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Why are you not Crying?

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Why do you rethink letting down those tears? Is it because the offender is not worth it? Is it because you’ve heard the people say ‘Crying is for the weak’?

“Don’t let people see you bleed”… “Conceal your words”...yen yen yen. Not once! Not twice! But the umpteenth time have I seen and will I keep seeing similar texts bearing this message.

You are hurt. Its evident in your voice, your hands have activated that subtle vibration mode and your tongue fails you. Not even a word can be mustered. You know why? Its because it’s time for those tears to have an overflow, trickling down your cheeks. But No! You indulge in a battle of conserving tears because the folks said crying is for the weak.

Why are we so ashamed to cry in front of people?  No! I’m not about to give you one of those you look beautiful when you cry speech. 

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Diverse situations occur daily, some trigger an ocean of emotions. At this point I can’t move my lips, tears fill my eyes and my jaw becomes so heavy like a hen. Suddenly, I look at everyone around me, wondering if they will enjoy the feast my eyes are about to conduct. 

“Oh there! That’s my crush, does he deserve to see this at all”

“Oh No! My colleagues, will never forget today, they’ll probably reminisce anytime they are out of jokes”

Here I go, weighing my options, I guess it happens to you too.

Most times I excuse myself or hold the tears all up in my eyes until they become too heavy for my eyes to carry and then they run down forcefully. 

It could be embarrassing you know, and funny enough when someone asks me why I am crying, I deny it.

“Me? Cry? Naaa. Too much air had been let into my eyes that’s why you see tears”...such dumb lie!

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People have become so hardened that everyone who sheds tears in their presence is pretending. Since they have forgotten how to cry, why else should someone cry? I remember a sermon of a man of God where he said, “If you dont cry when some grave situations occur, cry that you couldn’t cry”.

Don’t shut people up when they are crying. Sometimes it’s the only and best way they can communicate how they feel. Allow people cry however they desire to express it.  If you must console, don’t try to shut them up, don’t laugh, don’t say to them it’s a sign of weakness. Maybe you can join in their cries too or a hug or bare silence could do the magic. 

If God knew we would be shy to let down those tears, he wouldn’t have put it there or given us eyes. In my opinion, God put tears in there so they can be seen and admired, connected with, be it tears of joy or sorrow.

Letting down tears has its own beauty. I admire the strength that comes with it. How are we comfortable to mock or hide such raw emotions? You might be ugly when you cry, but those emotions don’t care. All they crave is to have their way through tears, do we deprive them?

 

Note: I have no crush! I only ran out of lines there and I took a preference of getting into your head with those lines. Huh! You think I am lying right? Ok! You win😂😂

 

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I only cry when I watch a movie and something touching happens.

I don’t cry because I’m heartbroken or upset. I’m just not a crybaby.

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I cry… I remember the times I’ve cried in church so loud in my suit and dapper looks 😅 I’ve cried when I see a movie or something touching but often times, I try to hold it back in the face of some certain situations cos humans sometimes can be unfortunately complicated. I and my best friend even yesterday while we were chatting and exchanging voice notes about the things we’ve been through, tears followed at some point and I believe it’s normal for people to not cry too cos we’re all wired differently. . . What I don’t accept… Read more »

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I remember crying a couple times cos of love ooo 😒 me that’s always doing “hard girl hard girl”, I couldn’t control it… we’re humans first though and that’s it

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Dante

Nice piece. I was thirteen and the last child when i lost my mum…my family had to find all manners of tricky ways to break the news to me. When they did eventually, the where shocked at my reaction. It felt like a joke to me so I couldn’t cry and weep like the thought I should have I was just blank. it was years after her death that each time I missed her love and care I silently cried. Part of my actions then was driven by the fact that it was a sissy kinda thing to cry so… Read more »

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I have found that when someone is terminally sick, I cry my heart out due to the helplessness of the situation. But if they do die, my eyes become dry..I don’t know, maybe because of the ‘helplessness of the situation’ too. I am considered one of the most hardened people by folks close to me, mostly because when they are crying I am either smiling or eating food. ..yea, I also cry when I am really hungry. And if as I am gushing down a delicacy I’ve not had in a long while I also cry. When I watch some… Read more »

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Amaka

This post is everything, I mean! I had to own to the fact that I’m a cry baby and there is absolutely nothing I can do to change it, I mean why do I always have to pretend not to be hurt when I know I am, why do I have to always act so tough and strong so to avoid people calling me an emotional wreck or a weak person, yes I cry whenever I’m hurt, it shows I’m human and I’m allowed to break down. Tired of people always telling me crying is for the weak and blah.… Read more »

Kenneth
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A wise man once said “Pain demands to be felt” let it all out cos it helps