I felt the need to talk about this here because the issue of bearing kids seems to appear in most of my discussion with friends lately, let me gist you about one in particular lol๐…
Last week a friend of mine came around and you know how girls talk can be unending but really interesting lol. One talk lead to another and then we got talking about the right time to start bearing kids after marriage. Mehn! You needed to have seen the detest in her face when I asked if she would love to start bearing kids immediately after her wedding.
READ: Is it important to have kids immediately after marriage?
โHell No! Biko I want to enjoy my marriage for like a year or two, I want to go on trips with my hubby, catch all the fun in the world before I begin to settle for changing diapers and having tantrums daily in my ears. If my in-laws like, let them tag me barren, that’s their own headache๐โ she said.
“But excuse me, aunty! this fun you speak of, did you not have them with your hubby while courting?๐โ… I asked.
“Excuse you! marriage is a different phase entirely, it’s the real deal. Courting someone is mere rehearsals” she replied.
READ: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO CANT STAND KIDS?
What has enjoying one’s marriage got to do with not bearing kids early enough huh? But I couldn’t help but agree with her, not because of the urge to enjoy my marriage per-say but because I will definitely need some time to get used to the whole terms and conditions of marriage life before I can accommodate tantrums and changing diapers. What about you?
Translation: ‘Biko’ is an Igbo word meaning ‘Please’. Igbo is one of the three major ethnic groups in Nigeria. They occupy the south-centralย and southeastern parts of the country.
I do not think its a one-party decision. Sometines, i think, it’s easier to say I’ll wait for a year or more…but then…
I know right! just like the saying ‘never say never’…that shit is the real karma. lol
The thought alone is already giving me butterflies in my belly ๐๐๐
Ghen ghen! How many butterflies plsss๐ค… I hope its ten so you will be having ten babies at a go. Can I get a loud Amen?๐คฑ๐คฑ๐โโ๏ธ๐โโ๏ธ
I get bored easily, so living with someone for two solid years without a child because we want to enjoy our marriage is not something I’d relish.
If she is not able to conceive, that would be understandable. We will adopt. I just don’t understand why someone would put off having a baby because she wants to enjoy her marriage. For me, we should start trying to have a baby 6,7 or 8 months after our wedding.
Yeah I agree with you, the earlier the better not when one is ready and the situation begins to seem like ‘try your luck’
Personally I will like to take a year before having a child to the mix. That alone time is good for the marriage.
๐๐… sounds like you have more explanation to do. Fill us in about the ‘alone time’๐๐ค
Use your imagination dear ๐
A year is OK for me. Two to three years is too much.
What will you be doing during the year๐๐