I have noticed people open up more about certain experiences when someone talks about theirs first… so I am going to recall an experience that got me stopped dead in tracks; so shocked and mum! You probably might have gone through something similar or have felt how I felt in an entirely different scenario.
It is a very short story. I have only told one person about it and maybe telling more people could be a good thing. It was during my first year in school, I was staying with my elder brother in the same house at Mushin, Lagos Nigeria. One particular night about some minutes past eight, I went out to get bread for dinner. I stepped out of the gate and was about to cross to the other side of the street but a bike was approaching in my direction so I decided to wait until it passed.
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The bike man approached with so much speed where I stood, reached out with one hand and gave my boobs a tough squeeze, and then continued speeding. I was shocked. He turned back and stared at me with a grin stoked up with mischief. ”You are mad!”… this was the best thing my weak voice could say.
I was really affected, I bought bread, and went home but I couldn’t eat because my appetite was long gone. I felt dirty and angry. I had already showered before I left home but I went back to the bathroom and spent close to ten minutes washing and scrubbing my body. The scene would not leave my head, it kept replaying over and over. I felt stupid for how I handled it. I should have pulled him off the bike. I should have thrown more insults at him. I should have picked up a stone or something… so many instances of what I could have done but what a shame, I did none of it.
My brother came back from work and noticed I was dull but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him. I just felt dirty, like his hand made an imprint on my boobs that could never fade. It was a shitty night for me. I made a decision of giving myself a 6 pm curfew for the rest of my stay with my brother to avoid madmen roaming the street.
It happened a long time ago and I have gotten over it. After that another happened, I was on a bike and one other idiot on a different bike reached out to slap my butt. These two incidents made me realize some people are just plain mad and I cannot be held responsible for how stupid they are.
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The funny thing is until writing this, I didn’t tell my close friends except one because of the fear of getting flogged with words. I wasn’t in the mood for the ‘If it were me’ talks and blah blah bullshit. Frankly, if I were in their shoes, I would scold whoever the same way and probably ask why the two madmen went scot-free without an injury in their left eye at least. But here we are, I did nothing. Knowing you did nothing hurts and sitting all by yourself with so many scenarios of what you could have done becomes a pang of regret that lives with you long enough.
Like I said earlier, You probably might have gone through something similar or have felt how I felt in an entirely different scenario, how did you handle it? Are you okay now?
You froze in shock because despite how stupid humans can be, you’ve never imagined a sane person would do any of those things to anyone. So you froze… And it is okay. I once saw a small girl in PH with boobs developed way over her age, carrying a tray filled with oranges. And one stupid motor park tout, being cheered by his friends, came and started squeezing her breasts like an old bicycle horn. She kept trying to get away without throwing down her oranges and that was difficult. So I approached him. My first thought was to kick… Read more »
I love this comment😂😂; well it’s obvious that people who answer Chibuzor always try to stand up for themselves and retaliate. Btw why are you moving about with Spanner? 🤣🤣🤣
Isn’t it amazing when you want to wreck havoc, and you look around..you’ll find just the right tools next to you? I was just returning from an installation and it was part of the tools I went with.
Wow.. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!!!!
Thank you for inspiring us. Keep being strong…and I also wish you Bubu’s sense of perception, to catch ’em before they catch you 🤗
Not against the morals in your story but please permit me to laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. The joy in your story is so contagious. Asides the sober reflection, I’m sure you had a sound sleep that night.
Imagine you did nothing. Lol 🤣🤣🤣
I understand her 💯. I’ve experienced this once and was too shocked to act immediately. These street men can be so irritating. And when I told my friends, they gave me a lecture on how I should have acted ‘fast’ and ‘sharp’.
I’m so sorry wana but not all men are dumb enough to do these irrational things but I’m sorry nonetheless. My name is kelvin
You were in a state of shock, so please don’t beat yourself about that, Any normal human being with functioning brains should know that it’s totally wrong to go about harassing people. I’ve almost been in a situation like that, I was in between lanes waiting for vehicles to clear off so I can cross the road, what saved me was that I could already see the smirk on the face of the bus driver and I knew he was about to get mischievous, meanwhile saliva was already forming in my mouth and when he tried to grab me, I… Read more »
Hahahahahahaha… This feels both sweet and disgusting at the same time
In other news, get them before they get you 🤣🤣🤣. No ‘Ewww’ or ‘Iyama’ from me, you did the best you could
We live in an abusive and sad environment. Issues like this should be brought up to social consciousness. Cause though we may know this happens, it’s not at the forefront of our minds sadly
You are right. While some of us find cases like this somewhat humorous, it doesn’t leave out the fact that it is a cause for alarm. Thank you 👏
Oh! I’ve been there. I know what that ‘state of shock’ is The regrets of being in that place at that time. The what I could have done differently or how I could have reacted.
Las las, we cannot beat ourselves too much. One of those life experiences
Yeah yeah. One of those times we have to dust ourselves and move on. 🥺
I know that feeling so well just reminds Plenty insults and slaps I should’ve dished out of which I’m right bout them.. but cos tinz happens for a reason u dono if God made you avoid that scenario just for whatever reason… sometimes I beat myself up for my mind not responding at a particular time… it happens shaa…
Despite the fact that I know everything happens for a reason, I still beat myself up anytime this shit happens. Phewww 🥺
I definitely have had this same Experience’…feels like it was a planned thing and we probably fell into the same hands… But mine was at Berger Sha… I remember the light brown bodycon vee neck top I was wearing…. It packed my breast so much that they looked like oranges from jand.. chai!! I wanted to also cross the road, that’s how the bike was coming at a fast speed and before I knew it…it was over😭😭😭… I froze and I didn’t know what to do…before I got out of my coma…they were long gone… O wished I had been… Read more »
Dear Mutterers… I just remembered one very awkward experience I had… I had buried it so much that I never ever want to think about it… I haven’t even been looking forward to sharing, moreso, I don’t think anyone would hear this and not build up a whole vibe of feelings.. Back to the matter, it was a beautiful Friday…we were wrapping up our episode of fast(redeem fast), and I was just really joyous about it especially because I had taken part in the whole thing…it wasn’t easy at all. I got to work really early as usual.. I was… Read more »
This is sad and it makes me wonder the sense of entitlement many elders have. How can you ask someone you dont know if they are mad simply because they called your attention to something you did wrong???
Glad you prayed over it, take him off your mind. Wishing him death is wont do anything for you, he doesn’t deserve a space in your memory. Sending love your way 🥰🥰