When it comes to topics that are affiliated with domestic violence, many of us would rather imagine in our heads about a scene where a man is seen hitting a woman. I guess it is a line of thought that follows the societal belief that women are weaker.
Many people have even concluded that it is never possible for a woman to abuse a man, and in light of this, a recent law was enacted in Nigeria, it was a law enacted to protect women from abuse, but this leaves us with one or two rhetorical questions, “Don’t men also get abused? Why is there no enabling law in Nigeria to protect men who get abused by their supposed wives?”
Let’s keep that aside a little bit. Much recently, there was the case of Amber Heard, an ex-wife of one of our popular on-screen faces- Johnny Depp.
The defamation case between the formerly married individuals has left us with a lot of comments by fans of the duo. While so many were expecting to simply read up about the defamation of character, it became almost like a joker when audio tapes began to emerge. Lo and Behold, it was indeed a woman abusing her man. Sounds like a tall tale right?
The bigger question now is, “is it ever possible that a woman abuses a man?” The truth is that there are women who are physically stronger than the men in their lives. Yes, love is supposed to be all mushy, but on some bad days, it is very likely that such stronger women might decide to go all physical. In such a case, the man wouldn’t be a worthy match.
The Amber Heard’s case has led to a wide range of reactions, and from those reactions, we have been able to deduce that it is possible for women to also abuse the men in their lives.
What then should a man do when he is consistently abused by his own wife like Johnny Depp? If the man decides to hit her back in a bid to defend himself, does that make him an abuser? Or just another act done in self-defence?
Even more, we all know that within the Nigerian context, men speaking about an abuse seems more or less like countering their ego. It makes them look as if they are weak in the eyes of the society, and yes, a lot of people would laugh it off too.
Recently, there was the Maryam Sanda’s case, a woman who stabbed her own husband to death, that case related to us how possible it is for some women to do the unthinkable.
How many men have to die before the average man realizes that speaking up sometimes is better than dying in silence?
Men are also a part of the society, but when would those abused men amongst us begin to speak up about the violence done to them by their spouses? Or is it another case of men enduring the hurts just to preserve their ego? How many more walk in the same shoes as Johnny Depp?