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It’s Humbling… You Are Never Prepared…

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Shit!! I hate to admit it but my ex is the most interesting person I talk to. Well, what’s there to hate?? He was first my friend before we dated…then we metamorphosed to exes. And now we’re back as friends 🤗. 

With us, it’s usually a ‘call this person at your own risk’… Calling Obie means all other activities on hold because it’s always a long-ride conversation.  Nah, not some love talks about trying to rekindle a fire that’s lost. I like to believe we’ve found our true fire, a fire that’s forged from a telepathic adventure of knowing so well about each other and knowing what’s uniquely best for each other. Obie is an ingenious young man, talking is really not cheap with him.

I once suggested we turned our conversations to a podcast as they’re very enlightening (folks on Naked Minds can relate) but then there’s every chance it’ll get diluted per the camera effect.

humbling experience

But I’ll be sharing one with you today. Obie sent me a voice note, detailing his most humbling experiences in life. A humbling experience in my opinion is one that makes you realize that the other side of the coin you less cherish can knock you off in split seconds and there’s really nothing you can do. It’s one that opens your eyes to actual realities about yourself and others. It makes you understand that it’s okay to not be seen as important as you think you are. Things will not always go your way no matter how in charge you perceive yourself.  Sometimes, a humbling experience can involve a life on the line.

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When push comes to shove, there are lessons to learn. Following is a transcribed VN of Obie’s humbling experiences. I’m sharing this with hopes that it triggers your memory to recall yours and importantly the lessons.

humbling experience

The Squid Game Evoked Weed Nightmare 

So Uju yeah,  I was relaxing and watching Squid Game and there’s this episode I just saw which was like a win-or-die game and people had to choose partners. Some died, some made sacrifices and you could see people with good intentions trying to trick their teammates just to survive. It was crazy because I could imagine their fears which kind of made me think like “What was one of the scariest moments of my life?” I think maybe it’s something else, I don’t know… but the surface level is when we were dating and we had that whole weed and I mixed all those drugs and we cooked it in the indomie and you were overreacting…Jesus Christ…*deep sigh*

I don’t think I’ve ever experienced something like that in my life, I don’t know whether it’s because for my own part, I was equally very high or I was scared as fuck mehn… Jesus Christ! I was scared, I was like “what’s up with this girl?!” You were in fact mad, you were speaking in tongues, you were doing all kinds of things, I was like “this is crazy!”. I remember how I had to call my secondary school biology teacher, who was like my best friend, to tell him what I had done and ask what I could do… phew!! 😓

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You were running around knocking on people’s gates, I was like “God what have I done!?”  And then I was so high and what was coming to my mind were these Nollywood movies where people do shit and the next thing their girlfriend ends up dying. Omoo I was scared😭. 

Also, that was the most jealous moment in our relationship because you then called this Uche guy and were resting your head on his legs and to think that I’ve always looked at that guy with suspicion all the times you both flunted the whole ‘bestie bestie’ tag. And then in your scariest and most vulnerable moment you run to him, placed your head on his legs and you didn’t even allow me to come close and I was so fucking jealous.

Read: Weed killed me on our First Date… An Unforgettable Experience

Maybe because I was high too, but then I don’t trust guys so when I start seeing guys flocking, I’m like “who the fuck is this guy!?” But I used to hide that part from you. Mehn that night was crazy, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that kind of thing in my life.humbling experience

Obie’s Response to the chat:

You saying you wish we handled it better, mehn… that’s not how I see it. The way I actually see it is so far no life was lost and no serious damage was done, it’s okay for me.

It’s not like I want to relive the experience but I just cherish it so much because it’s something I look back on and smile about. I don’t hate the experience because it has happened. I can’t hate what I can’t change so I just have to value it.  I value humbling experiences. This one reminds me that in this life ehn omoo, anything can happen. It also reminds me of the time in my life when something was happening and I can’t believe I was that scared and that someone was probably going to die, and I was so confused and extremely high. 

Read: A Tormenting Ride You Wish You Could Quit

The whole process of trying to find a solution in the middle of the night, trying to call my biology teacher friend, and all of that doesn’t make me sad. I mean, it humbles me. Like it’s just the kind of thing I’ll want to think of when I am acting out or I’m being crazy. It just helps me hold on to the fact that anyone can lose control at any time including myself. The lesson actually helps me act more responsibly. It’s not something to feel bad about. I don’t feel bad about it at all. It’s just different. 

worrisome humbling experience

No One Is Super Human

So another humbling experience is something I always reflect on. I don’t know if I’ve told you before, one time I was coming back from work and it was crazy because I was supposed to go back home with my colleague. Usually, we go home together, it was either he drove or I did. So this time around I had lost my patience, he’s our head accountant and that day he was busy balancing the figures late so I just left him and proceeded to Lekki to just go home on my own. 

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You know how you can be in Lekki and flag down private cars going your way, so I stood waiting. I had waited for almost an hour, no vehicle came. So it was just a second option to go back to the office, but you know how you feel reluctant when you’re going back to where you just came back from, so I kind of just moved out of the road to another spot. I still felt reluctant but gradually walking back and looking at the road slightly. 

worrisome humbling experience

It was barely two minutes, and before I could say jack, a bus had run across and cleared the two people that stood by my side initially. Jeez! I was at that spot before, God! I was in shock. One of the victims, the guy still had the tyre compressing his chest and the victim girl was under the vehicle. Immediately people gathered, screaming “Hey hey hey… see the driver o”, alerting those close by to catch the driver. Everyone was concentrating on the driver and from where I stood I saw that there were people that were going to die. And I’m thinking “Why’s everyone going after the driver!? Is that what’s important? Can’t they see the people that are almost dying?” 

A few weeks before, I had just lost a phone, so I was also being conscious of my properties but immediately my instincts started to work. I put my phone in my bag and placed it in a location where my left eye can always find it. 

rescuing accident victim humbling experience

There’s this brewing hysteria, people just trying to save and not save, people trying to be busy, busy doing nothing, and most of them going after the driver as that’s the easy target because nobody really knows how to handle an emergency. I and a group of men try to lift the vehicle up to rescue the guy who had the tyre pressing on him. We succeeded but I could see the guy was dying. About two people tried to resuscitate him with CPR, I stood watching, believing they knew what they were doing but shortly, I could see that the guy was not coming alive and then it dawned on me the CPR had gone on for too long. 

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A lot of people don’t know what to do next after CPR so immediately my instincts said “look, step in!” More people had started to gather, the LCC and the police too. When you don’t witness an accident, it’s easier to safeguard, even if you go close, you really would not want to help most times because you don’t know how it started. Also that feeling that the people already there are in control comes to play. I felt a lot of people who came felt this way, it yielded an unhelpful crowd, I got pissed at the people bringing out their phones to video and then one woman who knelt down to pray. Like what the hell are you praying for?? I reached out to one of the LCC representatives about their protocol and asked if they could call their medical unit and tell you what, he was totally clueless, but not as clueless as the policeman I asked same. 

CPR Guide-- Humbling experience

Omoo it dawned on me that I needed to act “look we can’t continue to do this, let’s take this guy to the hospital!” I said to the group beside me and of all suggestions to give, one of them said “call 911”. WTF are you calling 911 for? This is Lekki for God’s sake!! Lekki has tons of hospitals, why don’t we just go into any of them?

Shortly after, I observed people checking out of the area stylishly. It’s understandable, no one wants to get involved in anything that looks technical. So I start to carry the victim alongside one other guy who held him from the leg and we started to move towards the gate. I got perplexed the moment I realized I had no car, “What am I doing? What’s my next move?” I get lost in my thoughts for like five seconds and the guy carrying the victim with me looks at me, it was a look of confidence drifting. One of those moments when you know that someone is sure of what they’re doing and you bank on their confidence but the moment they lose that confidence you’re like what’s up? Immediately he sensed my confusion, he left me with the victim and walked away. 

humbling experience

I was left with a dying man, I looked at his legs, blood all over with no one to carry the other part of him. I was going to leave but then I looked at how helpless he laid. You know when you see someone alive and can tell they want to say something but they can’t  talk. For some reason I stared at his eyes, and the only thing his eyes could say was “HELP”...numb eyes yet they screamed at me. I felt a deeper connection at that point. I looked away and saw about three guys passing by, they looked interested in helping but then needed a push. So immediately I beckoned on them for help, two of them carried the victim, and then I instructed the third to stop a van. Long story short, we were able to rush the victim to the hospital. The next day I went to check up on him and the nurse informed me that he’s been transferred to Igbogbi hospital. She also thanked me for saving his life.

humbling experience

What’s humbling whenever I reflect on this experience is that we are all humans. All these people working in offices, carrying their chest up and acting like they have a solution equally have moments they don’t know what they are doing. Imagine that whole crowd, nobody knew what they were doing. Had it been I didn’t take charge, it’s very likely that the victim would have died. It’s crazy. Sometimes we just have to cut people some slack because omooo it’s not every time we can have things completely figured out. The way I’m human is the same way the other person is. Nobody is superhuman.

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Like I wrote earlier, I’m sharing Obie’s experience with the hope that it triggers your memory to recall your own humbling experience and importantly, the lessons. I really appreciate it if you shared yours in the comment section and perhaps any reservations you have about Obie’s. And tell you what, I’ll be sharing mine too. So leggo 🤗👇

 

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Fried yam
Fried yam
1 month ago

Weed can mess you up. I am glad you didn’t sleep for a lot of days. I also hope you feel better

Zhee
Zhee
1 month ago

Yeaaaa, family is everything… It also took me time to realize, buh I did realize finally… Family will always stay and do more than they actually can do.

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago

I know right, family is everything 😓. Sending you all the love admin, please be strong, we wouldn’t want to be deprived of good stories. I love you ❤

Fried yam
Fried yam
1 month ago

My first humbling experience is when I failed my first jamb. Yeah I know, that might be common feeling. Prior to the exam though, I had this grandiose feeling that I was the smartest, holiest person within a twenty kilometer radius. How wrong was I? My exam score was so bad that I couldn’t talk about it for days.i eventually bounced back and did extremely well but I never felt like I was one special breed, instead I felt humbled. The other one was when my dad died. I watched him literally give up the ghost. One minute he was… Read more »

Fried yam
Fried yam
1 month ago

Your brother is one smart man. Loll. Yes, birds of a feather 🤣🤣🤣

Oelumy
Oelumy
1 month ago

Everything I’ve read from this story and this particular comments from you both has literally happened to me too one way or the other but my dad is still alive we just don’t have that father son relationship… I see life as a lesson a big one for all, there are numerous things I’d like to share as a story too.

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  Fried yam

I am not sure anyone has the worst jamb result like me. No way. I still think its an error 😂😂

King
King
1 month ago

Whao, saving is a soul is a big deal and emotional too. Reading how it happened brought me to near tears (I’m such an emotional guy anyway), I thank God for spearing his life and he is responsible and grateful enough to help the victim; infact the guy deserves a come back, Uju😜. …and so your experience, it is funny, I’m sure you shares the story before, It’s part of growing up. It made me remember a funny experience I had with a lady, my ex, if I may call her that. It was a scary and funny experience (I… Read more »

Fried yam
Fried yam
1 month ago
Reply to  King

Yhh thank God the person survived

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  King

Tell us oooooo, Muttering Minds is the only platform where kiss and tell is allowed. Abi admin? 😂😂😂

King
King
1 month ago

I know you nah, why won’t you agree?

King
King
1 month ago
Reply to  Mirabella

okay, I will tell only you the whole, but don’t tell Uju o. In 2012, a lady called me, she introduced herself as a friend I met on the Island, we exchanged contacts, but I knew she was lying but I played along. Her name is Kehinde. I checked her dp and this babe is super beautiful, not talk, not fat and not too short; she is my perfect spec, I couldn’t have allowed such beauty to go like that. I didn’t mind she lied, we would settle that later. So, we planned to see after few days, she was… Read more »

King
King
1 month ago

Well, she fainted as a result of overstimulation.
She was seriously vibrating while I was eating her, her brain couldn’t bear it again, so she shutdown.

Some ladies can’t actually stand a level of stimulation around their G-Spot; they stop you immediately, that was the cause of the problem.

Unfortunately, she didn’t stop me and I was enjoying seeing her vibrate until I overdid it😀

Naomi
Naomi
1 month ago

This is alot to take in to be honest . I don’t think I have been in such a situation before tho , I really do not hope to be . I’ll have to commend obie for his courage cos mhen it takes alot of courage to do that .

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  Naomi

Lucky you o

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Well, I can’t seem to remember any humbling story at the moment…maybe, it’s because they are too much for me to remember one in particular. What I’m more concern in this post is what you wrote last, which is the importance of family. People tend to say all manner of craps about family, these days especially young folks! They belittle it like it is nothing, when it is actually the most important unit in the community. Family is everything, as in, everything…we should be very careful of people who don’t value family, they mostly won’t be able to value meaningful… Read more »

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

My pleasure!

I’m happy, you know see the importance of family. These generation is gradually degrading family, that’s why people can’t do anything without caring about the family, the quest for money and this freedom nonsense advocacy too has not helped at all. It is why, single parenting is “making waves too”.

We really need to start talking about about the importance of family, before it gets really worst.

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Unfortunately you are right about that, and the cycle just continue…

This is one of the few reasons why, we must look beyond sex, beauty and money when thinking about going into a marriage that, children will come in.

Those that have good family, but still degrade the family because of the family’s financial status, or because of some fantasy they fail to make the family understand…those ones are my problem gan gan. The way they talk down on family pisses me off.

Last edited 1 month ago by dosbambi
Caius
Caius
1 month ago

Interesting story, I’ve had such experiences in the past but the weed story triggered a memory. Mine is not about weed but sex, the memory about the whole incident now makes me smile. So I’m 191cm in height and an ectomorph, I bet you know what they say about the sexual prowess of slim tall guys who smoke weed. There was this girl that was giving me signals and vibes back then when I was still a youth corper in Delta, she comes around and we kiss but she never allowed me have sex with her because she wanted a… Read more »

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  Caius

Omo x 1billion 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Nkechi
Nkechi
1 month ago

I think mine would be when i was traveling to meet up a lover and no one knew where I was heading and stuffs like that so anything that happened on that journey na me sabi 😂…. It was such a far distance and the bus left late,the driver was so slow and then along the way the car broke down again mehn I was all sorts of agitated,along the way there was an accident and to cut the long story short I was just glad to be alive 😂😂😂 cos na who Deh alive Deh go see man biko….the… Read more »

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  Nkechi

The power of big gbola 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Debbie
Debbie
1 month ago

The humbling nd scary experience I had happened Dec 2019 after my POP in October dat same year…. I just woke up that day den I had stomach pain,it was so severe that I went to d phamacist ND dey gave me pneumonia drugs… I almost died… It was a wrong prescription,I was actually having ulcer but dey gave me drug for pneumonia… I was unable to breath,could not eat,I collapsed and I think I died for some minute cos I was in between this life and nothingness(if dere is something like dat),they had to take me to clinic,ND my… Read more »

Debbie
Debbie
1 month ago

Thanks Uju

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago
Reply to  Debbie

Chai 😪

Mirabella
Mirabella
1 month ago

I am satisfied reading all these comments. I shall be back. Let me go and pen mine. Consider this comment space booked 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Seyi Vandy
Seyi Vandy
1 month ago

This write up is my best type; heavy and dark with light at the end of the tunnel, The true face of humanity type story

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

True that, no one’s got things all figured out. Even the best web servers sometimes have downtimes. We’re emotional beings and some emotions can make or mar us. And, some ‘humbling experiences’ could be fatal. For the ones you ‘survived’, the lessons are usually replete with pain and/or regret!😭🤦🏻‍♂️ Anyways, nice post. At least, e don trigger me to go de listen to Looseguard by Styles ft. Falz. 🎧🚶🏽‍♂️

Amechi
Amechi
1 month ago

It was very brave of you to step in & assist the accident victim the way you did, i am glad he survived, some day i will share my humbling experience, still experiencing it .

Pretty Kay@Adeyeye Kayode
Pretty Kay@Adeyeye Kayode
1 month ago

Well…This is a story that I wish I cud forget In a hurry and wished I never went out on that faithful day. So sometimes in late November 2018, I had surgery on my lap at Igbobi that costed me about 600k, my skin was opened and a hole was created on my femural in order to make the treatment. I was placed on crutches for 6weeks. I was meant to start walking without the crutches by the 2nd week of January. After dropping the crutches, the doctors advised me to be careful as my bone was not fully healed.So… Read more »

Collins
Collins
1 month ago

I commend his courage, not everyone has the mind to get himself involved in such situation, that’s really intense. I also have a similar humbling experience. I’ve watched a mother being cleared to pieces by a car on my way back from work. Trust me, the fragility of the human body will certainly humble anyone.

Frank
Frank
1 month ago

Great story but I can’t really get or understand how you felt during the weed experience cause I have not tasted it. Maybe one of these days maybe it will turn to my humble adventure.
And for the victim of the accident the action you took showed the courage and bold part of you imagine in a situation of life and death people will abandon the victim for no just reason but fear of taking responsibility not knowing their own faith. God help us to understand and do better

Frank
Frank
1 month ago

You know the issue of the accident made me to flash back to what happened to me it really humbled me and made me to be careful with people I deal with. After my waec I picked a job in a fast-food eatery I was in the production security department we are in charge of all the food items and things bought in their raw form,we take note. So I became friends with a guy in production department and we rapport unto guys stuff. But I don’t really know if the guy has mental issue,one morning I came to work… Read more »

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago

Obie’s experience is a very touching one. Same as some of the comments here while others had me laughing my ass out. After the death of my Dad, I have been having humbling experiences back to back. I have seen more than my mind can carry sef but all in all, it makes one appreciate life and all that comes with it. Family is everything, tbh…when I meet someone new, and I see how they handle their family members, it gives me a hint of how they will deal with me. Thank you all for sharing your experiences…it was a… Read more »

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago

Yeah💜

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