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I have a friend who is a videographer, recently she had a finished work shown to me and to be honest I was so impressed at the level she has attained with the skill.

You are really good Onyi. frankly I was unsure of how it would be but u did justice”. I said.

And she goes Hope it’s not flattery but please I’m taking the compliment”.

Why are we humans fashioned this way though? Why do we always look for what the other party is not saying?

You say to someone I miss you… And they go Hmmm are you sure? Or is it because you are bored you miss me”.

I won’t lie, I am also guilty of disconfirming compliments. I really don’t know how to stomach them, I either pretend like I didn’t hear you say so or I look for a way to sweet talk you into saying it repeatedly before I can believe you.

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Why ask “are you sure”?

Another instance is when we wrong a person so bad and they say “I forgive you”. 

The first thing we say is “Really! Are you sure?… I don’t believe you”  instead of first accepting that we have been forgiven.

Why do we keep looking for what the other person is not saying? Yes, I understand sometimes we know that the other person is lying, but should that be our worry? Perhaps we don’t trust ourselves enough to merit some compliments…perhaps we counter it immediately so we don’t come off as proud if we confidently affirm it.

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Or just maybe the problem is with ‘us’, maybe if we were in their shoes, we won’t mean that and so it creates some trust issues seeing another man beat us to our own game.