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Infidelity: What’s a sister to do if the happiness she…

Writer- Femi Wagar
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There is a common saying that love is a beautiful thing. While that may be true, there are days in our mundane world when we see ugly situations being affiliated with love, and then one is forced to think twice about what it is that is beautiful about love. But on a more serious note, is love really a beautiful thing?

Life, as we all know, is a game of fair and foul. What is foul to someone somewhere is actually fair to someone else, and there is really nothing that one can do about that.

 

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However, just recently, there was this trending video on twitter that got quite a number of reactions from a lot of people. It was a video of a married woman who went on to harass in public, a single lady who was actually enjoying her husband’s joystick.

Personally, my take on the video is, first it was wrong that the woman went all out to harass an unknown person, and from the married woman’s dressing, one can tell why the man had to cheat. A lot of women forget the energy that they invested into the relationship before they married their husbands. That energy goes into oblivion when they become wife, but life goes on, the man in the house would still be attracted to what he sees. Hence the reason to go outside to find what his eyes crave.

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Side Chic vs Wife; A lot of women forget the energy that they invested into the relationship before they married their husbands.

A lot of people have been saying a lot of things about how wrong it is that a single sister would be sleeping with another woman’s husband, but I beg to differ a little. In life, we all want happiness, and no matter how small it is, we would do almost anything to have that happiness. It won’t be surprising to anyone that some trivial things would bring some people the greatest satisfaction.

Read: Kids Immediately After Marriage, Yes Or No?

A married woman sometimes doesn’t know the value of what she has. If she does, she’ll do anything to keep it. A single sister, on the other hand, doesn’t have the kind of happiness that a married woman has most times. 

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What’s a sister to do if all the happiness that she wants in the world is guaranteed her from a man who…

Some might say, some marriages are actually unhappy, but the truth is, even being married is a form of happiness, at least in Nigeria. We all know how hard it is these days to find a man that is willing to give you all of the attention that you want.

Read: When Happiness Fades In Your Marriage

What’s a sister to do if all the happiness that she wants in the world is guaranteed her from a man who is married and unsatisfied with his “grandma” wife? I hope you see the picture now?

Before you judge me though, all humans have to be selfish sometimes. Sometimes with love, and sometimes with what makes you happy.

 

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Uchae

As much as it is wrong to take what is not yours, the married woman went to far by harassing the young lady, I mean what if the young lady didn’t know the man was married and what if she knew, the woman had no right to harass her whatsoever, she should have confronted her husband instead, because if I were the young lady God knows I would have slapped the living hell out of that woman’s eyes, after all people marry more than one wife….thank you

muttering minds
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Hmmmm… there’s every possibility she never knew🤔. But see ehn, anger can make one do crazy things that’s why I dont blame her🥺

Femi
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Femi

Haha. Abi

Maureen
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Maureen

I have two side to this.. 1. The outward appearance of the wife isn’t an excise to cheat be it he has told her or not but on a second taught I feel most women are the cause while their husband cheat. You look ravishing always before you became a wife and now that he married you, you leave your body carelessly. Also looking at it from the other way that this could be what he does before he ended up with you. There is no crime if married woman dresses neatly and hot. 2. Judging from the female aspect.… Read more »

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Many angles to look at it. My most preferred is ‘Never Break Communication’. Thank you👏

Femi
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Femi

That was exactly my take on it. See, life is symbiotic, and this is expected in marriage too. The ability to keep the energy firm is what makes a happy couple. Now someone loses track of that, but the other party instead of nagging chose to find someone who can fit what he wants. Whose fault at the end of the day?

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Bubu 🖕🏼

Hei God!!!! What did I just read. Fine the married woman embarrassed not just the lady but she also embarrassed herself by causing such a scene, After all the side piece didn’t take the oath with you on the altar…. keep the same energy for the public toilet you have at home. What I don’t understand is why the writer is making excuses for the man. Well they may be operating from the same manual and we do not know what’s going on in her home which may have led her to have finally decide to drag her husband’s side… Read more »

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Humour and truth infused here…I laughed a little, at least a breather after a series of shots fired in other comments🤧.

About the part you mentioned communicating, I hope many understand that the manner of communication matters. If it’s not done properly, it might come across as body shaming.

Femi
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Femi

All I see are all laced up assumptions. Take those to court and your matter would be thrown out at first sight. Personally, I am not advocating that cheating is right, all I am saying is, just because someone chose to “not keep up, ” someone outside chose to find happiness with an obviously unhappy man. What if the dude feels happy with the side chick? You make it sound like if you are unhappy in a marriage, it should be condoned always. Not all men would always want out, but while he needs to condone, can’t he at least… Read more »

Mildred
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Mildred

The thunder that will fire the idiot that wrote this article eeh is doing press up in one shrine somewhere, how can you blame a woman’s dressing on the fact that her husband cheated, do you think it’s easy to be a wife it’s very easy to be a husband but it’s extremely difficult to be a wife. The highest men do is provide financially for their family something which most of them still aren’t even able to properly, she wakes up early in the morning prepare her kids for school the man is still sleeping, she goes to the… Read more »

Uchae
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Uchae

You’re speaking from your own perspective oh! There are wives that have maids at home and do absolutely nothing except bear children and still look horrible, it’s not an excuse to cheat but for the fact that a woman is married doesn’t mean she should look tattered, understand the blogger before you curse….love and light

Mildred
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Mildred

How many of you men have better money to take care of your wives, how many? single girls look better because they take money from multiple married men to look fancy a luxury you can’t afford for your wife, oga if you are not married don’t come and tell me crap and also when you do eventually get married if you’re not wait till you fall under the category of rich men who provide heaven and earth for their wives and lots of maids and she still looks anyhow, when that is your reality come back and talk to me.… Read more »

Jimmy Davidson
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Jimmy Davidson

This is the most accurate thing I’ve read so far here. “Thought of living the rest of your life with one woman… Want to have a taste of other women out there…” So damn accurate. But it is what it is. What can we do?

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Hi Mildred, I feel you, I really do. Thank you for taking out time to state your reservations, I appreciate. I understand the writers opinion triggered you, however, you could have relayed yours better without swear words.

Hope to have more of your opinions here though. Welcome on board!👏👏

Femi
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Femi

Aunty, calm down o. E never reach swear matter, but all you painted are also a long queue of assumptions. Yeah, women triy, African women do. The piece was definitely not about dressing. Read again.

Obama
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Obama

First of all: for any union to work, it requires commitment in different forms and levels from both parties and that’s why [Love] transcends beyond lip service.

Scum has no gender and infidelity is more of a reflection of ones values and character than it is about the partner you’re with.

It takes discipline to tame the human nature which is insatiable.

muttering minds
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💥💥👌

Jimmy Davidson
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Jimmy Davidson

I love this post. Hits blunt 💙

muttering minds
Admin

😊😊

Cupid
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Cupid

A woman’s mode of dressing is never an excuse for the man to cheat. If he loves his woman looking a particular way, he might as well take her for shopping or buy those clothes home for her. I know a particular woman who doesn’t like to reveal but her husband loves it, the man buys the clothes and the make up and the woman does all these for him when. they are inside together so I also feel communication is key. 2. According to the video, the side chick gave the man anal sex. It is important to note… Read more »

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This comment feels like “shall we share the grace”. You nailed every bit of it, thank you 👏👏