We know quite a number of people who at some point in their lives had a burning desire for certain qualities or drive especially Christianity, but now it is so unapparent in them.
An example; Do you know anyone who was seemingly a dedicated Christian in your eyes but has now turned a rebel against the church? We wonder what happened.
Characteristics/behavioral patterns have a way of rubbing in on different individuals. To some it comes in so strong, to another, it is mild(a little here and a little there).
As humans we admire certain characters in individuals, some of which we wish we could possess and so we work towards it, this is the case of many Christians.
A person who longs for closure with God can fall in love with the outward behavior of a Christian devotee they admire. Instead of developing their own unique style in knowing God, they take up the culture of mimicking the prayer patterns, church routines, mode of dressing and even mannerisms of the so-called ‘Christian’ they admire.
If you are just meeting this person for the first time, you will automatically think it’s their true character. Meanwhile, their own default character has been suppressed for this to reign, hoping that one day they get it right. In the long run, they either succeed in getting it right or go back to their default behavior.
I read a post on Instagram a few days ago about the height of hypocrisy in the church. I came across a striking comment from a lady. She said hypocrisy is the reason why she stopped attending church despite being a dedicated usher for three years. It is absurd to agree that hypocrisy took her away from the church. A big lie. She never had a strong footing with the church in the first place.
If hypocrisy was evident in her church, shouldn’t her love for God sustain her or at least make her change church instead of quitting completely? She is unarguably one of those very consistent churchgoers but then ambivalent at heart. She only tried to look the part all those years, hoping to become like it someday and when it didn’t work at the estimated time, she found a trigger and clenched unto it; an excuse to pamper her long preconceived deviation.
We shouldn’t freak out when we see a deviation in character from an individual. That individual has been battling so hard to take a stand just like the lady in question. We all go through the ‘Fake it till you make it or fake it till you can’t take it any longer phase’. It takes a lot of hard work to be consistent in character.
If you truly have a stand on something, nothing can change that for you; you can only evolve in it. Having a stand is a belief system that keeps us going. Someone can battle with taking a stand for years, you see them and think they actually got it but it’s only a facade…when they deviate, do not question, just remember that they are the ‘fallen Christians‘.