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My Crooked Smile Experience as a Lesbian in Nigeria

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Sexuality is one of the biggest parts of who we are, it’s a key part of our characteristics that goes a long way into defining our personhood. Your sexuality is like your shadow, you can quench the light to avoid a clear image, but it wouldn’t stop following you everywhere you go. It is part of you.

About a month ago, I read a story on this blog about a lady who narrated how she skipped becoming a lesbian, my story is similar, not skipped, but dipped in a lezzy puddle… I am a lesbian.

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From the moment I became 9-years-old, my parents started to become insecure because of my rapid growth, I was full in my chest, curvy, and looking sexually attractive for my age. They decided an all-girls school would save me from boys and unnecessary distractions, so my schooling was immediately processed to a missionary school; the holier the better I guess. I was advised to study hard only.

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You know how it is, getting to a new environment, you wanna know what really goes down in Las Vegas. The first orientation I got was tales of how senior students would try to lure junior students to sleep with them. Being inquisitive, I wondered how it would feel like laying with the same sex, I was young and wasn’t even nursing any sex drive. There were some targeted seniors whose names were mentioned to me as lesbians so I had a close gaze fixed on them.

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One day during siesta, I decided I wasn’t going to sleep, luckily or maybe unluckily for me, I found these sets of seniors in an enclosed space making out. I could have run off to my room and pretended like I never saw a thing but instead I watched to a point where I got so aroused. Since the incident, I’ll reminisce on all they did and get even more aroused. That memory and feeling lived with me, the more I tried to suppress it, the more I yearned to replicate it with my girlfriends.

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In my JSS 2, my craving for girls became stronger. I heard of how people were caught in the act so I was scared to try or think about it. My school was a missionary school but I saw lots of nasty things girls do. In my JSS 3, a senior approached me to be friends but I declined because everyone knew she was a lesbian. I mean she could have been one in secrecy, I wouldn’t mind, but getting along with someone stale would let my caged cats out of the bag to the whole school.

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There’s this bonding category thing we did in school then,  we get to pair ourselves up for example as PALs(PERSONAL Admirable Lover), SALs (secret admirable lover), a class friend, a JAF(Just A Friend), and even vals during valentines day. This made me have access to different girlfriends for several purposes.  They knew my intention but were scared to try anything out rather we’ll give ourselves pecks, jokingly touched each other’s breast and emphasized how soft, small or big it was.

Read: Men Talk! How to Get Rid of Boners in Public

In my SS1, we were mixed with seniors in the hostel and as fate would play, the senior that tried to toast me in Js3 was in my room. She began sending me love letters which had a way of sparking up my sensual appetite, I looked forward to them. 

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One night, she asked me to sleep on her bed, I agreed. She made attempts to touch me, I refused yet agreed to a kiss. It was my first kiss! It felt good, I wanted more but held back. Unluckily for me, my school mother who was in the same class with her somehow found out we spent the night together and came to accuse me of being a lesbian. I denied it. From there, the gist raised so much dust in the school and without hearing me out, my senior lover broke up with me. My first heartbreak! I was hurt! I cried so much! I pleaded for a comeback, but she was totally done with me. I couldn’t stop thinking about her, her smell, towel, beddings, and how soft her skin was even though we didn’t smooch. I wish we actually did.

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Well, much later that year, I got close to one of my mates who was very much sexy. I remember vividly our first encounter up the bunk where we talked about sex and one talk lead to another, she asked to make out with me, to which I agreed. When everyone was asleep, she started touching me, it felt so good. I turned to her and we kissed intensely, she touched my breast and smooched my body. I couldn’t help but cooperate, I had never felt that way before. The sensual urge made me feel so wet and then she fingered me countlessly which I enjoyed even more. 

That night opened my eyes going forward. I wanted more of that feeling, I wanted to be around females who looked like they wanted to experiment, I became less apologetic about lesbianism, and couldn’t wait to get out of school.

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LEAVING SCHOOL & BEYOND

Leaving school was a different ball game entirely, all the girls I met were all talking about one male crush or the other, the sex adventures they looked forward to, and worse off, I discovered that the outer world was even more hostile about lesbianism. It became more scary and shameful to talk about my sexuality.

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I pressured myself into having a relationship with a male, just to be sure there was nothing wrong with me. We had good sex but believe me, it wasn’t as great as the lady I had been with. To enjoy the sex, I’ll imagine I was sexing a lady, her eating me out, sucking my boobs until my nipples turn red and more… all these imageries to get me to enjoy my time with a man. Maybe I am bisexual, just maybe…all I know is I prefer anything sensual with females.

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Luckily for me one time, I reconnected with my high school lover, that chic, and we had the most erotic bedroom adventure ever. Asides from the romance, the emotions, getting to hold a lady after such a long time, looking into her eyes and stuff, felt like magic. That moment gave me the closure I needed on my sexuality. I accepted that I am a lesbian and there was nothing I could do about it other than to live with it.

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Although It’s hard to find lesbians who come out open in Nigeria, because of the stigma, we connect through groups online and so far I have met a handful of amazing lesbians. Sometimes if it’s my lucky day, I get approached by a lady. Somehow I feel scared that I might have to bend for society someday because I wanna get married and have kids. So far the men I’ve met and opened up to about my sexuality appeared cool but marriage might not be easy. I have this idea of having a threesome with my husband, I think I can stomach it that way.

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On this note, I’ll like to add that the world is unfair to my kind, especially in Africa, Nigeria. Sex is one of the most popular topics discussed on a daily, yet it is truncated. How do you ask a person their opinion about sex without asking them about their sexuality? This should go hand in hand. Straight people enjoy sex talk until you let them in on your secret and then they make you feel creepy about it. What’s so creepy about being a lesbian or bisexual? How hard is it for straight people to understand that just the same way they cannot explain how they arrived at their sexuality, it’s the same for others? 

Read: Hypocrites! Homosexuality Is Not A Crime

Even though my profession will not permit me to identify with my sexuality, I hope that one day LGBTQ is made legal in Nigeria. Being bisexual, gay, or lesbian in Nigeria is not something that should be a secret, it’s something we should be bold about, we are humans too and deserve equal treatment. There are many LGBTQ persons in Nigeria, it could be your sister or your little brother who’s always by himself, seeming depressed and with low self-esteem. This, to say the least, is what suppressing sexuality does to a person, it’s suicide.

Let me ask you, in a world that’s homophobic if your child told you they were gay or lesbian, what would you do? I’ll also love to hear your candid opinion on homosexuality in Nigeria and if you are not straight, please feel free to leave me an insight on your sexuality discovery and journey. How did you get there? when did you discover YOU? And so far how’s it been?  The admin assured me here is a safe place, hence a partly motivation for sharing my story, I look forward to your comments. 👇👇

 

 

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Admin
1 month ago

So guys, because of the sensitivity of the story, Anonymous is likely not to attend to the comments one on one🙂. Hoping she does though as I’m still in talks with her over this😅. Anyway, as usual, I’ll be here to discuss and attend to each comment.

Above is the official flier for the story, do me well to share across your social media platforms alongside the link to this story. So shall we💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻…Whose gonna set the ball rolling for this conversation? Lol… Thank you!! 😅😅

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Bagudo
Bagudo
1 month ago

Hmmm..many things are happening in this our craving world. One thing l hold onto is that one should not set his path on his personal opinion and desires.
We all have to guide ourselves on the doctrines of our religion to which we all belong to.
Homosexuality is a sinful act and a negation to GOD creation period…

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Bagudo

So many things actually and we need to get our senses ready to evaluate them. How about for someone who is not religious?

Bagudo
Bagudo
1 month ago

He is then on the evil path..one should atleast belongs to one where he will seek forgiveness when he sin, seek protection when in fear, seek guidance when in a state of confusion, seek for relief when sick from the Omnipotent and Omniscient God. Even flocks of sheep have someone who control and protect them. So why should one live without protection and guidance?

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Bagudo

Hmmmm have you ever thought that what you might consider a sin might not be sin to the other man?

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Bagudo

Well what happens when you left with no choice

Bagudo
Bagudo
1 month ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Avoid then been in that state😊

Futuristic
Futuristic
1 month ago

Very insightful and interesting read. This adds to the long list of reasons my kids will never attend a boarding school in Nigeria. To be honest, I’ll be more understanding of the situation she’s in if she was involved with an opposite sex. As much as we like to claim a person’s sexual orientation isn’t their’s to choose, and the believe that everyone has a right to be sexually inclined how they choose to be, I still feel homosexuality is a mental disorder or psychological illness that should be faced with therapy sessions… I wouldn’t say I’m homophobic, I just… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Futuristic

Hmmmm “boarding schools in Nigeria”…it could happen anywhere you know, not just Nigeria lol😃.

I beg to disagree that you are not homophobic especially because you tagged it as a ‘mental illness’. And yeah if only she had her path different, she would have been straight maybe. At the end of the day, environmental factors (exposure) play a huge role in determining sexuality. Thank you!!!

Futuristic
Futuristic
1 month ago

Lol I understand I may come across to lots of people as homophobic and that’s fine. I’ve tried to understand the idea of homosexuality and I can’t seem to wrap my head around how and why its a thing. Maybe I need therapy to understand it.

Paschal
Paschal
1 month ago
Reply to  Futuristic

Most scientists don’t understand it. Some might justify it but I strongly feel its a psychological disorder. Given a different growing up environment, the ‘lesbian’ would be different. She wasn’t born/made/biologically created that way. If she wants to change, she will make the decision 1st, then get therapy and reorientation and she will get back to normal or pseudo-normal because she still knows what it feels like to be with a girl.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Paschal

Hmmmmm… I appreciate your comment. If only it was possible to turn an adult’s mind into a tabula rasa…that kinda control Z tingy. If only…

Paschal
Paschal
1 month ago

Maybe a psychological disorder then because of the early sexual influences she had. I’m confident if she went to a mixed school and had boys run after her, it might have been a different story.

Blinkz
Blinkz
1 month ago
Reply to  Futuristic

Mental disorder or psychological illness? Too much for someone who isn’t homophobic

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Blinkz

Way too much actually!

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Futuristic

It happens even in day schools too. It’s a matter of choice. For me I’d love my daughters to be in a boarding school. If you can overcome the temptation then good for you

Chopins
Chopins
1 month ago
Reply to  Futuristic

I am HOMOPHOBIC and that’s because I see nothing right in being homosexual!!! No one was created a homosexual. IT CATEGORICALLY IS CHOICE!!! In the writers case, this is purely avoidable and even in the all female boarding school she could have avoided this too if she was that enough home schooled and disciplined within self.
Wifey says our children shall attend boarding schools…. Knowing what I know, I’m still not up to 10% in agreement with her.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Chopins

Hmmmm you scared? You mentioned that it could have been avoided by the writer, if you think this way then you should trust that your kids can avoid this fate too.

My advice for you will be to keep your kids close if you can. Although, it doesn’t stop shit from happening. Thank you Chopins🤗

Chopins
Chopins
1 month ago

This shit alone doesn’t inform my skepticism. So many other vices which truthfully eclipses the positives. Yes she could have avoided this if she heeded her parents and the other though is I’m not gonna lead my children into temptation

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Chopins

I feel you, prevention is better than cure.

ClassicEel
ClassicEel
1 month ago

Me wen my son tells me he’s gay

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  ClassicEel

😂😂😂😂 this sticker though! I struggled not to laugh because of the sensitivity of this post but I couldn’t! So sinister yet hilarious😄. I’m itching to get more insight on your reason but then again #Fem

ClassicEel
ClassicEel
1 month ago

🤣🤐

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  ClassicEel

Lol…..you may never even know🤣🤣😂😂

King
King
1 month ago

Many times, failure or lack of sex education result to situation like this.

homosexual is interesting to those that engage in it, they have been able to justify it but we can’t totally deny the fact that something is wrong with it.

It is not just a sin problem, it is negation of God’s creation.

I came in peace.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  King

Hmmmm 🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️

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Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  King

Hmmmm scientifically homosexuality has an advantage…It’s better than popping birth pills and it’s easier to stop procreation. There are animals which are homosexuals

King
King
1 month ago
Reply to  Anonymous

The only expectation of homosexualism is orgasm and it failure of sex education.

If your opposite sex will give you multiple orgasms like your same sex partner will do, tell me why you need to be a lesbian?

But unfortunately, most men know very little or nothing about it.

Aji
Aji
1 month ago
Reply to  King

You echoed my mind.

Melody
Melody
1 month ago

God created Adam and Eve, man and woman to be one. Not the other way round as the case maybe. Asides religion here, I will even slap a girl that winks at me,lol…
I wouldn’t let such stuff as lesbianism or gay grow under my roof from my children

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Melody

Hmmmm… truth be told, you cannot vouch for your kids 100% especially with the way the world is going. How can you tell they are not hiding anything? The writer has not been bold enough to tell her parents. You can only hope for your kids to be in their best behaviour according to your own principles but my dear, you can never be too sure.

Melody
Melody
1 month ago

Yeah, I get where you’re coming from. Just like my days in school too, I just wasn’t too bold to tell my parents why I really needed to leave the school I was attending(Lady Ibiam Girls’secondary school- where lesbianism was at its peak and every neighboring school rephrased our name to be Lesbian Girls’secondary school) I had serious issues from my seniors too(mad issues)that led to serious punishments because I wasn’t yielding to what they wanted. I’ll never forget those punishments. Long story short, I hope to be a listening, sensitive mother to my children to even hear them in… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Melody

Wow! I was also shocked when I received this story and read the part where senior girls lured juniors into lesbianism. That could not happen in my secondary school especially with impunity. It was so secret that except you see, you wouldn’t believe when you are told. Who wants indefinite suspension? So called lesbians moved with caution.

On a lighter note those neighbouring schools are savage though 😄… I hope we all find parenting easy mehn

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Melody

Lol
For persons like you, you’d never know your kids are one

Nkechi
Nkechi
1 month ago

We become what we are consistently exposed to😊………….
Just like kids that grow in abusive homes tend to either become abusers or become too cowardly and scared,no one blames them it’s their environment and circumstances but doesn’t mean we then leave them and say it’s who they are…………
Just my view

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Nkechi

Maybe it’s who they are actually. Can a person give what they dont have? 🤔

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Tifeprec
Tifeprec
1 month ago

What they don’t have? I’m not one to force sexuality on anyone but really Nkechi is right about what one is exposed to and we all have it in us just that our minds has been formed which is what leads us to making the decisions we make now and minds can be reformed in my belief.

Tifeprec
Tifeprec
1 month ago
Reply to  Nkechi

Totally vibe with your perspective. Our experiences matter

Bubu
Bubu
1 month ago

I don commot hand for any talk wey concern homosexuality inside this country…

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

Ooo I see…you no want wahala abi😄
Jokes apart, we have to train ourselves to be comfortable with discussing topics like this.

Nheeraa
Nheeraa
1 month ago

I really understand where our writer is coming from!
Just do what makes you happy… I’m not homophobic neither am I a full supporter of it but I just believe that people should do what they feel comfortable with and what makes them happy

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Nheeraa

Capish!!!! Live and let live!!!

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Nheeraa

Thanks

St3ph
St3ph
1 month ago

Hmm!!! Very touchy sensitive topic we shy away from because of “belief” “culture”. I saw a comment stating more reasons why he/she’s ward won’t go to a boarding school and i smiled because this can happen anywhere just develop a bond and connection you and child would have to disclose anything to you as a parent, because for me as a young kid, it was my friend’s house help in the same compound i grew up in as a kid that took interest in me and explored my body for me before i even realized myself. Twas somewhere i go… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  St3ph

@shock sensitivity 😂😂😂😂… you are tempting me to post my “Let’s Play Mummy and Daddy story” I shared on Naked Minds. But no!

But frankly speaking ehn, we did a lot of crazy stuff as kids.

Hmmm about the part where you said homosexuality is a thought and a habit the writer picked, can we also agree that being straight is the same likewise other sexualities?🤔

St3ph
St3ph
1 month ago

Yes being straight and homo are thoughts… it’s what you’re accustomed to… they say what you watch and read also makes you hence why i said homo like the writer said was as a result of childhood adrenaline and what the mind nutured to want to explore, hence in exploring you get comfortable with and like it, likewise being straight so it can be changed, like i said no one’s born straight or homo, they’re habits yh, we see, we listen, we want to explore our bodies as kids hence we grow into them.

windbreaker
windbreaker
1 month ago
Reply to  St3ph

I read in an article that homosexuality is inherent and I “Partially” believe it .. you know that thought while growing up you did like / looked up someone that it goes beyond the sex,looks and intelligence of that person?..if care is not taken and the persons are really close homosexuality might occur if they can’t hold themselves

Aji
Aji
1 month ago

Homosexuality exists because homosexual people have chosen to be homosexual. Being straight on the other hand is how we all are born.

Tifeprec
Tifeprec
1 month ago
Reply to  St3ph

Well said Steph 🙌🏼🙌🏼

Onyekachuwkwu
Onyekachuwkwu
1 month ago

The identity of the Nigerian society is lost in its importations of multiple foreign cultures, traditions, and noncorresponding civilizations, hence, the dilemmas we face when tackling issues like sexuality. Lesbianism, though entrenched in history, is proof of development for various cultures and political spheres. Sexual freedom demonstrates the level of freedom any system has bestowed upon its citizenry. But in the case of Nigeria, with multiple socio-political and economic settings, it’s hard to understand what it supports. Although, most people publically oppose it, especially those who hold religion tightly, the presence of multiple civilizations still makes it a highly debatable… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Onyekachuwkwu

So many great pointers here! Can sexuality ever be rainbow coloured in Nigeria? Maybe after donkey years, when we are all six feet a fossil… when all the frictions concerning religion and culture is ironed. Until then. Thank you for this Onyekachukwu🙏

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Onyekachuwkwu

Hmmmmmmm

Perez
Perez
1 month ago
Reply to  Onyekachuwkwu

This person study law o

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Perez

😂😂😂😂 best believe he did. He’s so articulate.

Tifeprec
Tifeprec
1 month ago
Reply to  Onyekachuwkwu

It is plenty in the head. Opoor ye ye

Ruthie
Ruthie
1 month ago

Omoooorrrrrr

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muttering minds
1 month ago
Reply to  Ruthie

X how many?

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SUMPTA
SUMPTA
1 month ago

This is a lot. So much emotions. Took me up, down and up and then down again.

Personally, I think I still need more research. I don’t understand, there are gay penguins but for humans it’s wrong in the bible. He created everything with Love, so… what gives!?

But I sympathise with the LGBTQ community as human beings it’s disheartening being rejected, isolated, unheard, even mistreated.

This was lovely in general. I won’t lie to myself.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  SUMPTA

Exactly!! I wanted to chip the issue of gay and lesbian penguins when the argument got heated on Twitter today when someone mentioned that animals do not practice homosexuality but I was too tired to process further arguments. As a matter of fact, according to a research I read a certain time, all specie on earth have been found to exhibit homosexual tendencies. There was even a research experiment I read concerning giraffes and Homosexuality. And about the bible…🤐🤐

Thank you Sumpta, glad you enjoyed the read.

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  SUMPTA

Thanks for understanding

Ezeugo 1
Ezeugo 1
1 month ago

I keep saying it environmental factors and orientation is what’s causing all these. Even in nature it’s mostly the opposite sex except in very very few cases. If it was normal we would have seen alot of them in nature without looking too hard. Miss anonymous, if truly you want to marry and have kids, you’ll have to hide it forever if not relocate to USA. Thank you.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Ezeugo 1

Relocating to the USA is a sure bet, likewise some other developed countries. Thank you!

Nuella
Nuella
1 month ago

Hmmn, this is a very sensitive topic in which people do not like to talk about In this part of the world simply because of the contempt associated with it.

I stand to be corrected but there is hardly any boarding school you wouldn’t find such behavior (secretly done).

And whatever habit kids pick-up during their formative years, it’s quite difficult for them to drop (there are few exceptions though) So, in the writer’s case, she may have to live like this.

Let me chip this in, Christianity-wise, the bible kicks sternly against such.
Same with the constitution of Nigeria.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Nuella

Bitter for some to admit but it’s her fate apparently. Thank you

Tai
Tai
1 month ago

Unlike someone in the comment section, everyday I thank God I got to attend a boarding school cos I couldn’t imagine how I would have turned out. Let me quickly state, I would like to commend the writer… it was an interesting read indeed. Moving forward, this is always an interesting topic for me and I can remember many of my beautiful and sexy friends I would always throw Les advances too stylishly and the would always laugh it off like… you are joking right🌚🌚 Funny! One of them will be reading this and wondering😤😤I hope you smile too. I… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Tai

I actually smiled reading this for some reasons😄😄. Glad you’re bold enough to own your truth.

Have you ever thought that you could be bisexual? Just maybe🤔. So many behaviours exist in this world, I think each one deserves to be tested before deciding if to cast away or not. Homosexuality is one of the many.

Collins
Collins
1 month ago

Lol, someone said it a mental disorder, might be a psychologist, what do I know…I went to a same sex school and from what I observed from my time there was that homosexuality is a choice, and the sexuality of a person doesn’t change anything. I’m not homophobic and I can totally tolerate a bisexual partner but if there was a vote on accepting LGBTQ to our society, I’m definitely voting against it.

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Collins

Ah! Voting against it but you can tolerate a bisexual partner? Your responses are polar opposite. Why though?

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Collins

You just confused

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago

The comments though

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago

Hmmmmmm……

I totally get the writer, having gone to an all girls boarding school.

I like to think of myself as straight but still can’t place my head round losing my virginity to a man,whenever I think of sex? It’s definitely with same sex,
Opposite sex pornography sure irritates me 😁, but when it’s same sex??? Guess who gets turned on ???

Discovering ones Sexuality is just a different ball game, I just hope soon there will be no stigma for the rainbow 🌈 folks, only then wl we realize what or who we really are…

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Anonymous

😄😄😄 could it be sex phobia? Possibly over reasoning the first time sex pain? Then again you love same sex porn…you might just be a lesbian you know. That’s one of the questions asked for sexuality test. It’s tagged as a sign.

Jules Jeremiah
Jules Jeremiah
1 month ago

I’ll like to commend ANONYMOUS for taking this bold step revealing her truth to us. This will be the first time I’ll ever engage in commenting on posts relating to homosexuality, because it doesn’t make sense why condemnation becomes the new topic. But I’m here because it makes a lot of sense airing my view on sensitive matters like this, and you my dear are very courageous. I’ve read through all’a ya comments and I can only but SMH, especially the comment section that read that she’ll ensure her kids don’t attend a boarding school in NIGERIA. Is that really… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Jules Jeremiah

Wow!! Reading all you said made me sober and feeling goosebumps😒. When you think you’ve seen it all, best believe the next person has it worse. No much words to say but thank you so much for sharing this side of you Jules. Thank you! ☹🙏

windbreaker
windbreaker
1 month ago

Well for me I did say two factors are involved here. One is psychological ( which has to do with the kind of environment the person is growing up in) the second is choice. I also went to a mixed boarding school and believe me there are also gays in our hostel despite being mixed with girls, some seniors back then lured Juniors into it while some just wanted to know how it feels and then joins the act ( which brings about the second factor CHOICE). These things too happens in a day schools too. The environment a child… Read more »

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Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  windbreaker

😂😂😂😂😂 most men can stomach the thought of lesbianism but not gay…why though? 😃

Your points are actually valid. Thank you!

Angela
Angela
1 month ago

I attended an all girls boarding school myself. I can relate perfectly with this story. However, everything depends on your level of self discipline and Emotional Intelligence. So many sexual activities occur in mixed schools and not everyone accepted to date, same for those of us in all girls school, you can turn off admirers too. Your becoming a lesbian was a choice. For those saying their children will not attend boarding school. Sorry to disappoint you, lesbians are in mixed school too, my cousin was so chased and she nearly agreed. Decency is confirming to the standard of the… Read more »

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1 month ago
Reply to  Angela

Maybe at first it’s choice and then it graduates to addiction huh? Just maybe 🤔🤔. You mentioned that decency is conforming to the standards of the society, you’ll agree with me that some societal rules are unfair and doesn’t give room for individuality, right?

Greg
Greg
1 month ago

Me i am straight,but i dnt have issues with anyone been homosexual…just do whatever makes you happy😊..if i were to be in power i will make it legal self..that way we can easily identify them and things will be equal socially and sexually..😉

muttering minds
Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Greg

I like this! Easy identification…run wild and free however you can💃💃

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Greg

I like thid

Tifeprec
Tifeprec
1 month ago

Beautiful story. So as a Christian I believe it’s a sin yeah but the Bible also teaches about love and I’ll put love first whether it’s my child, a friend or a stranger. Las Las we all sin, not trying to justify though because choosing to be gay will be a continuous but then aren’t people who fornicate the same? 🤔🤔 For me even though I can’t practice it except if I was a lady though, the only thing between I accepting homosexualism is what the Bible says about it being a sin. I wish everyone with such feeling the… Read more »

muttering minds
Admin
1 month ago
Reply to  Tifeprec

Awww thank you for this Tife. He that is without sin should cast the first stone! ❣❣

Adenle Seun Ismail
Adenle Seun Ismail
21 days ago

Hmm deep
I feel what we are exposed to actually define us to an extent

muttering minds
Admin
21 days ago

Thank you for this Seun!

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