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Ever been met with a custodian of false historical? The one who seems to know everything about everyone in a place?

When we are in a new environment, could be a new area, job, school etc. There’s always a talebearer within; the one who poses to know about all and Sundry.

For instance, you got a new job, it’s only normal that you try to know everyone to a reasonable extent. In the process, you will notice that there’s this quietly or overtly notorious someone who seems to be getting pretty close to you😌.

The moment you give them a chance, boom! They begin to tell you about everyone in the workplace. They give you a history of all the staff that was sacked and why. They tell you about the boss, his/her work life and personal life. They tell you who to avoid and who is nice. They paint the flaws of the workplace in a terrible light and you begin to wonder why they are still working there😦.

Be careful! These ones have nothing good to say. They hold only false histories of people. They hate with no reservations and are on a mission to recruit more haters. You will be shocked when you find out the real reason behind their hate for certain individuals in the workplace. It could be that the someone refused to give them free lunch or corrected them once at something they did wrong… Very foolish reasons to hate.

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There is one in Every Work Environment

Just like we understand things differently, this is their own myopic understanding of the people. They dish out stories relentlessly until you buy their own understanding. It’s more like a soul-winning technique for them, they will stop at nothing until they get you on their side.

How ridiculous it is Yeah! These custodians of false historical are everywhere. Be careful not to fall into the temptation of hating who they hate, of understanding how they understand…Get to know people for you, meet them and learn about them from your own perspective. I understand gossip can be sweet😂😂, but please shun these ones as it will do you a whole lotta good✌.

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Why exactly are you kind to people? Why do you give even when you have little to spare? Is it because you feel it in your heart to do so or because you think about tomorrow… Perhaps you might be the one in the ‘needing’ shoes next time yeah?

A lot of people go out of their way to be kind, after contesting it severally in their mind, grumbling and all what not, they resolve to give notwithstanding. They give because majority gave, not like it was easy for them but because they heard words like “What if it’s you tomorrow… If you don’t give, in your time no one will give to you when you need help”.

I am not saying it is bad to give or lend a helping hand to someone in dire need, but do you feel it in your heart to do so? Are you doing it for the sake of you or for the fear of Karma? Some say “Give because it is the right thing to do, not because you feel it” but I beg to differ. You must feel it in your heart to give, otherwise, it’s hypocrisy.

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Do you believe in Karma?

I don’t believe in Karma! Karma is only a guilt-tripping mechanism. It registers in our consciousness and takes advantage of our true human nature. The constant thought of Karma will only exploit a man’s true behavior. Let me tell you, no matter how much of a good man or woman you are, if you need help tomorrow the world will not fall at your feet. Some will give, Some will rebel against giving you…that’s life! You are good doesn’t mean good things will forever follow you.

Read: Why You Should Say No Even When Its Convenient 

For someone like me, no matter how good or bad I know you are, I still wouldn’t lend a help except I feel it, and mind you, my feelings are not based on the fact that you are good or bad. Giving is an emotion, if I don’t feel it, I won’t give it.  If you have to inculcate giving or be selfish, do it because it’s how you truly feel. If you also desire the need to change behavior, do it for you and not because you want people to be kind in return.

If it’s true that good follows good, why then do we often ask why bad things happen to good people? What goes around doesn’t come around… The world is made of ‘good and bad’, everyone will have a taste of both sides.

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When she texted me saying she had just lost her dad, my reaction was although cliche but acceptable I bet.

“Wow! When did this happen… I am so sorry for your loss… How have you been holding up dear? Please accept my condolence “

But was this me? Was it how I wanted to react or how society taught me to? Society taught me this and also taught me not to ask the things I would have wanted to because I might come across as insensitive.

Read: Best RIP Messages 

How do you react to the news of death? I bet you are just like me who reacts in ways you are expected to and then you keep asking questions at the back of your mind…questions you would have loved the bereaved to answer for you but it’s very unfortunate you cannot ask.

When someone tells me they lost a loved one, I cannot help but ponder the gravity of fuzziness and distress that must be going on in their heads.

Read: Is Death An Open Sesame 

Do they feel their presence even though they are dead? Are they terrified to stay alone knowing that their ghost might appear like in the movies?

Were there any signs of death apart from the sickness that was noticeable? Were there any last words? Should I ask them how they truly feel?  Perhaps it wasn’t a loss for them but a relief? Should I ask them the real reason for their tears? Maybe they are mandated to cry after all!

I hate it whenever someone says during a funeral “Look at that one, she’s not even crying… She hasn’t cried the whole time”. For goodness sake! Is it now a cry competition? Do you know what’s in the heart?

Read: Death Of Loved Ones, Prior Gestures 

I haven’t lost anyone so close before, and I hope I don’t come across as insensitive. These are the thoughts that go on in my head. Don’t get me wrong, I sincerely give my condolence, but trust me there’s more to every condolence than meets the eyes. So much more I wish I could ask.

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The story of Samson in the Bible makes me imagine a whole lot.

What if there are certain things we must not indulge in but our lack of ignorance makes us susceptible and now we face several implications? But we think it’s just life!

I have come across some adults as well as little children who have never had a hair cut before, they wear this natural dread (Dada). I often ask why they decided to leave the hair so unkempt because truth be told, it usually is. The response I always get is “They said we shouldn’t put scissors on the hair?” This ritual is perculiar with the white garment churches. Before I usually laughed it off saying they wallowed in a fiasco disguised as a religion but lately I’ve been giving it an intense second thought.

Read: Do You Believe In Destiny or Multiple Storylines

I discussed this with a friend few days ago and from one talk to another, we started to reminisce on how innocent our minds were as kids up until our teenage years and what adulthood might have done to us. What happened to our natural innocence,  creativity and intelligence? Some activities we’ve indulged in at this phase of our lives might have contrived our talents.

This brings me to the question, “What if we are like the biblical Samson?”,  maybe we must have done something(s) we shouldn’t have? And our recurrent indulgence continues to weaken our prowess to perform as geniuses that we should be. As often said,  life is spiritual.

Read: Fallen Christains! They Had No Stand.
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Samson and Delilah

Although the world has a lot of frivolities in it, it doesn’t change the fact that life is spiritual. It could be that some of us are not supposed to ever take alcohol, cut our hair, eat a particular food, get married, leave outside a particular town, etc…

Read: 7 Things You Didn’t Learn About Samson in Sunday School

Some of us might be suffering from the repercussions of premarital sex but we don’t know!

Things happen daily that we cannot fathom, it might just be a result of our ignorance but we are so blind that we blame all our misadventures on life’s disability to be an all time rose bed.

While I agree on one hand that life is filled with ups and downs, I disagree on the other. We are only compelled to say so because we live our lives just like everyone else. We must understand that we are like different products here on earth, and you know products come with individual manuals,  if only we could follow ours down-the-line, life might just be a jar of honey.

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Dear Mutterers,  how do you all cope? First, my phone is always on ‘silent mode’ and as a matter of fact I hate ring tones, they freak me out and equally annoy me…bottom line, I hate taking calls!

The only time you will find my phone on ‘loud mode’ is if I am expecting a very important call may be from a delivery guy or my alarm. As soon as I am done,  it goes back to the norm.

God help me I forget to put it back on silent and it rings… OMG! first I freak out at the tone, then the second I just have an automatic mood swing that makes me lash out at the caller.

On most occasions, I don’t even answer my mobile, and then someone with three heads decides to give me more than 2 missed calls😤…what makes you think I’m not with my phone the whole time huh😲Am I the only one this happens to?

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This could have been a text or email!

I believe before you call a person, you should ask yourself ‘is this textable?’ Phone calls, in my opinion, are not meant for telling stories (gisting) but passing concise Information. If you must gist, you can send a text to meet up with the person.

I will choose to text over telephone calls anytime because it gives me the much needed time to think before sending out a reply, unlike phone calls which leave you with intermittent awkward silences all in the name of trying to be in sync with certain conversations.

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Imagine being deprived of something that is almost impossible to do without.
Bird Box‘! If you must survive then you must be ready to pluck those eyes out…but how come none of the characters taught it wise to do so, was there a ray of hope lurking somewhere?
The movie ‘Bird Box‘ is epiphanous.  As I watched I learned that life can change in split seconds. You leave home with the intention of returning back only to find yourself in another setting with strangers fighting a familiar enemy. Some strangers will be loving,  gullible,  weird, irrational, etc. different idiosyncrasies but a common goal which is ‘Survival’.
I liked that the importance of the lead character Malorie to stay alive was well depicted and that the subsequent deaths from other characters did not affect the vibe of the movie.
The lead character Malorie (Sandra Bullock) delineates in trait a quote from William Shakespeare’s drama ‘Hamlet’, ‘I must be cruel only to be kind’, this is Malorie. It is evident in her relationship with every character especially the kids’ Boy and Girl. She understands that kids can be easily carried away with too much play and can also get tricky with tantrums so she made her walls impregnable to the children because survival is paramount. The bedtime story told by Tom is gibberish to her. She needs the kids to live in the reality of what their lives have become. Imagine if she joins Tom in sweet-talking the kids? Imagine how spoilt they will be? It will only hinder survival. The way she stomached the death of Tom only goes to show how death can be basic in some situations.
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I also learned that no matter how unloving a woman can be with children, there’s always a special affection for her own child. You can tell Malorie had a softer spot for Boy even though she tries to hide it.
But wait a minute! How is the title even Bird Box? The birds didn’t play so much importance other than being able to detect the paranormal presence. If there was probably special protection only the birds could provide then I would have said the title is suitable, otherwise, it is not. I mean the blind people had a hall pass likewise the lunatics so why call it ‘Bird Box‘?
And for a movie that has a duration of more than two hours and a few seconds, not giving the audience an idea of what the evil force wanted or how they came to be is a NO for me. But I guess it’s all in a bid to become a nonpredictable movie Yeah? Still a NO for me.
Nonetheless, I will say Bird Box stood out from the usual horror movies we watch. It’s a good movie, very didactic. One you can recommend for a friend. But hollop! It’s not as good a movie to make me watch the umpteenth time.
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Why are most staff in an organization always wary of their boss children or relatives?

Most staff tend to judge the children of their bosses with the impressions given by their boss. They will often say ‘Avoid her, she’s just like her mother’ or ‘He is as mean as his dad, don’t mind that he’s laughing’.

Your boss’s child is genuinely laughing with you and instead of enjoying the time, you become insecure, you think he/she is trying to lure you into saying things so that they can tell their mom or dad. Well, sometimes it could be the case. Some can be conniving, but common laughter and a little chat are harmless and I’m sure you are wise enough to know what you shouldn’t say… Right?

Read: Gossip Is A Cheap Treat But…
Are you as wary as this goose?

If the boss is nice, we like their kids but otherwise, hell No! It shouldn’t be this way. Why do we forget so soon that these children have their own individuality?

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Let me ask you, are you entirely proud of your parent’s behaviour? I’m sure 90 per cent of you will say  NO. That’s the same way it is with these ones. Many of us are not proud of our parent’s behaviour if we have our way, we wouldn’t be associated with them in any measure. The least we want is to be judged in the same light.