Mutterers Club

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The short film ‘Bayi’ by Diane Russet, Big Brother Naija’s 2019 housemate, paints a bleak picture of teenage brides in certain parts of Northern Nigeria. It is an accurate depiction of the life of most underaged girls who marry too early.

‘Bayi’ is a Hausa word that literally means ‘slaves’. Who are the slaves in this absorbing film? All the female characters are. Slavery is portrayed through their submissiveness or blind obedience, inaction and indifference and backed by a religious text that is often misinterpreted to support child marriage. The women are not just enslaved by their submissiveness, they are enslaved by a culture that objectifies women. Oppressed by a culture that visualizes them as sex objects and discard them whenever they’ve outlived their usefulness. 

‘Bayi’ tells the story of an orphaned girl, Fatima,  played by Diane Russet, who is tossed to the street after the tragic death of her family. She takes to begging to survive, and on one occasion, she begs a girl and her mother for food. She and the girl are fated to meet again.

Fatima is adopted by Atikah and taken to Kano. Unsure of how her husband, Mallam Nuhu, would react to her decision to take Fatima in, Atikah becomes edgy, but her nervousness gives way to relief when Nuhu assures her of his support since they are childless. Fatima settles into her new home and her adoptive mother dotes on her.

In a moment of emotional outpouring, Fatima narrates her ordeal to Atikah, who listens compassionately as tears well up in her eyes. She narrates how her village in Jos was raided and reduced to rubble by terrorists. Her family is killed and she is held captive for days until she escapes.

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Diane Russet also deserves some accolades: she nailed her role.

Jos, Plateau state, has been a flashpoint for sectarian violence for years. A situation that should’ve been nipped in the bud a long time ago still exists. The tit-for-tat attacks by the Muslim and Christian communities on each other have continued unabated. Fatima was a victim of one of such attacks and there are many more like her in today’s world. It got me thinking, what projects or amenities has the government put in place for Internally Displaced Persons during a religious crisis or terrorist attack?  It’s always some shabby infrastructure, little wonder why most of the survivors flee the IDP camps. The Government need can do better. 

Fatimah’s tale of woes strikes a chord with Atikah and moves her to tears. Visibly shaken and distraught, Fatima sobs while Atikah comforts her.

When Alhaji Danladi visits Nuru and he is told about Fatima’s situation, he proposes to marry her to relieve the Nuhus of the financial burden of taking care of her: a proposal that Nuhu initially rejects but later accepts.

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Arranged marriage is prevalent in Muslim communities in the North and it has been so since time immemorial. ‘Bayi’ brings to the front burner the prickly issue of arranged marriages involving underage girls. For religious reasons, the government has been reluctant to tackle the issue head-on. I can recall a bill proposing the age of consent for marriage to be 18 years and above was voted down because Muslim senators from the North claimed it would discriminate against Muslims.

Atikah tells Fatima that she is to be married off to Alhaji Danladi and she protests the decision and breaks down in tears. The scene made me realize how powerless women are in some parts of the North. This powerlessness stems from culture and religion. In Islam, a wife’s submissiveness is bountifully rewarded in heaven. This explains why Atikah can’t stand up to her husband’s decision even though she feels it is wrong.

Fatima’s marriage to Alhaji bears so much pain, abuse and emotional torture. Right from losing her virginity to birthing a stillborn and then complications which result in Vesicovaginal Fistula (VVF); she is stigmatized by Alhaji and her co-wives. She becomes a shadow of her former self. She loses her enthusiasm for life, and she sits all day and cries her eyes out.

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When Alhaji notices that Fatima can’t control her bladder movement, he finds her disgusting and marries a new wife, Barika. Fatima recognizes Barika as the girl who once gave her food in Nasarawa state when she was homeless. After Barika has a share of Alhaji’s torture, the girls abscond and are rescued and treated by Dr Yasmine and Dr Nabila. 

‘Bayi’ is not just a movie to entertain the senses, but an exposè of the woes in northern Nigeria. It is a call to action to stop underage marriages and a call on the government and NGOs to invest more on the girl child. There are a few NGOs dedicated to helping girls with Vesicovaginal Fistula. One of them is the Kano Fistula Foundation. It is supported by the Fistula Foundation California and the United Nations Population Fund ( UNPF). We need more of this especially in northern Nigeria.

Kudos to the actors and actresses for their stellar performance. Alhaji Danladi, played by Nathaniel King, is so real I’m tempted to think he is a paedophile in real life. He is a fantastic actor. Diane Russet also deserves some accolades: she nailed her role. Atikah, played by Tope Olowoniya was exceptionally good. She did justice to her role. Barika, played by Maryam Kayode, is one child actress I’d love to see more in movies. All the characters gave in their best.

‘Bayi’ although a short film is powerful in its delivery to mean much more than its visuals.  It is a worthwhile production.


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As we all know, the world is at a standstill due to the Coronavirus outbreak. It’s not been easy having to stay indoors, as a matter of fact, it’s been monotonous. So what best to do to quench the boredom? Movies!!!!

Scrolling through social media, a lot of people kept talking about the movie Miracle In Cell No. 7’. One thing everyone had in common was that it made them cry. Hmmm, will it make me cry too? Well, I wouldn’t know except I watched it.

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Miracle In Cell No. 7 is a heart-wrenching and amazing movie that opens our eyes to reality. Five elements play a significant role in its narrative, they include the following:

  • Innocence
  • Love
  • Misuse of Power
  • Wickedness
  • Compassion
  • Sacrifice

The 2019 Turkish movie which in a little space secured a spot among the top 10 trending movies had most of its scenes in prison. It kicked off on a witty note until it met it’s a turning point with the death of a Major General’s daughter, Seda. A carefree lass who missed her footing, hit her head and fell into a river. However unfortunate, Mehmet, a poor man with a cognitive disorder, without hesitation dived into the river to save her. As fate would have it, it was too late, the General and his clan clamped down on him and held him responsible for killing his child.

Tortured without mercy yet Mehmet holds on to his optimistic views about the world, just like his darling daughter Ova. His innocent spirit warms the heart of other inmates in the cell.

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Like the saying grieve brings out the best in people, the General got blinded by grief and will go at any length to see innocent Mehmet pay for his child’s carelessness. 

Miracle In Cell No. 7 mirrors the reality of the world. It navigates the oppression meted from the rich to the poor. It got me reflecting on our prisons and how many are like Mehmet, serving a jail term they are not guilty of.

Thank God for Mehmet who got vindicated via a sacrificial act done by a guilty stricken cell mate Aga who decides to die in his place.  Just when I think all hope is lost, the writer toys with my emotions and gives me that joyous moment I’ve been longing for; Mehmet’s freedom and his reunion with his daughter.

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I fell in love with the father-daughter relationship. Lingo Lingo! hehehehe

Another sweet touch of Miracle In Cell No. 7 is the relationship between Mehmet and Ova, the duo deserve tons of accolades. I fell in love with the father-daughter relationship. Lingo Lingo! hehehehe

And about the movie cutting onions, well it sure made my eyes watery and I couldn’t hold back. Like I said earlier, Miracle In Cell No. 7 is heart-wrenching and not for feeble minds. You’re gonna cry like a baby I promise. And if you don’t cry hmm… you definitely got a problem.


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Watching  multiple award winning actress Octavia Spencer play the role of Madam C J Walker in the movie ‘Self Made’ was everything and more than I expected. 

Spencer’s feisty personality first captured my attention in ‘Hidden Figures’ with her role as Dorothy Vaughn. Prior to watching Self Made, I had come across the fascinating story of  the late American entrepreneur, philanthropist, and political and social activist, Madam C. J. Walker, and hearing about a vivid recreation of her life built my excitement.

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Self Made sheds light on colorism and sexism. The movie kicks off with Madam Walker (Octavia Spencer) in a marketplace calling forth black women to hear her hair story, “Sisters, sisters! Let’s talk about hair. Hair can be freedom or bondage. The choice is yours.” 

Spencer portrayed the life and talent of late Madam C. J. Walker who was known as America’s first black female self-made millionaire. She was a hard worker who fought against prejudice. Once upon a timid laundry woman who always locked herself behind close doors because of how shabby her hair looked until a remedy came calling. She found a silver lining with the hair business and clinched to it.

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Just like how setbacks trigger great ideas, it was the same for Walker, she was ridiculed and told she wasn’t good enough, but rather than allow such derogatory words weigh her down, through consistency and hard work, she was able to build an empire and also became the first black female self made millionaire in America. 

The unique thing for Madam Walker’s move up the ladder was that she wasn’t just concerned about making more money for herself, but also wanted to empower more black women, create employment and also inculcate the entrepreneurship zeal to her daughter, A’lelia Walker played by Tiffany Haddish.

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Self Made paints a lucid picture of Madam C. J. Walker’s series of trials and setbacks which were enough to make her relent given the times but instead she was fierce, hardworking and commanded attention. She was the quintessence of a go getter who knew exactly what she wanted and achieved it.  

One of the quiet joys of watching this biographical story is the amazing cast which includes one of my favourite girls Tiffany Hadish and the handsome and talented  Blair Underwood. The duo did justice to their individual roles. 

Self Made no doubt is an inspiring watch. I’ll recommend it to everyone, especially entrepreneurs and Students. In all, Madam C.J. Walker’s vigour as an entrepreneur was well portrayed just as reflected in the historical. She was someone who could see beyond making sales as a creator, developing products to serve a purpose and a philanthropist whose good deeds should be never forgotten.

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There is a common saying that “to be forewarned is to be forearmed.” In saner climes, this saying means just the way it is but unfortunately in our own Nigeria, we need more practicality to the saying.

Covid-19 is a pandemic that affects the entire world. It’s fast spread is an imperative reason to adhere to the instructions about staying indoors because we do not know the best way to prevent ourselves from being susceptible to the ailment.

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Quite a number of States in Nigeria, through their respective governments, have instructed their subjects to practice ‘self-isolation or social-distancing’ for the next couple of weeks, so that the government can contain the spread of the Covid- 19 virus, but it appears that most of the words have fallen on deaf ears.

Recently, in Lagos State, everyone was instructed to stay away from public gatherings like churches, mosques, clubs and the likes, and the reason for this is for no other reason than the fact that people are more exposed to the ailment when they are in such gatherings. 

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What in God’s name is this manner of self-isolation/social distancing?
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One would think that complete adherence to the instruction will be upheld with the help of religious leaders but unfortunately, we find that even the so-called religious leaders are the ones still inviting their devotees to such public gatherings. 

The question is, “Is wisdom no longer profitable to direct?” or do we need extreme measures like those rumoured in Russia about lions let loose on the streets, waiting for unbending citizens to feast on?

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As rumoured in Russia

The Bible admonishes respect for authorities as seen in Romans 13:3 which says “For rulers are not a cause of fear for good behaviour, but for evil. Do you want to have no fear of authority? Do what is good and you will have praise from the same”

Also, Romans 13:12, says  “Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God, and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves”. 

Is it safe to say that at this critical time, the religious leaders are defying the provisions of the bible? To curb the spread of Covid-19, we are asked to remain indoors for our own safety, and religious leaders asking devotees to step out for sermons and services as usual only proves that they have no regard for God and his doctrines. Are they encouraging more deaths so that devotees can assume the title of martyrs because I don’t get it?

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Churches have resulted in lying to the media and meeting in secrecy.

Time after time, religious leaders have proven themselves to be demi-gods, going contrary to laws set in place by the government. Now that church gatherings are forbidden is it not time to fully utilize preaching via online media? I know a lot of you will say most churches have adopted that line, well speak for yourself! 

Churches have resulted in lying to the media and meeting in secrecy. Does this now mean that rather than value lives and the safety of humans, the Christian leaders are more interested in reaching out to their subjects for stipends that they would get from them? Or how best does one explain the under-utilization of online media platforms at this critical stage it should serve its purpose. Is wisdom no longer profitable to direct? Covid- 19 is real!!!


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It is often said that love is a beautiful thing. However, from time to time, we see that love, and sometimes a relationship is not a good thing.

It is normal to get attracted to a person after intimacy has been built over time, but what is to be said about an abusive relationship?

We all know how crazy it is when we have to get detached from someone that we have been attached to overtime. It feels like a journey to a dead-end which is unfair with life. An abusive relationship is no exception. 

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You don’t know except you have experienced it

One hit is enough to walk away from him or her, you think? In my opinion, I’ll say “You don’t know except you have experienced it”. Has it ever occurred to you why people come out years after to say their spouse abuses them? Why not early enough right? Especially the sort that is glaring that such a relationship is a no brainer for the victim? 

Love shared between two people is a beautiful thing but when it accompanies an unhealthy form of attachment, it becomes a relationship between a tormentor and its victim. While the abused lives in denial, the tormentor breeds mixed signals. 

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While the abused lives in denial, the tormentor breeds mixed signals.

The tormentor is sometimes cold, other times romantic and then on most occasions pounces on the victim like they are some rat that encroached their privacy. In all these, the abused feels that the relationship is healthy and too good to be left alone. By too good, they hold onto the memories of the good old days, and the mixed signals they are receiving. They resolve to blame games, with the thought of being the reason the abuser is that way. 

In a typical African setting, when the spotlight of abuse is in context, there is this idea of African women enduring abusive marriages, but the big question is, “When there is an option to leave an abusive relationship, why condone so much pain for so long?”

Read: Signs Of An Abusive Relationship 
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Until walking away becomes the only option

It’s really draining when one thinks about it. But the reason is, they love and are still in love. They hold on to the good old days with hopes that things will return as they were. Despite the bruises, burns, cuts and emotional torture, they are unwilling to walk away, except after a very long time.

If you ever come across someone abused, best believe they are not going to take your advice about walking away yet until walking away becomes the only option.





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When I came across the preview of “All The Bright Places” on Netflix, I was a bit skeptical because it rubbed off as one of those cliche mushy teenage-romance love stories. I had just returned from a chess training session and I needed to compliment my evening with some good movie and this one won’t stop staring at me. 

So I proceeded with the synopsis. The narrative seemed a bit different from the norm so I decided to give it a shot.

The Brett Haley’s direct follows closely the chronicles of its novel by Jennifer Niven which bears the same name, “All The Bright Places”. It unfolds the story of two young lovers, Theodore Finch, played by American actor Justice Smith and Violet Markey, played by Elle Fanning, famous for her portrayal as Aurora in the Maleficent film series. They both suffer from mental health illnesses caused by traumatic events.

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A novel by Jennifer Niven

Finch was on his daily morning run when he first met Violet who was standing on the edge of a bridge, looking down at the river and ready to jump off. He was able to talk her out of it eventually and going forward, relentlessly committed his time to help her see all the beautiful sides of life again.

Their short-lived love story was a beautiful one with incredible aesthetics and as they struggled with emotional and physical scars of their past, they discovered that even the smallest places and moments can mean something.

The narrative of  All The Bright Places climaxes when the underlying mental health struggles of Finch which he tries so hard to suppress starts to overwhelm him.  What does Violet do to salvage this situation? Can she save him from himself?

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Morals From All The Bright Places

The screenplay by Jennifer Niven and Liz Hannah had a tragic ending but I loved it.

Sometimes in life, there are no happy endings. It’s a reality we have to come to terms with in relation to the severity of mental health issues in the world today. 

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Can she save him from himself?

All The Bright Places made me realize that a person who is broken has the utmost urge to fix other people rather than himself/herself. People who live with overwhelming struggles like Finch are usually the ones with the most capacity for empathy because not only do they think helping others can distract them from their own struggles, they also know what it’s like to be on the other side.

It is for sure a phenomenal movie with a lot of amazing quotes. It definitely ranks as one of my favorite movies this year already and I would recommend it to avid readers who are drawn to not just something that offers entertainment value alone but something relatable and didactic.

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It’s okay to get lost as long as you find your way back.

Quotes to remember

“Sometimes you do not have to climb a mountain to stand on top of the world.”

“It’s okay to get lost as long as you find your way back”

“We do not remember days, we remember moments”.



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To commemorate the International Women’s Day celebration yesterday (March 8), more than a majority hopped on the #EachforEqual hashtag, even the ones ignorant about the true meaning.

While the #EachforEqual tag trended on social media, especially Twitter. What got my attention more was Wema Bank’s newsletter which blew some hot steam. A part of it read: “We want more doctorate degree holders whose fathers didn’t question educating a girl child because they fear he won’t uphold his last name anyway. Understandably, we want better. We want more. We want equal.” 

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The Deposit Money Bank concluded its letter with a triggering statement which read “But we are the mothers raising patriarchal sons, the bosses who make it difficult for female subordinates, and the friends who won’t speak up when male friends do wrong”

Below the belt? Well not for me. As a lady, the statement made me question the essence of feminism which preaches “equal right for both genders”. But the question is, do feminists actually want equality?

Famous for the #SexForGrades documentary, BBC reporter, Kiki Mordi took to Twitter and responded to Wema Banks newsletter. She tweeted; “So why are you funding the patriarchy? Until we take decisive actions to stop putting our very limited resources into businesses that refuse to be gender-sensitive, we will keep dancing around in circles. #BoycottWemaBank until they apologize to you. Your money is worth respect”

Before now, Kiki Mordi through several tweets and social projects has been tagged as an unapologetic feminist, little wonder why she was able to stir trouble from a supposed harmless tweet. It got me thinking “What exactly do feminist want, equality or superiority?”, I have to ask because the way they get easily triggered is so repulsive.

How do you pounce on a truthful text that reflects the reality of the society we live in? Is the truth that bitter? Women preach feminism yet can’t bear to see the other woman take a step higher than them.  Female bosses continue to make the workspace difficult like they are in a competition of bagging a trophy for the worst boss.

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You preach feminism when there are still women who indulge their male friends to cause harm or mock a female they don’t like. Like charity begins at home, morals should begin within the female circle first. If you don’t love the woman next to you, If you can’t tell her with confidence and smiles that her speech at the conference was brilliant, if you can’t tell her how gorgeous she looks in that dress, how do you preach feminism when your gender is broken?

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What exactly do feminist want, equality or superiority?

These women are seeking equality in certain areas whilst oblivious to the rest. If you are seeking equality, you should be able to pay the bills, fix the tyre, secure the house, etc but unfortunately, they only seek equality in the career and social sphere, neglecting the home.

These women seek to be the MD/CEO’s just like the men which are very impressive but what about other areas? I mean, your home!

These women seek to be the MD/CEO’s just like the men which are very impressive but what about other areas?

Referencing what Wema bank said, are mothers training their children to exercise equal rights in the home? Looking at various homes today, although modernized, it’s still the same setting. The boys are allowed to watch TV while the girls are mandated to be in the kitchen because one day they will be married. If equality for both genders will be a reality shouldn’t it like charity, begin at home?

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If we are going to hop on the #eachforequal trend then we must be able to fit into where the men fit into at all levels even paying the bills.

Are we training them to replace good morals with equality?

The truth is, we are created differently with different responsibilities. Even the Bible we reference sometimes does not put the female where the man is supposed to fit in.

As much as we want to be equal, We must not forget the future of the next generation. Are we training them to fight for equality to the detriment of embracing their own unique features? Are we training them to replace good morals with equality?  As we climb the career ladder, the home that forms a nation must never be neglected. #EachforEqual.

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I seem to relate with people who have an issue with praying often because I have been down that lane too. Reading last Sunday’s post ‘ To The One Who Doesn’t Pray Often, Maybe You Are Like Me Too’,  and also the reactions from a lot of people saying they are in the same shoes, I felt the urge to share my story on how I overcame a very inconsistent prayer life.

“I’m too tired to pray.”

“I don’t really have time.”

“I have to hurry to beat the traffic.” 

These are some of the popular reasons some of us raise as a barrier to praying often. How I dealt with the issue is quite simple and I’d suggest if you too can adopt it. 

You can adopt it too

The First Step

The first step is knowing who God is, and What he really wants for you as stated in John 3:16, 2 Cor 13:14. Then also knowing that there’s a devil whose Modus operandi has been clear from the beginning (John 10:10).

What does God really want?

One thing the devil enjoys is taking advantage of the Ignorance of Believers. God didn’t just send his Son Jesus Christ to die for our Sins; He sent him so that we can be in union with Him just as Jesus is in Union with Father God. (John 17:21)

God doesn’t have Bad desires for his children. He’s steadfast in his affection towards us and desires only the Best for Us. (Deu 7:9, 3 John 1:2)

The strategy is Isolation

The devil doesn’t play fair and all these reasons we all give as excuses for our lack of prayer are cool with Him. He already has you where he wants you. You have become like that Prey. He uses the same strategy the Lions use when they have a band of antelope; they scare them and just wait patiently for one to break out then they focus all their energy on that one. The strategy is Isolation. 

So Satan isolates you from Fellowship so that his plan to destroy you is Faster. 

A prayer less Christian is not a powerless Christian.
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What is Prayer? 

Prayer is fellowshipping with God in the Name of Jesus. Prayer is Communicating with God. 

It doesn’t have to be too long, five minutes of prayer with wholehearted devotion goes a long way in aligning you with God’s perfect will for your day especially if you’ve been baptized by the Holy Spirit. 

“A Prayerless Christian is a Powerless Christian”,  you might have heard this as well. But guess what it is not true. The essence of the quote is to stress the Importance of Praying. Power comes from the Holy Spirit (Acts 1:8)

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Create times to Communicate with God

So we can rephrase by saying “A Prayerless Christian is not an Effective Christian”.

So if you want to be effective in your work and other things you really want to do, I strongly suggest you create time to Communicate with God. 

Importance Of Meditation 

Let me take you through some scriptures that encouraged me to always meditate, they will be of help to you too…

Joshua  1:8– This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.  

1:9– Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.

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Staying your Mind

Isaiah  26:3- Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

If you’d meditate and stay your mind on God; You’d find that you enjoy rich times of Prayer before you head out for work and you’d realize that you’d be successful and confident in your Work. 

I find myself taking out 3-5 minutes while at work to pray as well. It can be quite contagious that once you start you may never want to stop. There’s nothing that’s too small or Big to talk to God about. 

Staying your mind…
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So the Ball is in your court now. God is willing. His arms are open wide just for You, what are you waiting for? Why not take a few minutes now to talk to him.

If you are reading this and you were able to overcome not praying often in ways different from mine or feel the need to buttress my points further, you can leave a comment too. You never know whose life you’ll touch.

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There is a common saying that love is a beautiful thing. While that may be true, there are days in our mundane world when we see ugly situations being affiliated with love, and then one is forced to think twice about what it is that is beautiful about love. But on a more serious note, is love really a beautiful thing?

Life, as we all know, is a game of fair and foul. What is foul to someone somewhere is actually fair to someone else, and there is really nothing that one can do about that.


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However, just recently, there was this trending video on twitter that got quite a number of reactions from a lot of people. It was a video of a married woman who went on to harass in public, a single lady who was actually enjoying her husband’s joystick.

Personally, my take on the video is, first it was wrong that the woman went all out to harass an unknown person, and from the married woman’s dressing, one can tell why the man had to cheat. A lot of women forget the energy that they invested into the relationship before they married their husbands. That energy goes into oblivion when they become wife, but life goes on, the man in the house would still be attracted to what he sees. Hence the reason to go outside to find what his eyes crave.

Side Chic vs Wife; A lot of women forget the energy that they invested into the relationship before they married their husbands.

A lot of people have been saying a lot of things about how wrong it is that a single sister would be sleeping with another woman’s husband, but I beg to differ a little. In life, we all want happiness, and no matter how small it is, we would do almost anything to have that happiness. It won’t be surprising to anyone that some trivial things would bring some people the greatest satisfaction.

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A married woman sometimes doesn’t know the value of what she has. If she does, she’ll do anything to keep it. A single sister, on the other hand, doesn’t have the kind of happiness that a married woman has most times. 

What’s a sister to do if all the happiness that she wants in the world is guaranteed her from a man who…

Some might say, some marriages are actually unhappy, but the truth is, even being married is a form of happiness, at least in Nigeria. We all know how hard it is these days to find a man that is willing to give you all of the attention that you want.

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What’s a sister to do if all the happiness that she wants in the world is guaranteed her from a man who is married and unsatisfied with his “grandma” wife? I hope you see the picture now?

Before you judge me though, all humans have to be selfish sometimes. Sometimes with love, and sometimes with what makes you happy.


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Sometimes when I see people’s opinion on marriage, love, infidelity and all that relates to a ‘union’, I often wonder how shallow-minded some can be.

So about the trending video on social media of a woman harassing her husband’s mistress in the mall. Well, I’m not dazed, every dick and harry had something to say as usual.

Before anything else, Why should anyone decide to have a romantic affair with a married person?  I really can’t wrap my head around this foul idea. It’s so foul, please!

First, imagine the pressure a lady gets from society to get married at a certain age, then she finds a man and realise they are compatible and fair to tie the knot. Suddenly after marriage, a different phase of pressure begins. She is forced to constantly trigger her sensual creativity to dance to his tune so he doesn’t look elsewhere. What idiocy!

Nobody has an idea what these married women go through to ensure sanity in their homes. They go through so much especially emotional trauma, imagine waking up every day knowing you have to always tame an idiot of a husband? Then from nowhere another woman comes in to ruin your marriage and some ignorant he-goat starts preaching to you on how best to react.

Why should anyone decide to have a romantic affair with a married person?

Mehn! They are allowed to react whichever way they want to. I saw a lot of comments inciting that instead of the side chic, she should exercise her wrath to her husband. Do you all know if she already did? Do you know how long she has been enduring his cheat game? Is it because there is no video evidence to that effect? 

We were able to see this side because there were eye-witnesses to record. How about the umpteenth time she woke him up in the middle of the night to talk and he didn’t budge? How about the nights she soaked her pillows in tears? How about the last conversation that broke the camels back?

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How about the nights she soaked her pillows in tears?

We react differently to different things. A lot of men are dogs and can they can never be satisfied,  they won’t stop chasing what is under the skirt. If only some women can learn to reject advances from married men though. Well, it takes a certain level of discipline and a good heart but unfortunately not every woman has that. 

Now to the dimwits saying he had every right to cheat on her because she looks every shade of unattractive, get this clear, If dress sense and looks were the bone of contention in marriages, the likes of Cardi B and even the almighty Queen B would not have been cheated on by their husbands, so please spare me. 

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Before you take off those clothes

There is no excuse for cheating. Love is not enough, it takes commitment too. If you are not committed to the one you affirm your love, then there is every possibility you are a full-blown cheat.  

While with the ‘other woman’, before you take off those clothes, the moment they hit the ground, before you reach for a kiss, your mind at these stages must have flashed you several images of your wife. At this moment you know you are about to cheat, if you don’t have the decency to wear your clothes and leave then you are the problem, not your wife! 

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