So I posted the image below on my WhatsApp status to get candid opinions from my contacts so guess what, 100% of the men picked Chioma, and by 100% I mean over thirty.
Wow! The world’s way of thinking has finally turned. I remember there was a time when people believed more of “if you really love your woman and don’t want to lose her, don’t you dare tell her you’ve got another booty”. But now the guys are screaming “he loves Chioma, he trusts Chioma” in my DM… Like WT real F?
Some time ago, this same question came up while discussing with a group of friends and my opinion was completely shushed. I said that I’d rather a man be sincere with me from the onset if he’s got a date or shagging other females than lie to get my commitment. Cause I’d rather decide my fate by myself than be thrown under a moving train of surprises. I want to know what I’m up against, rather than be crushed by a “stay away from my man” text.
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“shut up girl!”… I was hushed completely. My friends said to me: A man that tells you he’s got another woman, doesn’t love you or respect your feelings. He only wants to use you. When he’s done, he’ll dump you and crawl back to the arms of his real love like you never happened. This was their take. Well, in the long run, I had to conform to their standpoint.
Sadly a lot of ladies don’t. Most ladies believe that if a man loves them, he wouldn’t say. NOT ME, Cause I know the kind of stress I’ll put the man through just to be sure he really wants me.
Well, the recent responses I got on WhatsApp is a proof that men have moved into a different thinking zone, my thought zone! Welcome home guys, I’m happy to know that y’all have won the quest for SENSE SEARCH and I’m proud.
Same Pill For Ladies?
No lady on this earth will tell the man she truly loves that she’s got another.
If a lady ever says this, it’s either because she doesn’t love him yet, or she doesn’t love him at all. We’re crazy, we know. And as a blessed Visioneer, a lady already knows if she’ll end up loving/liking a man or not. I don’t know how we know this though, perhaps it’s a superpower.
If a lady has more than one man, whatever she chooses to do with them is totally dependent on her reason for getting into the relationship.
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Men And The Truth
A man cannot handle the truth like a lady can. No man I know will want to remain in a committed relationship with a lady if he finds out she’s got another man. And even if he stays, he’s just enjoying the bed works until he finds a clearer focus.
Note that all the points I gave are only applicable to dating relationships. If it’s got to do with marriage, CHIOMA IS A SIDE CHICK. No man will tell his wife he’s got a side chick.
This then leads to one question I’m sure many ladies got on their minds while reading this… “Why won’t he do the same in his relationships?”
My dear, when we see God, we’ll ask him why he created men the way he did, cause I am clueless. Any man with an answer to this question can help us out, cause hell yeah! I’m interested.
And if you think he loves Bisola more, the floor is yours too. Gentlemen/ Ladies, shall we?
Well, if you ask me
He loves Chioma more
Because he told her there’s Bisola, probably he told Chioma Bisola is just a friend.
Moreover, if a man loves a lady, he can’t hide Anything from her.
And if he’s afraid of loosing Bisola, he will tell her about Chioma, so even if she finds out from someone else, she won’t get vexed.
If you love a lady, let her know about your other female friends too, that way, She’ll be sure you’re hers truly.
At this point I have to ask What Is Love? In as much as love means communication, does it mean cheating too? Wise to say he doesn’t love any of them.
I beg to disagree….
A guy-who has witnessed several heartbreaks from ladies, will actually have a main chick and a/several side chick(s), just to be on the safer side.
You know what they say about “once beaten twice shy?”
Dude loves one but doesn’t wanna risk sticking to her alone probably due to past experiences.
Experience they say is the best teacher.
Hehehe.. I have not jumped on this bandwagon yet o.. I still think if he is ready to take a risk of losing Chioma by confessing to her then he loves Bisola more.. He might just be looking for a way to end d relationship with Chioma and he is telling her so she can do the job for him😉.. I have a close friend that was in this situation.. She was d Chioma and he eventually ended the relationship himself later on and stuck with Bisola… Soooo.. There are 2 angles to this Hypothesis 😁
Thanks to Benjay!! We finally have proof that he doesn’t love Chioma. At this point I have to ask about your friend, is she okay? Be sure to send my regards and tell her he ain’t worth shit😁
No matter what the world is evolving into, Chioma is at the losing end. If tomorrow, he is misbehaving or whatever, here’s what he’ll tell Chioma, “I told you already there’s Bisola, so why are you acting all jealous and blah blah”. This will be a slap to me. Let’s paint a picture, Uncle is having a birthday party, he invites both Chioma and Bisola (Chioma knows Bisola, Bisola doesn’t know Chioma), who do you think he’s going to show off as his gf. Matter of fact, why will Chioma want to be in that situation to start with, knowing… Read more »
Bangdadadang!!!😂😂. Hits the nail on the head.
This is amazing
Should I welcome my spirit animal on here for the umpteenth time 😁? This is exactly how I see it.
He definitely loves Chioma more that’s why she is aware of Bisola’s existence, and if she finds out about bisola without the husband telling her trust me he’ll have WW3 to face.
Lemme understand, if the table was turned. Chioma has Dave and Pete; tells Dave about Pete. You are Dave o, so does it mean she loves you more? Will you stay in the relationship knowing she has another guy?
If the tables turn the food will purge a whole lot of men but like the article puts it, men can’t handle some certain truths.
Rather than get worried over the 99.9 percent of the men who think this way, I am anxious to get into their heads to know how it works. I probably missed a step somewhere.
Welcome on board Dave 🤗. I hope to get more comments from you.
I really do not know or understand how the male brain works and most times I don’t want to know either cos it’s weird. I think it all depends on the kind of lady who’s involved . There are some certain kind of women that you can persuade or sweet talk into staying in a relationship knowing she’s a 3rd party and she would stay put, but then there are others who you wouldn’t dare say to her face that you are also involved with another lady and expect her to remain in the relationship. For the guys who are… Read more »
Bless you
Yasssss! Yasssssss! How much of ‘Yassssssss’ can I say to this comment? 👌
There are definitely two sides to this cause it depends on the kind of man and also the ladies ability to handle the truth. Most ladies claim to want the truth, an honest man and transparency in relationships but in reality they’d rather believe a lie than be hurt by the truth. Trying to judge who he loves most cos of who decides to tell about the other and who he decides to keep a secret is like me saying, I love chicken but there’s turkey and then seeing turkey where its served I go, Ah ! Turkey is my… Read more »
Hmmm even though I dont quite get your turkey and chicken analysis I know where you stand. So what is the why that gets whenever you do so to a girl? 🤔
You surely can’t tell whom the guy love most. His reasons for telling Chioma about and kept the information away from Biola maybe as a result of the ladies respective temperament and his ego.
I think Chioma is been disrespected and Biola is been deceived.