My newly-wedded friend asked me a very pertinent question last week and pleaded I discuss it with you beautiful people.
She asked, “Why are people always eager to know the gender of a baby on receiving the news of a newly-born ?” she insists that it is wrong for a person to ask immediately if it is a baby boy or girl.
I am guilty of this and I bet the majority of us are. Well, my reason for asking is just mere curiosity. I feel it’s abnormal to tell a person you have just put to birth and they don’t inquire about the baby’s gender but go about rejoicing anyway.
The question ‘Is it a boy or girl?’ is linear. it’s a subconscious follow on hearing the news of a birth. Nothing serious for me though. Imagine you tell me you’ve just been delivered of a baby, and I didn’t ask what gender it is, won’t you feel like there’s something wrong about my head? Well, I will feel so if I were in your shoes.
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Again I ask so I can have an image to feed my mind with before I get to see the child, no ulterior motives intended, just a benign inquiry.
But trust me I understand my friend’s plight and I bet if you grew up in a typical African home, you can tell why she’s unhappy about the question.
Some people ask due to the cynical way their brain is wired. They applaud one sex as stronger and better than the other. They practically ask to know if to conserve their joy depending on what gender it is, especially when it’s the first child. Some believe certain sex must precede the other…sure you know what I am driving at.
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So over to you, why do you ask and then weighing the society at large, do you think majority enquire out of mere curiosity for gender or culture-oriented?
I believe there is nothing wrong in asking a new mother the gender of her baby. Some people ask so as to know the appropriate gift to buy for the baby. Others ask to satisfy their curiosity. My aunt once went to greet a new mom but she got carried away and forgot to ask about the baby’s gender. When she got back, We asked her what the baby’s sex was and she said she forgot to ask. We all thought it was weird. If not that we knew her, we would’ve thought she had an ulterior motive for her… Read more »
🤣🤣🤣 your aunt is the real MVP. Same here, I see nothing wrong in asking.
I actually don’t see any reason in asking. Though most persons ask for different reasons.
Same here. Welcome on board😎
I really do not see anything wrong in asking but I get why an expecting mom would raise an eyebrow when asked such a question.
Me that will be so dramatic when I’m doing gender reveal. You see that Oyibo standard that’s what I’m aiming for.
🤣🤣🤣 village people will still follow thorough whichever standard
I noticed I actually asked out of culture orientation with a sprinkle of curiosity. I stopped asking cos it almost shifts my focus from being grateful that a child is born…
When an epiphany hits!👌
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