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Sex and Spirituality; And What If He’s A Virgin at 30?

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Whenever adult male virginity is raised in a conversation, there is usually an expected glare of surprise, and a dominating culture shock filling the atmosphere. Like Jeeeezzzzz it’s almost impossible to believe that even a day-old male child is a virgin, talk more of an adult. Losing virginity for the male folk has always been an ego massager and a level of bragging rights. Typical Nigerian parlance, you’ll often hear guys bant  “You don fuck girl before?”, or a not so diplomatic mockery from a fellow man to another, “Why you dey behave like virgin”, which in the actual sense means “You ought to be smart”. Isn’t it ridiculous that there seems to be an almost generalized assumption that male virgins are not smart? It also sounds absurd that for a man to be well respected, he must have had sex with a lady, and the higher the body count, the higher the respect accorded him. 

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Do men even understand what it means to wait? Unlike we women whereby virginity is used as a social construct to tame us, you know how we ladies especially as teenagers fondly gushed with these lines “I’ll like to wait till marriage”, “I made an oath with God that I wouldn’t lose my virginity until marriage”, “My virginity is sacred”, and so on. It’s almost impossible to find a man that upholds any of these and even if he exists, he mostly lacks the confidence to be vocal about it, I’m sure you know why.

male virginity
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Maybe I’m Wrong…

So a few years ago I met this dude who I vibed with so much and you know how youthful exuberant-inclined conversations play out, both parties are always curious about the other person’s sex life. And boom he hit me with the “I’m a virgin” line and also went ahead to preach chastity. The only logical question I could ask him was “Are you a virgin for lack of opportunity or it’s a decision?”  He maintained that it’s his decision and went all preachy about the spiritual implication of having sex. Well well, he was 25-years-old at the time and four years down the line, he’s lost his virginity at 29. Finding out, I said to him “Dude you know what, I need you to share your experience on your long spanned virginity on Muttering Minds. Male virginity is a topic that should be explored”. Thankfully he agreed…

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His Story…

Despite losing my virginity at a very shocking age (29) for my gender, sex still remains a very sacred act to me. Can’t deny I had sexual fantasies as a teenager which I think is normal, but I grew up in a religious home where rather than attending to my fantasies, it was only wise to follow the status quo which was being chaste. My mother did a good job of making sure we followed suit. 

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However, getting to my 20’s, I started knowing girls on a deeper wavelength and the urges naturally came. I had my share of wet dreams too and most mornings I woke to sperm splatter all over my briefs and sometimes an erection. I also watched porn sometimes but never masturbated instead I indulged in some freaky shit when in close corners with ladies like kissing, smooching but it never led to ejaculation or sex. I was careful because I had read about the spiritual implications, like diseases, bad luck, ancestral curses and so on that can be transferred through sex, so waiting felt like the right thing to do. It was also a personal decision too, I did not want to tie my soul with anyone that will not be my wife.

Male Virginity
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I was not vocal about my virginity, I was not shy about it either because I understood it was not easy to stay chaste, so I didn’t rub it on a fornicator’s face. I didn’t boast about it either and I also was not ashamed of it when asked. And even when I met guys who boasted about their sex life, I never felt intimidated at all because I knew they don’t really know what they are engaging in. For my female friends, I always gave and still give advice on how not to get exploited or abused sexually. 

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Despite being vocal about my virginity when I could, I was never a turn-off for ladies, rather they found it attractive. They often said “who will pop you? She must be lucky bla bla bla…” Matter of fact, male virgins are always attractive to the female folks, they smell the pheromone from afar, and find it very sexually attractive. 

The History of Pheromones | male virginity
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I lost my virginity because of my girlfriend, I had starved her for many years sexually, so I decided that when I will eventually have sex with her will be closed to getting married to her. But unfortunately, we didn’t get married again. My first sex felt good and worth it, although I cummed quick and felt like an amateur, subsequently, I learned the science… “before I cum, I make her cum, that’s what I came to do”

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And of course, I will be elated to marry a virgin. There is a special blessing attached to that. It’s ideal to meet your husband or wife as a virgin. Though society makes it look wack, it doesn’t mean it’s not a virtue. My advice for both genders is to stay sealed. Keep your virginity till you find the right partner. There are so many benefits to staying chaste. There is no benefit in promiscuity. None!! 

male virginity
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HMMMMM

I’m guessing you poked some areas in his story or maybe not. Well, we both know that his opinion is rare especially judging by the evolvement of the world where chastity doesn’t make the news. I remember a conversation with a pal on Naked Minds, he asked me what sex meant to me and I told him sex was sex to me and it upset him. He felt I wasn’t being open enough. To date, I often wonder what he expected me to say. I must be frank, the whole spiritual attachment to sex seems scary, and due to not wanting to overthink it, I resolved some time ago to see sex as a mere scientific face valued activity for reproduction or pleasure. 

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Come to think of it, why is it that virtually all adult virgins on planet earth indulge in one form of sexual activity or the other, some very intense like blowjobs and sucking boobies. I have never met a completely chaste virgin why??? I tag it fraudulent. If you want to be chaste, then be it in all forms! 

msle virginity
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On this note, I have some pertinent questions I’ll like to pick your brains on. Do you agree that sex is more spiritual than scientific? Please share your reasons.  However, just like he exists, I am certain there are some other male virgins out there and I’ll really love to hear varying opinions. If you’re a male virgin reading this, I’m curious to know, how vocal are you about your non-sexual life? Has it been a case of waiting for you or lack of opportunity and inferiority complex? 

Now, to non-virgin males, prior to losing your virginity, did you understand the concept of ‘waiting’ or you were only eager to know what the cookie tasted like?

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Also, it’s ironic that my friend said ladies found it attractive he was a virgin, I know for certain, most men avoid ladies who are virgins for mostly fear of blood and lack of performance, I would have sworn ladies avoided men too. To the ladies reading this, what’s your opinion about male virginity? Can you date a guy who’s a virgin?

I know its so many pointers in one story, but we can discuss, right😊? Please leave me your honest comments below 👇👇.

 

 

 

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PAIN
PAIN
1 month ago

Uju, You need to see the face I had on while reading this story. It was that of exasperation and annoyance. This story irks the fuck out of me, somehow made me recoil in disgust. Meeting a 29 years old virgin would make me shudder, step back and go “eeeww”. I will be blunt. I take his story and all his rants about the spiritual implications of sex, the virtue of chastity and other whatnots he talked about, not as a reflection of his true self, but rather as some sort of faux-empowerment blandishments, ludicrous consolatory rhetoric and assuaging declamations… Read more »

PAIN
PAIN
1 month ago

Sometimes, people need to ask themselves if their virtues are conscious, self-imposed values or externally enforced or foisted upon them by some third party who refuse to let them explore choices and opportunities.
Are you, as a man, chaste and a Virgin because you decided to be, or na because say babes no let you fuck?🤣
The virtue is in the restraint and discipline not in the lack of choice and opportunities.

Solchibuzor
Solchibuzor
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

PAIN is PAINEEEEEED😂😂😂😂

PAIN
PAIN
1 month ago
Reply to  Solchibuzor

I don’t like What I don’t like jare. Being a volcel, and with much temptation is what l find commendable, an incel on the other hand haven’t done nothing.
Man’s trying to make it look like being an incel is a godlike feat.

Ayotunde Ogunyemi
Ayotunde Ogunyemi
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

Well, although I am not there to prove or dissprove the guy’s story. All I can say is that its possible cos I myself @34 is still a virgin. Not for lack of opportunity cos I have been presented with a number of free opportunity which I declined consciously by God’s grace. And my decision still stands till I’m married, NO SEX. So help me God.

Ayotunde Ogunyemi
Ayotunde Ogunyemi
1 month ago

Well, I grew up from a Christian home and was well thought about the implication of sex. My teenage period was the toughest as my mind was not strong to withstand the urge so I end up masturbating before God helped me through it. Afterward I got stronger and stronger till date🐥

Nam
Nam
1 month ago

At least you’re sincere about masturbation unlike the guy who said he never masturbated, Its hard to believe.

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago

Must be nice o

Nam
Nam
1 month ago

In as much as I admire this, I cant😭😭, its too late already lol

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

V for VIOLENCE

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

WHATTTTT?! You are pained man🤣🤣🤣🤣 I haven’t stopped laughing though. Your analysis is good and there are some truths in there, but the story might just be his own truth though.

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

I am always excited to read from you😂😂😂😂😂this is FAYA🔥🔥🔥🔥

PAIN
PAIN
1 month ago
Reply to  Dangem

In hindsight, I shouldn’t have severely vituperate him that way. I guessed I was too tensed and stressed from not having sleep overnight. Hence why I was so easily irritated. His story must have somehow come across as virtue signalling to me.
I apologize.
You claim to have always been excited to read comments from me, have you been taking note of my comments on here?

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago
Reply to  PAIN

It’s quite understandable but the story smells of hypocrisy on every part. If we are to judge this by the scriptures that guides Christianity, by just lusting after a woman-i mean, mere looking at her and having sexual thoughts-you have sinned. But because he hasn’t crossed the line of penetration yet, that makes him chaste…Nope. And that part of calling others fornicators… Man! But he has cum, not once, not twice🤷…No na! Even if you weren’t tensed and stressed, your comment would still be noticed. And yes, I take note of your comments. You don’t express them from just the… Read more »

Nkechi
Nkechi
1 month ago

Nothing wrong with sexual inactivity And like some have commented it’s not always a lack of opportunity,some consciously made that choice to share it with only their spouse and personally I admire their boldness in a society where sex is a norm it takes a lot to stand on your grounds for what you want and not cave into pressure,you hardly see any case scenario where one is being pressured by “society” or ” peers” to stay chaste,it’s mostly the other way around. Why all the fuss about sex though some of us are unconsciously guilty of making people who… Read more »

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago

I understand, when I say I don’t do alcohol, I get that alot. I decided to take shots in a game 5 days ago and it wasn’t funny after awards.

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago
Reply to  Nkechi

I like this Lady already 😍. Nice one there Nkechi

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

😜😜😄

Eddy
Eddy
1 month ago

In my opinion, sex has nothing to do with spirituality.
Virginity is nothing.
I’ve met devilish virgins and angels amongst the people the writer tagged fornicators. Being a virgin doesn’t just grant you a superpower that stops life from f-ing u sometimes 🤣😂 . Having some hard time also has nothing to do with you not being a virgin. I’ve seen successful “fornicators” so I don’t quite understand the badluck and spiritual hoax attached to losing viginity.

I’m a returning reader. 😉😁

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Eddy

Last last everyone is sipping wickedness lol

Joy
Joy
1 month ago

Virgin at 50 na ur problem be dat o. That’s your choice. Be sure you are not making that choice based on something someone made you believe. Something that doesn’t even make an atom of sense.

👩🏽‍🦯I come in peace.

Bubu
Bubu
1 month ago

This is the first time I’m hearing ladies are attracted to male virgins, they must have lied to him to boost his ego 🙊. Because even men with experience find it difficult to please women and ensure they orgasm, talk more of a JJC 😒.

Regarding your first question, I’ll say it’s both spiritual and scientific, spiritual in the sense that, the way you wouldn’t let just anybody access to your personal space, you should do the same with your body. And it’s scientific not only for reproduction but for experiments to try out new methods 🤣🤣

Joy
Joy
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

Trying out new methods make sense🤣😂

Solchibuzor
Solchibuzor
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

Bubuuuuu.. i was a fake male virgin for a while and my older cousin’s friends found me adorable. You know the way folks adore puppies and pet their heads like kitty cats..yea. Little did they know i had lost mine long before most them older babes.

I think they must have been drawn to his perceived innocence, like most people are drawn to new born babies while wondering how they’d be when they lose ther innocence.

Bubu
Bubu
1 month ago
Reply to  Solchibuzor

Hey Namesake long time no see 😁, it’s obvious you’ve been super busy. Glad to have you back at least for the time being.

I like the word you used ‘adorable’ yes some females can find that adorable and cute because it’s not everyday you get to hear that an adult male is still a virgin especially by choice, but the writer said females are ‘Sexually attracted’ to male virgins. And that’s not 100% true.

Solchibuzor
Solchibuzor
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

Good to be back too Bubu!
I see what you mean now. Well..I think he met ladies who are sexual predators inquisitive on what it would feel like to pop someone’s cherry. They are rare, but i have met someone whom I knew took the virginity of three boys the moment they came of age.
“You 18 now?”
“Yea!”
POP!!..goes the weasel.

Solchibuzor
Solchibuzor
1 month ago

NOOOOOO..
its a lady who took the boys virginity.
The POP is for effect..
Pops are usually associated with young inquisitive girls on bareback. For the boys, it’s usually OOPS. I was like “Ooops, did I just cum?” 😉🤣😂

Bubu
Bubu
1 month ago
Reply to  Solchibuzor

😂😂 Oh my God! I can’t deal with your in-depth analysis right now 🤣.
I’m sure those guys will forever remember her, she’s the real OG 👸🏾🙌🏾

xclusivzik
xclusivzik
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

Method dey finish sometimes

Bubu
Bubu
1 month ago
Reply to  xclusivzik

Lie lie! If you run out of ideas, ask google you’ll be gobsmacked at the endless options out there 🤣

xclusivzik
xclusivzik
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

lol, just remembered the top 100 styles i saw on google and i was like do people do this…wft

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Bubu

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 amateur

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

Well personally chastity is a virtue I always admired and strived to attain. I’m 3 years shy of 30 and I’m proud of my decision to be chaste. Yeah mostly for spiritual reasons just like our narrator. However there’s times where I’d kiss and touch my past girlfriends whenever we got the chance but I never let it lead to sex (dunno and don’t care if it doesn’t make me a virgin anymore). I’d rather avoid a lady if my attraction to her is only based on nothing else but sex alone. Strong companionships and emotional connection is what I… Read more »

Joy
Joy
1 month ago

Meek voice 🤣

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

😂😂 meek voice part got me. But now that I think of it, I think I do have a meek voice just depends on my state of mind.

Hell yeah sticking my guns has saved me from a great deal of trouble(s) who knows what coulda happened if I hadn’t.

Well they’re all exes now and at some point thought me being distant or rigid or just sweet and intense.
Hopefully I hope to get hooked and back into the relationship game and see what life has for me.
You’re most welcome *with a humble bow*

Last edited 1 month ago by Anonymous David
Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

Yeah thanks. Hehehe I’d like to see her (or them) try. I just hope it won’t escalate to being a problem
😅😅 A meek “I do” would sound funny tho.

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

😅🤣😂 good luck to her then cuz I’ve hidden the button inside a treasure chest far away on an island

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

Hehe She’ll be like a female Indiana Jones on the quest to locate the “tickle button” and fulfill her long craved fantasy of hearing meek voices climaxing in closed quarters.
😏😏😝

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago

sure thing, it’s the free bonus accompanying tender loving care 😄😄😜

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago

🤣🤣🤣

Nam
Nam
1 month ago

You people actually exists, interesting…

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago
Reply to  Nam

You people what?? Explain please

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago

Meek voice David sounds like my BFF that year. 😆

Anonymous David
Anonymous David
1 month ago
Reply to  Didiong

What later happened to him/her?

Butty
Butty
1 month ago

There was one myth I heard in secondary school that if two virgins marry, their kids will be so intelligent 😭😭😭. I held on to it but getting to the real world, I met more of female virgins and never found a guy who was clean. Even as young as we were then, I heard boys talk about fucking one or two girls.  Now I have given up 😂😂😂, no virgin man any where o. And since I’ve explored the beautiful art of sex as my man knows how to give an orgasm, I will not like to date a… Read more »

Butty
Butty
1 month ago

😂😂😂 thank you but I’ll pass

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago
Reply to  Butty

Due to the society and believes. Male virgins won’t boldly tell you they are virgins. These days its rubbing off on ladies too and they are ashamed of their virgin status

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago

I have a lady who is 28years plus and is a virgin. She never had ich of the other things like kissing and romance until this year. I asked her why the decision, she says she just made the decision since childhood based on things around her. When I asked about the decision go kiss and co now, she said she feels like she is finally with the person and getting to the end, but still not ready for penetration

Butty
Butty
1 month ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Use me as a case study, if I were a virgin, I wont be vocal about it 😭😭

Dont judge me o

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Butty

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭 I am cry laughing

Didiong
Didiong
1 month ago
Reply to  Butty

What a myth🤣🤣

King
King
1 month ago

Both Male and female virginity is a matter of believe system, and they were propagated to uphold mortality but it is not a big deal to me. Unfortunately, most of the parents that preached dignity in virginity married very early in life. The economy and every facet of life were okay at their times, they got married very early so they didn’t have to endure what they want us to endure. So, if you like be a male or female virgin at 100, it doesn’t make you better …you just punished yourself because I’m certain that you are sexually active… Read more »

King
King
1 month ago

What makes virgins best at oral sex is experience.

Since they won’t have penetrations and they need to be satisfied, oral sex is the only option they have and they get better at it with time.

I have met with virgins and the longest and epoch-making oral sex experiences I ever had were with virgins.

But their general experience about sex can be poor and difficult to catch-up most of the times.

They end up suffer more of what they were trying to avoid.

xclusivzik
xclusivzik
1 month ago

When people carry this virginity on their head and still make out with the partners or even do other sexual stuffs, to me it’s hypocrisy, It’s a different thing if you want to just stay away from sex maybe you dont like the after feeling guilt, But you saying you are holy or you will be more “spiritually blessed” if you dont penetrate, but you kiss , give a BJ and do other sexual things, omo you are deceiving yourself.

xclusivzik
xclusivzik
1 month ago

lol, what does that tell you….WOMEN ARE VERY VERY SELFISH…..To enjoy a blissful relationship you as a guy has to accept that

Skola
Skola
1 month ago
Reply to  xclusivzik

Someone in the ICT unit should pls screenshot this comment and ‘mistakenly’ project it during sermon next Sunday.🙏🏼 Enough sermon for the day! Make sure you do so after offering o 😉. Unless you want make your pastor no see money chop.😂

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

https://mutteringminds.com/male-virginity/#comment-5036

I mean, all churchgoers (and even pastors too) need to read this comment by @xclusivik.

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Skola

Violence every where😂😂

Dheyveed
Dheyveed
1 month ago
Reply to  xclusivzik

That’s where I am a bit confused. I think we need to redefine being chaste. Kissing, BJ etc but no penetration is chaste. I’m confused. Taking a religious view, looking at a woman lustfully would mean you have committed the same offence as someone who “do d do”. We really need to stop using the religious narative to suit our stories. I’m not saying being a virgin is good or bad(everything definitely comes with its pros and cons) but referring to them as fornicators doesn’t sit well with me. Whether sex is spiritual or not is largely dependent on your… Read more »

Tunde
Tunde
1 month ago

Hmmm, being sexually active is a choice for me. Like the writer, I was raised in a godly home. To be chaste and all. Wait till marriage. In fact, sex was a forbidden topic in my home – still is. I used to be like the writer too, I thought sex had a spiritual meaning, lol. That’s weird because I lost my virginity as a full time Christian to a fellow brother who was even our CM. At 19, when I gained admission to the university, my mom still talked to me about it and assured me she believed I… Read more »

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Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Tunde

Ah so someone can use stickers here😂😂😂😂, let me go and dig some really funny shit

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

Thing is, whether you’re spiritual or not, this thing called ‘konji’ is no respecter of persons or age. 😭😂 No judgements; it’s natural, part of what makes us humans with hormonal fluids running through our bodies. Asides food, shelter and clothing, sex/love is another basic necessity of adults, especially if you’re sexually normal/active. Your brain needs regular doses of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, etc for proper functioning, which sex often provides. I get that abstinence and chastity are often preached by religion and culture as a means to control what we do with our bodies, which can be good, cos we… Read more »

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

It is what it is o.😅

Yea, it’s my first time COMMENTING here. I’ve been following the community ‘Nicodemously’ since last year Nov or so.😂🤦🏻‍♂️👽 (Na me be the Chidi that sent you an email recently. Skola’s just a pseudonym. 🤫🤐)

Looking forward to more active engagement in here.✌🏽

Jay
Jay
1 month ago

I was brought up in a religious home. Sex was a taboo, zero sexual education. I had been masturbating since i was 14, and the only sexual education i had came in form of a prophecy when i was 19 loosely translated as: for you not to lose your glory, don’t have sex for the next 7 years. Oh, it messed me up sexually. i became an oral sex pro, became a breast and porn addict, and eventually had sexual intercourse at 26. Now? I don’t believe sex is that spiritual. I am an emotional man, so i like to… Read more »

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

Lol, this leaves me with a million goosebumps and fucked up nostalgia. @Jay says the only form of sexual education he got as a teen was through prophecy lmfaooo!🤣😆 I attended a seminary secondary school and, in my SS3, our chaplain, through an altar call, tricked us boys into taking an oath not to have sex until marriage, using a padlock for symbolism. 😂🤷🏽‍♂️😭 Although, I didn’t give a shit abourrit, a lot of my classmates were terrified about the so-called ‘implications’: a ‘padlocked destiny’ lmfao 😂😆. But, of course we outgrew the scam, and I know a handful of… Read more »

Skola
Skola
1 month ago

Lol, asineh. I gerrit.

Religion has done more psychological harm than good. 😒

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Skola

😂😂😂😂😂😂 fear for hold me that year too o

Nam
Nam
1 month ago
Reply to  Jay

The prophet or whoever he is need to be punished. And the irony be say he go dey nack steady o

Naomi
Naomi
1 month ago

So what do we say about people giving the advice that sex isn’t a good thing but is guilty . Or school officials especially in private universities trying to act like sex is an abomination or being with a guy in fact is a very great sin . Not really related but the hypocrisy irks me, like you did worse during your time ! Well me I don’t care sha e no concern me

Nam
Nam
1 month ago

I had a good time glancing through the comments. Muttering Minds your topics are always hot o. Keep it up. Its time I started special envangelism for this blog, it deserves more readers🙌🙌. Thankfully the internet never forget, bur God forbid you stop writing, I will recommend this blog to my kids, and even use my daddy rights to impose it on them. I hope the originality is maintained forever🙌🙌

Nam
Nam
1 month ago

You’re welcome🙌

St3ph
St3ph
1 month ago

I grew up in a Christian family as well & yes I know that sex id spiritual. Matter of fact I was a V till after the university. Here’s the thing I made a conscious effort because I honestly wanted to keep it, but It was even way deeper for me because as a teen child I had a bad “forceful experience” with an older guy hate to use rape cos of how ewww it feels, hence this made me even detest every “dick tom & harry “ I even had a friend say i need help. After school I… Read more »

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago

I am 26 and I am a virgin. Over the years my opinion about sex has transcended from just an object of spiritual significance to something of just mere biological necessity and now just a tool for both spiritual and biological phenomena. I grew up in an environment that give a dim look to premarital sex but at the same time place some leniency to defaulters. That means even if u happen to have sex and people know about it you won’t be crucified. So this is enough reason for one not to feel too uptight if one gets to… Read more »

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Uju, Uju! Hmmmm, this topic her as e b o. I grew up in a home that is not so religious. My mom practices the 3 religions, just to feel secured and blessed. As long as blessings are involve, the religion doesn’t matter, for her, all of the na the same God. My dad on the other side, is mixed. In my childhood, he was a Christian, latter, he stopped going to church, then he became a Muslim to continue his mom’s religion, after she died, cos non of his siblings are muslims, and his mom came from a strong… Read more »

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Uju, according to the Bible, men have5 more at stake than women, when it comes to fornication and adultery. Contrary to the popular belief out there, the Bible put more demands on men than women, on this issue of sex and marriage. In the old testament, it seems like, women was charged with more responsibility, and the Jews culture didn’t make it easy for women. But when Jesus came, everything became clear. Jesus said, if a man looks lustfully at a woman, he has sinned. He didn’t say, women have to wear a certain kind of cloth, or live a… Read more »

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Thank you too, for this platform and how you take time to engage everyone. I can only imagine, the demand and stress.

You are doing well, Uju👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿

I get it with the traditional religion example. I think, it happens in every religion. Every parent who take their faith seriously, usually do everything to make sure, their children follow them.

Yea, I had a great time at church, I did about 2 services, how about you?

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

It is always nice to meet people do what they love. Watching them do it, hits different in my head.

Haba! Why didn’t you make it to church na, Uju?

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Ha! Going to church regularly is a must o, biko! Uju, this discussion can’t end like that. If your faith is very pertinent to you, then going to church “must be a must”. Irrespective of the many bad image, out there about churches, going to a church is still a must. If one church is not doing it for you, go to the other one that will do it for you, by all means, go to church regularly. However, make sure, it’s a “Jesus basesd” church you attend sha. Uju, plz bear with me…I need to emphasize on this church… Read more »

dosbambi
dosbambi
1 month ago

Hmmmmm, it is well.

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago

It’s funny how when it comes to sex talks, some people will like to make others feel like they are sinners. Adultery/fornication is a sin against your own body, so mindless of how you “cummed” by handjob, blowjob or penetration, since it’s not your legal partner, you have sinned. It’s like vegetarians accusing non-vegetarians of being siners…did you create the vegetables you eat yourself? If no, just eat and don’t stress us here. My mum tied my virginity to unlocking generational blessings. Those things are just to keep us from troubles – unwanted pregnancies, STDs, distractions, etc. And the truth… Read more »

Dangem
Dangem
1 month ago

Ha, my parents wanted to send me to boarding school tho, not seminary…but my God pass them😂

sydney stephen
sydney stephen
1 month ago

Wow. Pretty little for y’all to readily ascribe male chastity to lack of opportunity. Its not as if that isn’t the case for some people but you’re gonna think the same for everyone else? Haha. Id hate to get public with my own story for personal reasons tho but ill say i can relate with his story on many levels and i hope he is unbothered by these opinions. Strikes me as such tho lol. Love you, man, and thank you for more enlightenment. I blame nobody for their opinions anyway cuz in life, one only knows as much as… Read more »

sydney stephen
sydney stephen
1 month ago

Haha. Let anyone glean from it what they may. I feel like when everyone takes a good look into their beliefs they may find something. I honestly feel like thats not a priority for a lot from what i can see in the comments. And my own story is too complicated and sensitive for the public giving the status quo and its not something i wanna have on the internet otherwise it’s something I’d have loved to share. I feel like majority of our society is still too close-minded and immature for certain kinds of people to be sharing certain… Read more »

Georgyy
Georgyy
1 month ago

I’ve never believed in the concept of virginity because I didn’t even really know the meaning of virginity before I lost mine at the age of 11 to a corper who was serving in my Dad’s school donkey of years ago. Since then, I’ve not looked back, I smash any pussy that willingly gives me permission to smash. As such, I’ve never been interested in having anything to do with a virgin. Once you tell me you are a virgin, I’m off. I couldn’t understand why one will decide to deprive his/herself of this great scientific pleasure planted on our… Read more »

Georgyy
Georgyy
1 month ago

Thank you dear. I honestly like the open mindedness of people on this platform, you especially. Maybe if it’s possible, I would love to have a personal chat with you(probably on WhatsApp). I’ll be glad to atleast know you either by seeing your pic, video call or even in physical 🙏😜

Georgyy
Georgyy
1 month ago

Okay, I’ll be expecting that mail. I hope to find your WhatsApp digits on it too😜🙈

o baby
o baby
1 month ago

smiles…… there’s this guy who came visiting one thing led to the other we were all touchy from the way he was doing I deduced he was weird inna way we haven’t even started anything he’s precum was all over the bed and my body i sha kept cool cos I hate been messy all in the name of sex while giving him head so he’ll be hard baba released in my mouth o without been hard all measures I tried to make him hard was in vain and that was the end of the sex whatever btw us …he… Read more »

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