Is Death an Open Sesame?

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If I were your friend and I make known my earnest needs to you, will you put your best foot forward in ensuring they are met?

How about this… If I were on my death bed and I said the things I wanted to follow after my death, my deathbed wishes, will you be kind enough to ensure they are met?

A lot of us will say a big ‘YES‘ to the second question and the first maybe 3 out of 10 persons will concede, although not likely.

So I’m thinking, perhaps death is an open sesame to get certain things done among the living?

I have a friend whose aunt died from childbirth complications. On her death bed, she said tons of things she wanted to be done after she’s gone. One very striking was this…

Wait! need I add that the baby survived. She instructed that her baby be groomed in the village. This was a woman who prior to her death, groomed her other kids in the city together with her husband, so what then is her intention?

Well as expected, the order is being executed as I write.

If she were alive and made such a decision for her baby, would there be no one to kick against it? Of course, tons of individuals will do. If she said she felt so strongly in her heart to do so, no one will believe. I for one will tag her ‘evil’ towards her child.

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A man cannot be more than what he was alive when dead

What makes the difference now that she is dead? Why do we take the words of a dying man strongly than the one who is alive?

Are there some things a dying man is privileged to see at his last hour that makes us obey his decisions? Or are we just scared of the unknown?

Someone is on their death bed and makes a list of how their burial rites should go, how they will love to be dressed in their coffin and a whole bunch of other stuff and you see family members running helter-skelter to ensure they are met. 


Has it ever occurred to you that they might have been speaking from a point of paranoia or mere wishful sayings? In my opinion, a man cannot be more than what he was alive, when dead. If you will revolt their wishes when alive, then you shouldn’t be afraid to do so when they are gone. 

I’m not sure it’s that deep, our fears are just engulfed around our heads. We have been subliminally subjected to show more respect to the things we cannot understand, the fear of the unknown, and that’s fine.

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2 years ago

Some people tend to hallucinate at the point of death, so their dying wish/wishes shouldn’t be taken seriously.

If a person’s dying wish won’t have an adverse effect on those he/she is leaving behind, there should be no qualms about honouring such a wish.

If I were the husband of the deceased who wanted her daughter brought up in the village, I do not mince words when I say I won’t let it happen.

2 years ago

I don’t even know who started that thing

I guess it’s the fear of the unknown that fuels our desire to carry out the wish of a dying man.

1 year ago
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Nobody wants to be hunted by a dead relative for not obeying their dying wish. We have heard plenty of stories where dead relatives were spotted roaming in other cities or even married and bearing new families. I guess we cannot say these things don’t exist. But then, if it has no adverse effect on the living and would not cost a fortune let me add, then no issues.

1 year ago

I used to know someone with that kind of experience but i have lost touch. Again one happened in my village. Till this day that burial spot scares the hell out of me.😀😀😀 Apparently she was hunting her siblings. They came back home organized a native doctor who dug up her grave. According to eye witnesses, she was incorruptible at the time. The native doctor performed some rituals and incantations, bound her with chains and re buried her. News was that she stopped visiting her siblings after that. Scarry one abi?😅😅

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