time. But if we check painstakingly or someone else does, we notice them or begin to see that some words we actually readout weren’t even there at all, so how come we read them out in the first place?

There are some words registered in our minds already. When we write, we automatically think that we have written them. But we either skipped them or put a similar word that looks like them in spelling unknowingly. And because they have been registered in our minds, no matter how much we read through, we don’t notice they aren’t in context but we keep mentioning them over and over.

READ: 6 tips for catching your writing mistakes (and protecting your credibility)
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You either shut your mind completely or leave it ajar

This also happens when we are reading other people’s work. We either skip or replace words with those already registered in our minds.

Whenever  I come across a typo error in someone’s work,  I always ask ‘I bet you didn’t notice this yeah?’  they are surprised and attest to have read over and found no typo until I did. 

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Do you read with your mind or eyes? Reading with our eyes especially in terms of proof-reading makes us conscious of typos better than our minds. Opening your eyes wide to read and slowly absolving word for word with your mind is the deal. You either shut your mind completely or leave it ajar if you must avoid typos.

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First of all, can all WhatsApp group admins raise their hands and say ‘Hi’…lol.

It is rude to add someone to a WhatsApp group without prior notice,  no matter how convinced you are that they should be a part of the group. Is it so much to ask...”Hello Uju,  I’m creating a WhatsApp group for the Red Cross club alumni, do you want to be a part of it?” It’s that simple!

Of course, you will go ahead to brief me on the sole purpose of creating the group, and if that’s okay with me, I oblige. It is inappropriate to think because I am an alumnus,  I must belong to it and so you add me without prior notice.

If peradventure you didn’t have the luxury of time to ask the eligible persons individually if they would like to be a part of it, then you can add randomly only on one condition.

READ: How To Run A Successful WhatsApp Group

Here’s the deal,  when u add everyone randomly, send a note that indicates first, an apology for adding them without prior notice, second the core aims of the group and lastly indicate that it’s a hall pass for whoever needs to leave.

Sometime last month, I was added to a WhatsApp group, ideally I wouldn’t want a connection with any of the members there. You know the saying ‘what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas’ right?  it was comprised of a group of people I had bittersweet memories with and left for me, it’ll be wise to bury the hatchet instead of digging further.

Suddenly I get a notification that I have been added to a WhatsApp group bearing an obscure name. It took me a bit of scrutiny to know who the culprit was. OMG!  I wasn’t happy at all, but I kept my calm out of respect to observe the routine. You know, there can’t always be one ‘black sheep’ lol, someone like me who wasn’t feeling the group left and you won’t believe the admin started raining polite curses on the person. Not only that, she began to guilt-trip the rest of us on why we shouldn’t leave.

READ: Homosexuality Is Not a Crime

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Do you feel caged in a WhatsApp group?

Helllooooooo! No one owes you any level of activity simply because they are on a WhatsApp group you created. Some people don’t like to talk much, Some like to connect individually not collectively. The most irritating of it all is when your phone beeps continuously due to silly natterings from group chats, arrrrggggghhhh😡.

So many guilt trips come with belonging to a WhatsApp group. Despite becoming a mute, it’s so hard to leave. And if you eventually leave,  you are tagged ‘bitter’ or a ‘rebel’.

It’s a waste of time adding me to a Whatsapp group, I try to keep the pace at the initial stage but eventually falter, it’s not intentional, it just happens, no matter how important the so-called group is. 

READ: The History of WhatsApp

Anyone out there like me? Or perhaps you love WhatsApp groups, I will like to know how you play. Special recognition also to the benchwarmer or should I say ‘Chat Warmer’, who never says a word, not even an emoji contribution but knows all that happens in the group and also keeps record of the group fights. Whatsapp group admins, get in here too.

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What’s a new year without a resolution? Oh, scrap that! I really sound cliché. So here’s the deal… Muttering Minds has been running for about three months and trust me it’s been awesome, especially having to read through your intelligent comments on different posts, mehn! It’s been a learning curve.

The year is wrapping up, and I will like to weave 2020 goals for Muttering Minds around you.

READ: About Muttering Minds

So tell me, how do you feel about Muttering Minds? The stories? Do they catch your attention enough? Do they get you thinking in the ways that you want? How about the website structure? Is it user-friendly? Bottom line! In all ramifications, rate Muttering Minds.

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How do you see our logo too?

In about ten sentences, I will love to know the following from you;

  1.         How would you describe Muttering Minds?
  2.         On a scale of 0-10, where does Muttering Minds fall?
  3.         What you love about Muttering Minds?
  4.         What don’t you like about Muttering Minds?
  5.         What’s your best story so far on Muttering Minds?
  6.         How can Muttering Minds be better?

All answers will be compiled and featured in a post on any of the days within the last week of December. You can leave your answers in the comment section or send it to mutteringminds@gmail.com. Remember to keep it real!

Read: Birthday Blues? Oh Christ! I hate Birthdays

 

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Arrrgghhh! Another day of the year I’m supposed to put on a happy face yeah and be all grateful right?

Well, I hate birthdays. And this is because for over 20 years of my life I’m yet to figure the purpose of celebrating it.

Why do we celebrate birthdays anyway? To show we are thankful to have lived another 365 days? For Christ sake, Lord in heavens knows that I am every freaking day. And the essence of the cake! For what exactly? I mean I could eat cake whenever I want dammit!

Read- Birthday Depression: Why Birthdays Are So Hard

I always get jittery every freaking time it’s my birthday, so jittery that I almost didn’t want to put this shit up. Do you see how it messes with me? Like I wish the day could be erased off the calendar, I wish I could disappear from the earth just for the day so I don’t have to put on that cliche happy face while receiving your ‘well-wishes’.

Are you wondering why I hate birthdays? Birthdays are feigned. You can celebrate me any day of the year. The idea of wanting to be the first to wish me, composing beautiful notes which ideally you wouldn’t send me, receiving gifts from people who expect you to give back on their own big days, and those who wish you expecting you wish them back on their days too… the list is endless. What makes it a happy birthday at the end of the day?

Read: Why You Should say No even when its Convenient 

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I’m even bad at remembering birthdays. Rather I pretend to forget because I hate being fake. Don’t get me wrong, I acknowledge a few sincerely. But no matter how close you think we are, if I don’t feel it, I won’t wish you. And for all the times I sent a sorry text to have forgotten, I wasn’t sorry…we say what we need to say some times right?

Read: Am I the only one who hates phone calls?

Birthdays mess with me. It makes me wallow in a great degree of sober reflection without a  second of comic relief. While I am out here reckoning my achievements for a whole freaking year, some dingbat keeps buzzing my phone, asking where the party at. Arrrghhhhh!

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Sometimes do you just feel the need to say NO to someone’s request for a favor, not because it isn’t convenient for you but because you think they deserve to taste the other side of the coin at least once or twice to prevent abuse of certain privileges in the future.

Some friends have this polluted sense of belonging that no matter the level of boundaries one creates, it never applies to them. Well, I like to instill a shocker sometimes, not because they offended me at the moment, but because I don’t want them feeling they have the liberty of eating their cake and yet having it at will.

Read: How To Stop Saying Yes When You Want To Say No

Now watch it when you say no to these folks…as expected they are shocked. Some sort of shock that metamorphoses into silent anger. Before you say jack, they’ve gone all mute on you. There we go again,  some low key bad vibes. Awkwardness begins to play out and when you ask them why they’re tripping, they maintain that all is well. All for a simple no?

Read: How to Say No Without Ever Saying No
 Say No
How I say no smiling

Are they not the ones in your life who should understand more than anyone else and respect your decision without putting a force? So why the sudden friction in communication? Do you know that all the ‘YESes’ you‘ve ever granted them can never make up for this one time ‘NO’? You are automatically on their bad book.

READ: These Rules that Attack our Individuality

I practice the art of saying no sometimes to so-called loved ones. It’s one of the ways I test their genuinity. Saying no doesn’t make anyone a bad person, instead, it makes you a defined person and you don’t have to say no only when it’s an inconvenience, say no sometimes even when convenient, life is not a rose bed after all. Sometimes beat the grass to startle the snakes.

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I do not believe that destinies are fixed. I like to believe that God did not write just one straight jacket story about a person, instead, he gave room for instances, thereby allowing us to make our beds ourselves.

I like to believe that when God created us, he designated multiple storylines (scripts) to each person. For certain, we were designed to outlive one of the scripts better than the others. That’s the main script. The main script is usually tagged a person’s destiny because it reflects at least 80% of our existence. It doesn’t mean that God didn’t make room for other scripts in our lives. I call them ‘minor scripts’.  They serve as the backdrops of our lives and although they portray themselves sometimes, they are not as in charge as the main script. 

READ: Seeking Forgiveness can be Exhausting

For example, myself.  I presume God gave me different professions to choose from. He never said I must become a writer, but made provisions for Plan B, C, D or even E to choose from.  I believe he wrote different stories about me in different professions, he must have written a doctor script, tailor script, engineer script, etc. 

Asides professions, he must have written one, two or three scripts about me in different families, schools, countries, with different friends, relationships, etc. 

Another instance… You must have heard several ‘death-escape testimonies’, especially in church. In my opinion, they could have died but for the multiple scripts written. God could have written for instance… PLAN A “If Sandra’s journey is delayed by her sister, she won’t be met by an accident”.

PLAN B- “If she’s strong-headed and refuses to be delayed, she will get caught up in it”So you see, its a two-way street.

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A person is bemused about the right turn to take in their career because they have been living two or more scripts about the same rate.  If you doubt this then how come some people get perplexed about choosing the right career? If we were destined by God to follow through a certain path, then there should be no such thing as confusion. Some people actually don’t know where to pitch their tents because they got more than one talent like Writing, Tailoring, Graphics design, etc. Why  didn’t God give just a talent each? Why do we have to try multiple times before we know where we fit in? 

Sometimes we are confused because we are yet to decide which of the scripts to put in the forefront.

READ: There are Greater sins

But amid all scripts, God definitely has a favourite, little wonder when we pray for his direction he manifests himself, opening our eyes to what he wants. 

I don’t know if you relate? It was awkward writing this. This is one of the many weird thoughts that go on in my head. Have you thought about this before? Share with me in the comment section.