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Watching  multiple award winning actress Octavia Spencer play the role of Madam C J Walker in the movie ‘Self Made’ was everything and more than I expected. 

Spencer’s feisty personality first captured my attention in ‘Hidden Figures’ with her role as Dorothy Vaughn. Prior to watching Self Made, I had come across the fascinating story of  the late American entrepreneur, philanthropist, and political and social activist, Madam C. J. Walker, and hearing about a vivid recreation of her life built my excitement.

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Self Made sheds light on colorism and sexism. The movie kicks off with Madam Walker (Octavia Spencer) in a marketplace calling forth black women to hear her hair story, “Sisters, sisters! Let’s talk about hair. Hair can be freedom or bondage. The choice is yours.” 

Spencer portrayed the life and talent of late Madam C. J. Walker who was known as America’s first black female self-made millionaire. She was a hard worker who fought against prejudice. Once upon a timid laundry woman who always locked herself behind close doors because of how shabby her hair looked until a remedy came calling. She found a silver lining with the hair business and clinched to it.

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Just like how setbacks trigger great ideas, it was the same for Walker, she was ridiculed and told she wasn’t good enough, but rather than allow such derogatory words weigh her down, through consistency and hard work, she was able to build an empire and also became the first black female self made millionaire in America. 

The unique thing for Madam Walker’s move up the ladder was that she wasn’t just concerned about making more money for herself, but also wanted to empower more black women, create employment and also inculcate the entrepreneurship zeal to her daughter, A’lelia Walker played by Tiffany Haddish.

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Self Made paints a lucid picture of Madam C. J. Walker’s series of trials and setbacks which were enough to make her relent given the times but instead she was fierce, hardworking and commanded attention. She was the quintessence of a go getter who knew exactly what she wanted and achieved it.  

One of the quiet joys of watching this biographical story is the amazing cast which includes one of my favourite girls Tiffany Hadish and the handsome and talented  Blair Underwood. The duo did justice to their individual roles. 

Self Made no doubt is an inspiring watch. I’ll recommend it to everyone, especially entrepreneurs and Students. In all, Madam C.J. Walker’s vigour as an entrepreneur was well portrayed just as reflected in the historical. She was someone who could see beyond making sales as a creator, developing products to serve a purpose and a philanthropist whose good deeds should be never forgotten.

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There is a common saying that “to be forewarned is to be forearmed.” In saner climes, this saying means just the way it is but unfortunately in our own Nigeria, we need more practicality to the saying.

Covid-19 is a pandemic that affects the entire world. It’s fast spread is an imperative reason to adhere to the instructions about staying indoors because we do not know the best way to prevent ourselves from being susceptible to the ailment.

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Quite a number of States in Nigeria, through their respective governments, have instructed their subjects to practice ‘self-isolation or social-distancing’ for the next couple of weeks, so that the government can contain the spread of the Covid- 19 virus, but it appears that most of the words have fallen on deaf ears.

Recently, in Lagos State, everyone was instructed to stay away from public gatherings like churches, mosques, clubs and the likes, and the reason for this is for no other reason than the fact that people are more exposed to the ailment when they are in such gatherings. 

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What in God’s name is this manner of self-isolation/social distancing?
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One would think that complete adherence to the instruction will be upheld with the help of religious leaders but unfortunately, we find that even the so-called religious leaders are the ones still inviting their devotees to such public gatherings. 

The question is, “Is wisdom no longer profitable to direct?” or do we need extreme measures like those rumoured in Russia about lions let loose on the streets, waiting for unbending citizens to feast on?

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As rumoured in Russia

The Bible admonishes respect for authorities as seen in Romans 13:3 which says “For rulers are not a cause of fear for good behaviour, but for evil. Do you want to have no fear of authority? Do what is good and you will have praise from the same”

Also, Romans 13:12, says  “Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God, and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves”. 

Is it safe to say that at this critical time, the religious leaders are defying the provisions of the bible? To curb the spread of Covid-19, we are asked to remain indoors for our own safety, and religious leaders asking devotees to step out for sermons and services as usual only proves that they have no regard for God and his doctrines. Are they encouraging more deaths so that devotees can assume the title of martyrs because I don’t get it?

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Churches have resulted in lying to the media and meeting in secrecy.

Time after time, religious leaders have proven themselves to be demi-gods, going contrary to laws set in place by the government. Now that church gatherings are forbidden is it not time to fully utilize preaching via online media? I know a lot of you will say most churches have adopted that line, well speak for yourself! 

Churches have resulted in lying to the media and meeting in secrecy. Does this now mean that rather than value lives and the safety of humans, the Christian leaders are more interested in reaching out to their subjects for stipends that they would get from them? Or how best does one explain the under-utilization of online media platforms at this critical stage it should serve its purpose. Is wisdom no longer profitable to direct? Covid- 19 is real!!!

 

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It is often said that love is a beautiful thing. However, from time to time, we see that love, and sometimes a relationship is not a good thing.

It is normal to get attracted to a person after intimacy has been built over time, but what is to be said about an abusive relationship?

We all know how crazy it is when we have to get detached from someone that we have been attached to overtime. It feels like a journey to a dead-end which is unfair with life. An abusive relationship is no exception. 

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You don’t know except you have experienced it

One hit is enough to walk away from him or her, you think? In my opinion, I’ll say “You don’t know except you have experienced it”. Has it ever occurred to you why people come out years after to say their spouse abuses them? Why not early enough right? Especially the sort that is glaring that such a relationship is a no brainer for the victim? 

Love shared between two people is a beautiful thing but when it accompanies an unhealthy form of attachment, it becomes a relationship between a tormentor and its victim. While the abused lives in denial, the tormentor breeds mixed signals. 

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While the abused lives in denial, the tormentor breeds mixed signals.

The tormentor is sometimes cold, other times romantic and then on most occasions pounces on the victim like they are some rat that encroached their privacy. In all these, the abused feels that the relationship is healthy and too good to be left alone. By too good, they hold onto the memories of the good old days, and the mixed signals they are receiving. They resolve to blame games, with the thought of being the reason the abuser is that way. 

In a typical African setting, when the spotlight of abuse is in context, there is this idea of African women enduring abusive marriages, but the big question is, “When there is an option to leave an abusive relationship, why condone so much pain for so long?”

Read: Signs Of An Abusive Relationship 
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Until walking away becomes the only option

It’s really draining when one thinks about it. But the reason is, they love and are still in love. They hold on to the good old days with hopes that things will return as they were. Despite the bruises, burns, cuts and emotional torture, they are unwilling to walk away, except after a very long time.

If you ever come across someone abused, best believe they are not going to take your advice about walking away yet until walking away becomes the only option.

 

 

 

 

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I bet there is a wilful spirit that takes over us the moment we are warned to adhere strictly to a rule, we find ourselves trespassing. I cannot get myself to stop touching my face and lips and this started after getting sensitized about the coronavirus disease; my fingers have suddenly found themselves a new playground, MY FACE! Arrrghhhh!

I used to think incessant political news pissed me off but the COVID- 19 tumult really gets my goat. Barely would you look anywhere without getting a nudge that the virus is alive and well. I commend the whole sensitization especially on social media but then it seems like the thin line segregating ‘caution’ and ‘fear’ is being breached. I understand the statistics of infected persons move by an upward trajectory daily and we need to be informed but in all these, fear instead of caution has clinched the apex of the pyramid. The BC’s are getting scary daily, can I not receive anymore pleaseeeeee.

Are you also scared?  It’s almost as though I am starting to suffer the placebo effect of COVID-19. This moment I am sniffing, sometimes sneezing and then my nostrils drip. Somewhere at the back of my mind, I’m like “Covid is that you?” I bet my body knows I am scared so it seizes the moment to play tricks.

Not about to give you any inspirational talk about not being scared because I can assure you I won’t sound convincing. But since we’ve been asked to stay indoors to prevent widespread, I will just talk to you on the bright side of indulging it.

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Compulsory Leave and a Break from Smiling At Ugly Faces:

Brace up! You won’t be seeing some ugly faces like that of your boss for the next 14 days at least. Heard some bosses are still headstrong at granting the compulsory leave though but now is not the time to play Martin Luther, instead play the same card like the pussy cat that disappeared in our nursery rhyme. 

I assure you, within these 14 days, you will sleep and eat right, put on some weight and most importantly not have to fake greet ugly faces every morning (like your HR). Imagine 14 days free from the harassment of submitting weekly targets and reports, sweet right? 

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The bright sides of working from home

Unleash the Tik Tok/Thriller Demon: 

You promised your boss you’ll be working from home but there you are perfecting how to use Tik Tok and Thriller app.  Well if it will make you sit at home, I’m in full support. Twerk it girl! Flip the switch all you want but be rest assured baby is not coming to give you something new because ooo social distancing is no joke. But what happens after 14 days when you are asked to submit a report? Those videos better be the panacea.

Are you in Debts like Me?

Well if you are then it is good news. Here’s what I planned to do…at this point whoever you owe is scared of coming out to grab you by your chest. If they are bold enough to ask why they haven’t gotten any alert, blame it on sister Covid. And guess what, after the death of the virus, you can still buy more time to pay up. Tell them your boss has not been paying because there’s been no work. Hollop! I hope it is not a colleague you owe because the efficacy of this lie won’t see the light of the day.

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Why Are You Shouting?

I almost gave a man a hot knock on his head when I went to the bank yesterday. Nigga was making a call but he won’t keep his voice low, opened his mouth wide like he was about to render a national speech. Asides that it is a banking hall, COVID- 19 is real, keep your voice low or I shoot you. Although I read that the virus is unable to travel beyond one meter but I bet if he is a carrier, he will infect everyone because his voice carried the weight of a ballistic missile. Keep your voices low fam!

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The End of the Road:

In no time, I strongly believe it will be the end of the road for the virus, but right now we must do our best to secure this one life we got. Or you got spare? The sacrifices might be hard but they are doable. You see those battling the virus at the ICU were once like you and me, they probably said “Covid got nothing on me, I am always lucky,” But look where they are now.

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Do you still adhere to your unhygienic lifestyle? Have you been immersed in the ritual of washing your hands possibly twenty times a day? I won’t lie, that shit is difficult but right now the fear of COVID- 19 is the beginning of wisdom. As much as you’re treading with caution, do it right. Is your face mask dirty? Please do the needful by replacing otherwise your pursuit of protection might just be your doom.

There will be several parties to attend, more people to visit, lips to kiss and bodies to cuddle but right now, you have only one duty, SIT AT HOME!!!

A word enough for the wise. Special warning to my friends, if I heard you caught the virus, best believe I won’t visit you in the sick ward. If you survive, praise God, I will be glad to take up the title of a bad friend because I know you won’t hesitate to scream it. If sadly you die from the virus, then I will say my farewell from the confines of my home. Offended? Wait until I get to heaven then we can settle the rift, that’s if you make it there. A stubborn fly follows the corpse to the grave, SIT AT HOME!!!!

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Bored? SIT AT HOME!!!!

Perhaps I didn’t state enough of the bright sides of sitting at home, well you can help too. Asides from Netflix and Chill (which is the most common), how and most importantly why have you been holding up. Let’s engage in the comment section.

 

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I find it difficult to express excitement most times, and a lot of folks perceive it the wrong way. 

I am not the type who out of excitement would scream your name with a joy-filled smile, run a hundred miles just to give you a big hug because we haven’t seen each other in a long time. As a matter of fact, I have tried practicing this routine but my body won’t just cooperate. But does this mean I am not happy to see you? Of course not!

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Despite the face, still happy to see you.

It is a personality trait. I am sure there is a handful like me out there who find it difficult channeling the joy we feel in our hearts to our faces. By default, my facial expression is usually ‘Numb’ and the flip side is when I am eventually able to channel that smile from my heart to my face, folks see it as pretense because I hardly do so. “Wow! so you can smile?”…Hello! Of course, I can. If only they knew how much work I put in to make the smile come alive. I do not know who offended who or what happened but something tells me my heart and face are at war because they never enjoy working together. Tragic!

I also get a hard time showing my joy when I am given a gift. I love gifts, lowkey I expect a secret Santa blessing me with gifts every day but my face would always betray me. “Common baby smile, show you are grateful cause you really are”… this is me trying to cajole me into smiling. Most times if my face does not cooperate,  I force it, I force that scream even though while at it my conscience pricks me saying “You know this is not you, shouting is not your style”. To hell with my style! It is really important to show that I really love my gift and that I am not an ungrateful goat and of course I want more gifts.

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Me trying hard to smile to prove I’m not an ungrateful goat!

The world should cut people like me some slack, we are very happy people, trust us! Lack of smiles is just a deficiency on our path, maybe we will heal, maybe we never will. If I say a simple “Thank you”  to you and my face doesn’t accompany it with a fat smile, do not take it to heart. I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t mean it OK. Likewise, if you come visiting and my manner of welcome is not what you expect, it has nothing to do with you OK, I would not invite you if I didn’t want you around, capish? But hollop! This doesn’t give you the right to extend your welcome.

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Chart showing how excited I can be on a scale of 1 to 10

Some people call it a resting bitch face, oh well, at least it has a name, perhaps a cure to come soon. I talk about it sarcastically doesn’t mean I like it. It bothers me and makes me too aware of myself and that’s one thing I hate to be. Anyone like me out there? Do you struggle to smile? Does your face look like you’re in pain even when you are happy? When you smile, does it appear like that of a serial killer or psycho?

 

 

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“If I give you my all would you love me? Well, probably not because that goodbye kiss tasted like something that came out from the devil’s lips”. 

I once said to my heart, “take me back to my first heartbreak will you?” It said no, for the memory like the night, is dark and full of terrors. But guess what, without a hitch, renowned Nigerian poet and spoken word artist, Banji Coker, brought back those memories with his latest EP ‘If You See Me Liking A Girl, Shoot me!’

What can you say about your first heartbreak? For some, it was the death of a loved one, and some the disappearance of true love from their lives.

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Banji Coker’s ‘If You See Me Liking A Girl, Shoot Me’, capitalizes on the innocence of true love and the betrayal of love. He narrates his first heartbreak and the baggage it comes with. Is there a possibility of finding love again in the future? From his tone, we can see that the baggage is so heavy and it will take a lot of weight to pull it down. 

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The weight of love

The Life of A Broken Heart 

Especially if it’s your first, heartbreaks triggered by lost love takes a long time to get replenished and Coker’s EP hit these areas in a subtle but piercing manner. 

Look in retrospect, see through all the love you’ve entertained your whole life, there is always that one person who leaves you not only heartbroken but makes you question your esteem. Why did they go away? Was I not good enough? Who are they smiling with right now? Could I not have made her happy enough to stay?

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Because that goodbye kiss tasted like something that came out from the devil’s lips.

‘If You See Me Liking A Girl, Shoot Me’ paints Coker as a total failure at love and worst off, a rookie in getting over it. This is also the story of most of us who for every time we remember, a part of us dies. In his case, Coker cannot remember to forget the parting kiss.

He is hurt and desperately looking for a remedy. “…because I have been going around in cycles trying to figure out what exactly is the right thing to do…”

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How do Broken Hearts Heal?

Do broken hearts heal? Well, I can’t really say, maybe for some and that’s after a very long time. For the better half, it metamorphoses into a variety of phobia especially at finding love again.

Coker Voyages a web of delusion. He finds himself comparing a prospective love affair to his past, while unable to wake up to the reality that his lover has gone.

“With the little space between your teeth, you reminded me of someone I fail at forgetting. Then, with that awkward smile after, I knew you were a no go area”.

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With the little space between your teeth and that awkward smile, I knew you were a no go area.

Many of us walk the same path as Coker. One heartbreak and we shut the doors completely. If we let in, we don’t let in completely, paranoia becomes the other of the day. 

It’s always a tough one for our new significant other. They keep wondering where they have gone wrong and sometimes get their self-esteem trampled on in trying to love us. 

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Love yourself enough to heal first before taking a step with love again.

My Five Cents: Rebounds do not work. If you are not ready to love again then be like Coker, make it a no-go area. He said “…You would think we would be so in sync but then again I can’t forget my history. I owe my heart such responsibility.” Love yourself enough to heal first before taking a step with love again. 

Love is beautiful but never force a person to love you, if you see that they aren’t completely over their ex, allow them be. Don’t promise them love because you’ll end up nursing a baggage too heavy for your hands to carry.

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Love is beautiful but never force it.

Curtains Close

Even though love is preached as kind, patience, and sacrifice, you must also bear in mind that it is at every corner waiting to embarrass you if given the chance.

‘If You See Me Liking A Girl, Shoot Me’ is a nostalgic smudge for anyone who has experienced true love and heartbreak. 

Remember those nights when you had no one to call because explaining the situation does not do justice to how your entire being feels? 

Remember those days when you hoped your phone rang and it will be their name on display?

Did you forget so soon the times you couldn’t eat but the only strength running was used to power those tears that trickled down your cheek?

When explanations wont do justice…

Recall the times you fondled your pillow and ran your legs across the bed begging sleep to sweep you off your feet? But it won’t? 

Breathe! Solace is coming!!

If you remember all these or at least one, free your mind, allow Coker take you on this journey of love and hurt. Hearty Cheers to those who have healed. Breathe! for solace is coming for you too seeking healing.

Click here to listen to Coker’s ‘If You See Me Liking A Girl, Shoot Me’. For Deezer,  Click here!

 

Note: It’s a four-part EP. This review is for one part alone, an appetizer to make you long for the rest of it. I’ll await your feedback. 

 

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I like to go to a new environment with a clean slate. I am not a fan of having friends go to some particular environments with me or me having to familiarize myself with an old acquaintance in a new environment. I love it all brand new.

So I thought I got it all covered when I enrolled in a gym quite a distance from my house. It’s always been a good ride though, knowing you get to flow with people who don’t even know jack about you and you too knowing zilch about them.

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I responded with a fake smile and asked: “From who?”
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I have been enjoying the flow at the gym until recently when I found out a guy there happens to know one of my dad’s old workers (sacked). Being in tune with the character of the ex-worker, I tried not to familiarize myself with the guy in that area especially because I was trying to avoid gossip.

But can you imagine what happened today *hard face*… I was enjoying the moment digging deep on some heavy squats only for the guy to look me in the eye and say… “You! I heard that you are a silent killer.” Excuse you!!  Did you just say that to me? I queried in my mind.

To salvage the almost tensed up mood, I responded with a fake smile and asked: “From who?” He said I shouldn’t worry that he’s doing some investigations about me. Wow! I have never received such a stupid response from anyone in a long time. I leave the gym daily without thinking of you, but your case is different, you leave and investigate me on a daily right?

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All the while I kept on with the squats, all I could think of was that his source was…

I ignored him completely… O not completely per se,  all the while I kept on with the squats, all I could think of was that his source was none other than the recalcitrant ex-worker. It has to be him, such a loose who talks like he’s about to win a trophy for it.

Who knows what other information he must have fed the guy with. Imagine someone I haven’t had a well-rounded one-minute conversation with having the impression that I am a silent killer. So ridiculous.

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Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Hey Mutual! Take A Chill Pill

Mutual connections/friends freak me out. Do you know me from high school or college? Privileged to work in the same office? Take a chill pill.

The girl you knew in high school who used to wet the bed no longer does. Why narrate the tale to co-workers on how she was disgraced?

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What happens in high school stays in high school

The boy who was expelled in high school for having sex with a girl after night-prep is perhaps older and wiser now. Stop denting his name at work.

You will agree with me that our years in high school were the most adventurous formative stage of our childhood. We did much silly rubbish but thank God we are wiser now (I like to believe more than half of us are).

I get very unsteady anytime I bump into someone mutually connected in an unfamiliar environment especially the ones from high school. In split seconds my brain begins to joggle tons of questions. What is she doing here? Does she know anyone I know? I hope we don’t exchange numbers because I am not meeting up!

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Mutual gossip chain

 

Dear Seekers, Know This!

You are very wrong if you entertain tales like this. Yes, I understand some individuals enjoy feeding people’s heads with ideas about other people or with excavated past results, but some of you push for it. 

The moment you hear“I know this chic, we attended the same high school”, your antennas grow wings. “Oh really, what about her? Gist me o”, you keep bugging until you get what you want. 

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Be patient with nurturing the friendship.

Like hellooooo…!! If you feel the need to know someone better,  why meet them from another person’s point of view? Some of you even after meeting a new friend, instead of being patient with the person and nurturing the friendship,  you assume the role of undercover agents. You go about asking people/close parties questions like…“how is she”“how does she behave”“Is she seeing anyone?” and so many other irrelevant questions. Stop It!

 

 

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Last midnight, a friend called me, she sounded so frantic with her voice drowning in tears. She said her younger brother who relocated abroad sometime last year is likely to get deported back to Nigeria because of the possession of hard drugs. 

I tried to pacify her the best way I could, urging her to be optimistic, hopefully, he won’t be deported. But she went on with the grumblings and then, she uttered a statement that threw me off balance. “This is such a disgrace to my family, where do we begin?” 

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This is such a disgrace to my family, where do we begin?

“Wow!  Like where do you begin?  How? I don’t understand what you mean”, I queried. Then I asked her “Are you worried about disgrace or concerned for morality?” then viola! My beloved girlfriend went mute. 

Many times we are angry at bad behaviors exhibited by family members or friends for selfish reasons. We don’t even care about the moral implications of what happened, all we see is the disgrace brought upon us. We give no hoot about tracking the foundation of the problem, why they acted unrulily and if we can help them overcome the situation.

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“Don’t even think of disgracing this family, Don’t! If not I will disown you”

It’s typical, especially for African parents to nag their kids as a forewarning not to indulge in bad behavior. “Don’t even think of disgracing this family, Don’t! If not I will disown you”. Aren’t we supposed to analyze bad occurrences using morality as a yardstick? The truth is nobody plans to bring shame to their loved ones. Mistakes occur under circumstances we wish we can avert, but it’s unfortunate we can’t.

Nine out of ten parents will go bonkers on hearing the news that their teenage daughter is pregnant out of wedlock, or their teenage son impregnates a fellow teen. Their anger is usually centered on  “What will people say, how will they begin to view this family” Instead of “My son/daughter has gone wrong, how can I instill some morals so it doesn’t repeat itself”

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It is far more glorious to tell the defaulter the moral implication of what they have done.

It is far more glorious to tell the defaulter the moral implication of what they have done and going forward, how they can be better. The deed is done already. Feeling annoyed that your reputation has been trampled upon will only get the offender to move by without remorse and if they get the chance, they’ll do it again.

 

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When I came across the preview of “All The Bright Places” on Netflix, I was a bit skeptical because it rubbed off as one of those cliche mushy teenage-romance love stories. I had just returned from a chess training session and I needed to compliment my evening with some good movie and this one won’t stop staring at me. 

So I proceeded with the synopsis. The narrative seemed a bit different from the norm so I decided to give it a shot.

The Brett Haley’s direct follows closely the chronicles of its novel by Jennifer Niven which bears the same name, “All The Bright Places”. It unfolds the story of two young lovers, Theodore Finch, played by American actor Justice Smith and Violet Markey, played by Elle Fanning, famous for her portrayal as Aurora in the Maleficent film series. They both suffer from mental health illnesses caused by traumatic events.

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A novel by Jennifer Niven

Finch was on his daily morning run when he first met Violet who was standing on the edge of a bridge, looking down at the river and ready to jump off. He was able to talk her out of it eventually and going forward, relentlessly committed his time to help her see all the beautiful sides of life again.

Their short-lived love story was a beautiful one with incredible aesthetics and as they struggled with emotional and physical scars of their past, they discovered that even the smallest places and moments can mean something.

The narrative of  All The Bright Places climaxes when the underlying mental health struggles of Finch which he tries so hard to suppress starts to overwhelm him.  What does Violet do to salvage this situation? Can she save him from himself?

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Morals From All The Bright Places

The screenplay by Jennifer Niven and Liz Hannah had a tragic ending but I loved it.

Sometimes in life, there are no happy endings. It’s a reality we have to come to terms with in relation to the severity of mental health issues in the world today. 

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Can she save him from himself?

All The Bright Places made me realize that a person who is broken has the utmost urge to fix other people rather than himself/herself. People who live with overwhelming struggles like Finch are usually the ones with the most capacity for empathy because not only do they think helping others can distract them from their own struggles, they also know what it’s like to be on the other side.

It is for sure a phenomenal movie with a lot of amazing quotes. It definitely ranks as one of my favorite movies this year already and I would recommend it to avid readers who are drawn to not just something that offers entertainment value alone but something relatable and didactic.

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It’s okay to get lost as long as you find your way back.

Quotes to remember

“Sometimes you do not have to climb a mountain to stand on top of the world.”

“It’s okay to get lost as long as you find your way back”

“We do not remember days, we remember moments”.

 

 

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When I heard a movie rose to a crescendo by bagging four awards at the Oscars this year, I knew I needed to have that movie on my big screen, making a hit with my eyes and mind as well.

Parasite! Yes, that is it! the gut-twisting comedy thriller directed by  Bong Joon-ho tours the train of thought amid the poor and how desperate times can trigger disjointed measures. 

Mere taking the movie title for face value, one would think that its one of those alien invasions or virus movies, but it’s not. Like in plain terms, the word parasite refers to an organism that lives in or on an organism of another species (its host) and benefits by deriving nutrients at the other’s expense. Now relate this to the human setting.

Brief Plot

Co-written by Han Jin-won, Parasite is a film about two families, both a far cry away from each other in the social-economic sphere, the rich and the poor. The rich play a subliminal host and the poor in perfected deceit play the parasite. What happens when the parasite discovers there is another parasite feasting on its host? Will they cooperate or allow greed to finetune their fate?

The poor family are referred to as the Kim family. They comprise of the father Ki-taek, mother Chung-sook, daughter Ki-jung and son Ki-woo. The four struggle to make ends meet through a shallow paying part-time pizza box folders job done in their small apartment situated in the impoverished part of the city. 

Luck smiles on the son Ki-woo, who with the help of a friend is found worthy to tutor the rich, Mr and Mrs Parks daughter, Park Da-hye. To cut the long story short, he manipulates the home and paves way for the rest of his family members through ulterior and hoodwinking routes.  

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Pointers/ Lessons

As usual, no spoilers but more than enough pointers indicating why you should watch Parasite.

  • A Clear View of Capitalism: Parasite’s storyline goes beyond just telling a story for the sake of making a film. It’s brilliant narrative centers on the practice of capitalism in South Korean culture. It depicts the wealth gap and financial limitations in a clear-cut sensitive way that makes it relatable to anyone watching no matter where they hail from.
  • Being Poor Is Not A Prerequisite For Humility: Just like not all heroes wear capes, not every poor person you see is humble. If you think that because a poor man has nothing, he will be at your beck and call then you might need to watch your back. Yes, he might actually give his all to serve you just to get food on his table; his hidden intentions might be a bitter pill to swallow. A similar case is the Kim family, take a look at how without remorse, they eliminated everyone who stood in their way just to secure a premium spot in the Parks house. And the Parks couldn’t smell the coffee because they were blinded by their feign humility.
  • Greed Is Not A Financial Issue. It’s A Heart Issue: Familiar with the popular saying ‘When a man has money, his true colors start to show’, this resonates with Kim family. Their case can be likened to someone having a taste of honey from a jar which is not theirs and then not wanting anyone else to have a taste even if the owner of the jar would not mind. Kim family and the ex-house keeper Moon-gwang and her husband could have lived peacefully in the same house but they chose to indulge in a senseless fight which resulted in a tragedy. It just goes to show that greed is not a financial issue but a heart issue. Both families already have their minds polluted with greed that no matter the convenience they got, it will not be enough.

 

Conclusion

Parasite is a movie whose scenes stick in your head after watching it. It is a blend of laudable directing, exemplary story writing, skilled acting from the cast and astounding cinematography.

It won four awards at the 2020 Oscars for Best Picture, Best Director, Best Original Screenplay and Best International Feature Film. It also became the first South Korean film to receive an Academy Award for Best Picture. Its achievements are so many feathers in Bong Joon-ho’s cap.

You can’t afford bath breaks while watching Parasite because of its metaphorical written script, directing and production. You snooze, you lose! But that won’t happen because the intriguing scenes from stage one down to the surreal experience from the middle till the end will get you sunk in connection. In short, it’s a stroke of genius!

 

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