“Is it a sin? Shouldn’t it be just masturbation?” I ask myself these questions every time I feel that sensation inside my vagina. An urge so tingling, I twitch my legs and if I’m seated, I move my buttocks quite mildly but intensely felt in my clit. I want to touch myself so badly, and the urge only gets higher, making me a slave to it, a slave who wants more. I look around to see if the coast is clear, without much looking, I find myself in the toilet, trying so hard to quieten my moan whilst I take my fingers in and out of my vagina streets. “Ahhh mmmm ah”, I moan, and pant slowly, suddenly there’s a wet rush streaming out of my vagina. Oooooh, what a mad ass satisfaction. I put my panties on and head to bed, but guess who wakes up? My conscience! How can one be so satisfied yet feeling enormous guilt? Who crowned masturbation a sin?
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If anyone ever told me that I, a Christian girl brought up with gory tales of hellish fire and brimstone when I do as little as stealing a piece of meat from my mama’s pot, would be confessing to masturbation, I would have differed. Not because the fact about me is a lie but because it’s a part of me I intend to continue enjoying in secrecy than tell anyone about it. No one who masturbates openly declares it and even when caught, it becomes the most revered embarrassing moment of our life.
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My First Sensual Realization
But can you blame this church girl who was raised to believe that spending too much time washing her vagina was a sin worthy of purgatory? My first realization of my sensuality was when I was about 9 and my mother would beat me for dry-humping a pillow. I, an innocent girl who didn’t even know what dry-humping was, received lots of cane, slap, and pepper-in-the-vagina threats many times than I can count from my African mother who believed anything abnormal was spiritual. At that age, I felt the urges, it was a sweet feeling without a name, I had no sex education, and the only way I could appease what I felt was by sliding my vagina on a pillow.
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If you were raised by such a mother you’d likely understand what my experience was like. Need I mention the exorcism events, aka, deliverance sessions when I was forcefully taken to the pastors to get the demon out of me? I loved my mother and she was the most amazing and sacrificial mother when it came to my wellbeing. She was doing motherhood the best way she knew how to but she was blinded to the changes that were occurring during her time. The same way we pretend that child molestation doesn’t happen within our homes or that 1 out of 4 children gets exposed to sex and sexual experiences right from the age of 6. Well, I’m one of such children who can’t tell exactly when I started getting stimulated sexually.
But as a clueless child, teenager and sister, I saw the confusing images on TV of women on women, men on men, men on women, and other horrifying things that first made my heart pound. After the heart-pounding, my brain gets stimulated so much that I had to practice the overwhelming images in my head. My parents paid no attention however and likewise were ignorant of the erotic magazines my brothers hid between their clothes and the porn they watched with zero volume when everyone was asleep. Well I always pretended to be asleep but made sure to position my head rightly so I could watch too.
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To backtrack a bit, I remember the first time I saw the erotic CDs in the house, my brother had brought them home. I was still a little girl, and on the first scene of bumping into him watching these, I developed a huge shock. The images were so terrifying, I promised to throw the CD’s away without his knowledge. Eventually, I threw them and was severely beaten by him. As time went on, I always bumped into my brother masturbating, I’ll feel irritated but he always wore no remorse. These acts damaged me psychologically, and worse off, I became an addict too.
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I can say I lost my virginity to a pencil or any other object I was using to reach pleasure. I fumbled through teenagehood with frustrated unsatisfactory masturbation and mastered the skill when I neared adulthood.
Grown Older…Still Masturbating
My feelings of heavy guilt, shame, a better understanding of the side effects of excessive masturbation, and personal beliefs helped me slow down as I grew older but it’s hard to stop something that grew up with you. It’s like trying to shed your skin.
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I’ve come to accept some things about myself: that I was awakened early and it’s not my fault. I can’t enjoy sex outside marriage (I’ve tried it, didn’t work), I get horny like every other woman during her ovulation and as an active sexual being, I need to take the edge by touching myself and fingering my vagina. That’s how I get really satisfied, you might conclude I’m addicted to masturbating but I have stopped beating myself up about something I cannot miraculously change.
Masturbation Has Its Perks
The word ‘masturbate’ has been painted so dirty and I think that we should cut loose some slack. There’s a fine side to every bad behavior, masturbation inclusive. It saves me from piling body counts, why have premarital sex when I can easily satisfy myself sexually with my finger or pencil. Ps. I do not advise putting a pencil in your vagina cause that shit is painful as hell. Might not be able to count how many times I’ve masturbated but I can count how much I’ve had sex. In a society where trying to abstain is an up the hill task, masturbation should not be condemned.
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I see a guy I want in my bed, I lose my senses talking to him, and I know myself, if he as much gets in an enclosed space with me, I’ll take his pants off. But guess what brings me to order? Masturbation! The moment I flick the bean, it’s like a scale falls off my eyes, there’s no way in heaven I’ll be wanting him in my bed again. Recently I heard of a close friend who attempted rape, I felt too sorry for him and I thought “if only he had just wanked, I’m sure he would have been able to control himself”.
Not advising anyone out there to masturbate, no. If you aren’t sexually active, awesome for you! If you masturbate, I don’t think you should beat yourself up too much. Like I said earlier, trying to retrace my steps in adulthood feels like shedding my skin, so I’ll just embrace the perks. I argued with myself on what to tell and what to keep unsaid here but I decided I’ll be as open as possible, especially since there are so many other ‘ladies’ out there like me who can’t share their truth. Emphasis on ‘ladies’ because compared to men, we are more ashamed to say we masturbate.
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So on a scale of 0-10 how much guilt do you feel when you masturbate? Notice there was no prior question like “Do you masturbate”, cause I know how uncomfortable that question is and I bet that your answer will be a hesitant “No or Yes”. If anything, sharing this part of me on Muttering Minds I believe is a step to make me feel less guilty, and I hope that you are free in telling me about your masturbation experience too.
Are you addicted to masturbation? What were your early experiences like and how is it now? Are you convinced it’s a sin? Also if you broke free from the addiction, I’ll appreciate it if you can let me in on how you succeeded. To the readers who don’t masturbate, I’ll also love to hear your unique opinion about it. Please indulge me, by leaving your sincere comments and thoughts, by the way, it’s my first time sharing my story on Muttering Minds lol.👇👇
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I was looking for two people who could confidently narrate their masturbation experience. The intention was to feature a male and female in one post so it would be balanced. I had a male friend in mind and reached out to him but it was hard to find a female. However as fate would play, I was discussing religion with Anon (the owner of this story) and she used masturbation in relaying an example to me. Ding! Ding! I knew from that moment our discussion was not by chance. Immediately I requested if she could let us in on her… Read more »
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Oh really insightful write up. This is one topic people shy away from. Ladies especially. First, yes I masturbate, used to feel guilty after the act but as time went by i just shove the guilt off my shoulders, after all, it’s my body. Addiction is what is bad. But honestly, it’s the only way I reach orgasm. As a matter of worry, I want to mastirbate after sex, cause that’s what gives me the toe curling, earth shattering orgasm. One worry I have tho is what if i have hormones that demand sex during pregnancy, will i masturbate despite… Read more »
Key word: “Afterall its my body”
About masturbating when you have a baby inside you, people have sex when pregnant so it shouldn’t be different so long as its not a sharp object (I think). There are mild dildos🤭
And another option can be training yourself to reduce the frequency prior to being pregnant, this should help keep you in check. I relate to the sleeping part, the sleep afterwards is so sweet😉.
Thank you for being open Game Shakers 👌
Masturbation is one of those things I think of if it’s a sin or not. The writer read my mind about it saving one from premarital sex (me as an example). In my opinion, it’s a sin if it is an addiction just like I won’t say a smoker is a sinner, so far they are not addicted.
My fear is having kids who masturbate at a pretty tender age. I hope I can oversee this as a parent. Per your question, yes I masturbate.
I bet everyone battles in their minds if its a sin or not. Like you said, I’ve also thought this through on the basis of addiction. For instance the Bible says “Do not be drunk in wine, wherein excess”, in my opinion, the verse didn’t say we shouldn’t drink at all. The addiction to wine is what makes it a sin, likewise masturbation (I stand corrected)👌
Mehn parenting gets tougher, you just have to be prepared. We share the same fears actually 😫😫
Yes, about wine too, if its excess then its a sin. May God help us with our kids😔
Lol amen 😅
Thank you for bring honest in your response and for relating to my story. I have similar fears about my children too. However, I feel taking to children the moment they can understand basic things will help prevent them masturbating or watching porn at an early age.
Also, being open to the reality that, whether we teach them or not, they will be tempted to have sex/masturbate, will give us a better idea of how and when to talk to them about sexuality and their body.
😅😅😅 you showed up!! Thank you once again for sharing your story ❣
My pleasure. Thanks for sharing 🙌
You’re welcome 💕💕
Like the poster, when I was little, my mum found me fondling my dick in a suspicious way, she reported to my dad and they both thought I was possessed and held several deliverance sessions for me by themselves in the house (pastor parents). No one really asked me anything, they did what they think was best. They had eyes on me 24/7 but what they didn’t know was that it was through playing mummy and daddy with kids in the compound. I am not an addict but I masturbate to rid blue balls when bae refuse to comply lol.… Read more »
Hmmm interesting…chronicles of “mummy and daddy” lol. I have a story on that but its exclusive to Naked Minds lol.
I’m guessing the prayers didn’t change you right?😶 Parents should invest more time in parenting than prayers really. Sometimes counselling should come to play not “die by fire” ish lol.
Well let me shoot my shot, I’m looking for someone who can write vividly on ‘Blue Balls’, it’s about time we feature a story on it here😁.
Hehehehehe I am not good at writing.
Let me be the judge lol😅
Well, someone can give me a pen tho’
For real? I’ll gladly do. Please let me know if you’re serious about writing so we can work it out. Thank you 🙌
Ooo wow
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I played mummy and daddy ehn
Hahaha who didn’t 😄
That mummy and daddy thing is another story in it’s own. Mhen, my childhood was kinda messed up but I’m glad I’m in a better place that I can put out my story boldly here. Thanks for relating Ade.
Can there really be an end to these mummy and daddy playing among kids?😫😫… I am lowkey against kids drama during end of the year parties where they act mummy and daddy roles. Schools should scrap such scenes, I feel its part of the genesis of the real “mummy and daddy” plays.
I agree with you. I don’t know how they don’t see it as a problem.
Should be trashed 🚮
This!!!!!
O yes!!!
For africa we get problem tbh. Attaching spirituality to everything. I masturbate and I don’t feel an ounce of guilt. I don’t see it as a sin and nobody can tell me otherwise. I should also correct an impression the writer has, Masturbation and Sex dont feel dsame and masturbation can’t replace sex. It’s not an alternative for sex at all, rather a supportive something. When I rub one in, I get a temporary release of the sexual urges but deep down in my mind, I still wanto dip my pencil in a sharpener. Sometimes I use it as preparation… Read more »
Really?? As a preparation for sex? This is actually my first time hearing this.
About masturbation not being the same as sex, I’ll say not one size fits all. The writer indicated that she’s tried sex before but enjoys masturbation more. It depends on the individual.
Meanwhile suruka should sign you up lol. Thanks for sharing 😅
I bet the writer has been having shitty sex, hence her conclusion. Understandable. Masturbation CAN’T replace love making.
The prep for sex thing we learn everyday. It was an old high school trick we learned from a senior that worked like magic then. Helped a nigga last longer in bed.. I have no clue why it worked, probably our mentality and mind doing the magic.
I’ll gladly take the suruka job with open arms🌚
😂😂😂😂😂 let’s put together a proposal to Suruka lol. Hmmmm what a trick, any other guy who has the same orientation should please comment under this, I want to check something lol😅
Lol, naso I hear too
😂😂😂 taste and come back with a testimony lol
It’s very true
Ooo wow
Masturbation could more satisfying than sex for some. At least I’ve heard one or two guys said same. We need to bear in mind that the author stated masturbating long before sex and for many more reasons she might forget to include in the write, masturbation really could be more satisfying for her. Talking about the jacking offf right before sex, most of us guys believe that the first round is often short lived by a lot of factor and rather than bore the lady with 2min first round, jacking it off could do the magic. Anyways for me I… Read more »
Hahaha😂😂😂 you have terms and conditions. She either signs up for BJ first or no deal lol.
Yeah I feel you, the writer actually included that masturbation is more satisfying, its somewhere in the end of the article. Thank you Donilove 😅
Interesting. And I thought I was the only one discomfited by the 2min first round…So nothing is wrong with me. Need to try this hack ASAP. Stay tuned for results
*In my best Daddy voice* : “Funkeeeeeee!!! There is work ooo…”
😂😂😂😂😂😂 you’re so hilarious. Make sure to come back with a testimony 😉
Hmmmmmmmm! Ooookayy
Lol😂😂
E choke!🤤
Lol🤭
Preparation for sex, mad o😂.
You’re right about the shitty sex though but I’m glad the others were shitty because I’m truly and patiently looking forward to the real thing. If it’s not mind blowing, I don’t wanna do it. Lol
Hmmmmm. Well, I don’t ask if masturbation is a sin or not. Premarital sex is a sin I did it anyway because I’m aware of provision for forgiveness of sin. The first time I masturbated was few years ago and it was because I was sex starved, I needed to kill the urge and get rid of sperm from my system, it helped but masturbation can never replace sex …it’s not even close abit; I did it anyways, half bread is better than none😉. What bothers me about masturbation are the disadvantages: the sense of lack of love and acceptance,… Read more »
Hmmm now I’m concluding that guys have it way differently. It could be ultimate satisfaction for a lady but less than a fraction for men. However, I’ve read about men really addicted, there was one I read he admitted that he takes breaks even at work to masturbate and he couldn’t get satisfied without it. Perhaps we should conclude that the percentage of men who see it as a holy grail when compared to sex is maybe 10%. Lol you masturbated two days ago, there’s every tendency you might do so again. Just saying cause it can be really hard… Read more »
Of course, people get addicted to it, but that doesn’t mean that they are fully satisfied by the act.
I certainly will, I’m not sure I can help it now.
Okay well said
Well said. I think King just needs to accept that masturbating is a benefit for now instead of fighting the urge and letting the guilt stay with him after masturbating. And of course, don’t overdo it.
You hit the nail!!
Dang! Just like you have said, masturbation is something else for women.
😉😉
Masturbation is addictive and very hard to stop, I hope you can
Well he sounds sure 👌🏿
Yes i do masturbate and it’s surprising that it became my go-to fix when I got married. Leaving several continents apart from hubby. On one hand it gives me a temporary satisfaction (makes me happy btw) and helps in my decision to stay faithful to our union. On the other, the guilt after indulging is huge! Moral conscience kicks in and I start getting anxious about how my kids would turn out. But I have come to understand that my guilt is not from the act but from where I get to be in the mood which is porn videos,… Read more »
Ooook I get you, like you mean having to go watch porn yeah? That comes with guilt too, I feel that way also. You start feeling you’re not being true to yourself especially if you are someone regarded in high morality.
Thanks for sharing Sweet16❣, I felt lazy spelling your entire handle out😅😅, also tried pronouncing it but bit my tongue lol😆. Anyway, I hope you and hubby can be together soon❣
😅😂 it’s pronounced k’s sweet16. Amen O soon enough🙏🏾
Ooooo😂😂😂 I couldn’t have guessed. Nice! And yeah, Amen 🙏
I think Masturbation is a normal healthy expression of sexuality. As long as you aren’t spending time that you should be doing homework, pursuing male/female company, going out with the boyfriend/girlfriend or to family dinners, at home alone busy Masturbating. I do not judge Masturbation from the perspective of whether it’s a sin or not. The problem is about how compulsive the desires to masturbate are, the severity of its recurrence and the intensity at which you do and if it’s starting to cost you some things. Because one can get addicted to good things too. With you, I sense… Read more »
PAINNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN how are you? Been a while really, are you good? I presume life happened right? 😅 You wrote very valid points without mincing words, typical Pain lol. I also like that you included a non-guarantee note concerning your proferred solutions. Although the mind is a powerful too and hard to control, if the writer is dedicated, it’ll be a positive turn out. Thank you Pain, all you stated will be useful to many readers as well. Meanwhile Jules asked of you in a previous post lol, said she hasn’t seen your comment in ages and unfortunately this is not… Read more »
Life really happened, things I cannot begin to talk about on here. I had to take time off the internet. As regard the non-guarantee caveat, I had to, for disclaimer, as there are no absolutes. it might work and it might not. They’re merely suggestions, not fact based. it’s not a one size fit all kind of thing. everything boils down on her determination and how resolute she’s on stopping. My regards to Jules, hoping to see her in the comments, it’s really good to be missed. I was going to say “Tag me, whenever she comments” but you cant.… Read more »
Ooo sorry about the hiccups, I trust you’re better now😅
Your suggestion on the tag is brilliant, I’ll communicate it with the web developer, hopefully its something we can incorporate. Thank you and I sure will send your regards to Jules. I will email you this weekend 👌
One day admin you will miss me too, just that I always change my name lol
😂😂😂😂 of course. I should take note of your email address then.
Please do😁
I will 😅
You brought a blog post to a blog post. Double dose for us. This is enlightening
Yeah yeah, Pain is kind❣
Omo! This is a whole article on its own 🙌. I’ll respond to your inference and suggestions. Yes, it used to be an addiction but not anymore. There are usually long gaps between my masturbating experiences and my triggers aren’t necessarily porn. Believe it or not, some women get horny for no reason other than because they are ovulating. Sometimes, I do it because an innocent image triggers it and yeah, even though I don’t intentionally seek out porn sites, I check out porn when I feel the urge. Meanwhile, such situations are verrry rare for me now and I… Read more »
😅😅 Thank you for trusting Mutterers with your story. About your brother-in-laws dick, I’m trying to understand the narrative here.
😅😅 Thank you for trusting Mutterers with your story. About your brother-in-laws dick, I’m trying to understand the narrative here.
Hehehe, his dick was obviously outlined in his shorts, you get?
Oooo yes🤭
You made a mistake somewhere
Masturbation addiction is worse than any other addiction or harder to stop
I’m sure its easier to stop heroin or drug addiction than masturbation cause its your body
Drug addiction can be prevented by another party and its noticeable but for masturbation only the individual can stop him/herself and its not usually written on the face so someone can be drowning in the addiction and no-one will know unlike drug addiction and some others
Masturbation addiction is really and messes with your mind
Hmmmm nice pointer! Thank you for the fresh perspective. 🙌
I had to go through my comment to see where I made such insinuations. “People get out of fucking heroin, why would a little thing like masturbation hold you down.” While I agree with your claims, I never said anywhere explicitly that Masturbation is an easier addiction than drugs. I never downplayed the difficulty of quitting masturbation over drugs. I meant that line as some sort of exhortation and morale booster for the writer. I guess the line is a double entendre and the nuance is in the interpretation/understanding. Irrespective of specificity, what one means by his/her words and what… Read more »
Great writeup!!! I said something to someone yesterday that it seems, it’s only in Nigeria that they make you feel that sexual arousal is a sin or spiritual attack…but funny how you see them have 3-5 children…did those children jump down from heaven? Cant ask Nigerian parents that… I masturbate once in a while. It helps me feel relaxed and so it aids my sleep. And anything that makes me relaxed, is worth doing to my body. I did pillow-humping once as a child, it was just play-play o but I felt this release and I didn’t go back to… Read more »
😂😂😂😂 the shade! Well very valid question. 😂😂😂 since I edited this story my head has been having images of pillow humping 😂😂 I don’t know why really. Well so long as you’re not addicted, I believe you’re good.
*pillow-humping*☺️ don’t imagine it. I try as much as possible not to get addicted.
😂😂😂😂okayy
🤣🤣🤣 like the deeper life woman who lives on my street is on a borning spree. Let me shut up sha
😂😂😂 you are rude!!
You get?😂😂😂
Hmmmmmmmmm!! I begin this story this way cos I am currently sighing heavily with much relief. The reason is that, it is actually amazing to have someone project her truth effortlessly the way this writer has just done. I had an incline of masturbation during one of my sex escapades. The guy in question really found pleasure in satisfying me. When I say satisfaction, it means making me cum so hard before penetration. As a Christian girl, it’s very normal for you to feel guilty at intervals when you get engrossed in diverse sinful act, especially Sex. On one of… Read more »
Hmmmm so much sincerity in your lines, thank you. I’m lowkey thinking you’re bisexual, only that you haven’t explored😊. You raised a valid question “why is it called masturbation when I do it myself?” I couldn’t help nod my head in agreement. Imagine my man fingering me or using a dildo on me, what makes that less sinful. Imagine also me stroking his dick with lubricant and he cums…is that less sinful too compared to doing it by myself? Only a few say sex is overrated, and I appreciate them being vocal about it. It can never be the same… Read more »
Her question is similar to my comment, we reason alike
Yea
Dang Tai! The highlight of your comment for me is pointing out why masturbation seems to be allowed and called something else within marriage. I’ve had the same thought too.
I think masturbation should be moralised lol, so that paedophiles and rapists will reduce.
Really nice piece. Imo, masturbation, lesbianism and the likes of it is a sin buh who I’m into judge one who masturbates?
One can break free from it tho buh it takes the very firm resolution of a strong willed person who has decided to really surrender to Jesus and quit being a slave to it.
Very nice piece tho, n to think it’s coming from a lady, I soooooo love that
Thank you Zita, Hmmmm asides from the religious angle of getting free, have you considered spirituality might not be the solution?
Hmmmm let me not talk sha
Feel free Nimi…
Hehehe Zita, I’m a Jesus buddy and I talk to my creator regularly. Sexuality doesn’t have respect for spirituality. If it did, I wouldn’t masturbate on a day I’m fasting. You’re shocked right? I wouldn’t finger myself later in the day after praying for several minutes in the morning. Like Pain said, knowing why you’re doing it will help you know when it’s right to reduce or stop it. Talking about it with Jesus is very helpful but it won’t help you stop it. I’ve been there, done that. Making a conscious effort and giving yourself to other productive things… Read more »
@vividstoryteller plz, permit me to correct this belief of yours, that says “sexuality does not have respect for spirituality”. It is very important for you to know and believe, that, nothing at all, is beyond spirituality, most especially because you are Jesus’ baby. And moving forward, it will affect your faith and stop it from growing to the place of commanding signs and wonders, as Jesus will have you to get to. All over the world, in different places and among all age range, people have shared their testimonies of how Jesus delivered them from homosexuality, drugs, masturbation, fornication and… Read more »
This is very insightful Dosbambi, thank you. I’ll appreciate if you could complete the narrative on the part of what Jesus told the disciples. Some readers are not Christians, also some Christians reading this might not be biblically knowledgeable. It’ll be so much good if you completed it rather than assume we all know.
Per the rest of your comment, I’ll leave the writer to address it. Thank you ❣
Thank you for the detailed response. When I said sexuality doesn’t respect religion, I didn’t mean God cannot do all things. Neither did i imply that God cannot deliver one from things. Of a truth, it is God’s help that has brought me thus far from a girl who used to masturbate for no reason than because she was exposed to it, to a woman who has a measure of control over her thoughts. If It is so easy to overcome the temptations of the flesh, highly anointed ministers of God won’t fall prey to it. If you know the… Read more »
First, allow me to commend you for sharing your story. It takes “balls” to do so. Kudos! And also, I’m happy for the growth you’ve experienced, I trust that, God who began the work, will complete it, as you so desire. When it comes to issues like this, I do not like to talk about “men of God, or anointed me”. That a man is called for God’s work doesn’t make him/her special. To me, it’s just the same thing with me, being a photographer, a poet and a writer. Only that, his/her own office is more spiritual than mine.… Read more »
I’ve never tried masturbation but I’ve been fingered several times, should I say I indirectly masturbate lol. In my opinion, it’s by far better than jumping from one man to the other and I’ll recommend it for those in LDR to prevent cheating.
Nice point, especially for those in LDR with high libido, not to make it an addiction though.
What an interesting read, in my own opinion, I can’t deter if masturbating is a sin or not, that will be story for another day cause religion this days it’s something am still trying to place but I think its quite harmful when one takes it to the extreme like if it comes between your normal life style, scrolling through the comments I found out that a reader here has already said it all and pinpointed how masturbation Can affect one, Well, the first day I masturbated was when I was taking my bath, I think I was about 19… Read more »
😅😅😅Cum in peace indeed. I enjoyed every bit of your narrative, so that sweet feeling is called oxytocin?? You’ve added to my vocabulary, thank you 🙌 Masturbation really affects sexual life and it can terrible, I like that you’re in control of yours, soon bae will come lol🤣🤣. The day I decided I was going to feature a story on Masturbation here was when I engaged in a discussion with my ex-colleagues (both males) and from one sensual talk to another one of them amid the discussion exclaimed “Guyyyy!!! You fit remember the first time wey you masturbate?” the other… Read more »
Thanks for your response. I just want to point out that no woman can ‘cum’ without proper stimulation, so yes you need to rub her clit vigorously or diplomatically, depending on what works for her. Research reveals that most women reach climax without penetration. The koko of sex for women is getting her so stimulated that she climaxes. So, the lady doesn’t have a problem, she and her partner just need to understand how her body works.
I discovered masturbation when I was 14, after reading an erotic novel about Hollywood. From dryhumping to soap. Oh! Soap ends in painful urination, so saliva and soap perfected the skill. I think masturbation is more beneficial to women than men. It makes an hitherto hard orgasm easier. While for men, it makes one get used to cumming too fast. Is it a sin? To we that were brought up in strongly religious homes, where even having your own opinion contrary to your parent’s opinion is a sin, its always a struggle. You won’t know which to pick: the bigger… Read more »
😂😂😂 your second paragraph had me laughing, more like choosing your evils wisely. You’re the first guy I’ve come across say that using soap is painful. And yeah I agree with you, it’s more beneficial to ladies lol. Thank you Jay😅
What I actually do to prevent myself from masturbating is to keep busy, I notice when one is always busy maybe with work and stuffs like that ur mind won’t even try to get transfixed in it, it’s actually when one is alone and bored. That is when such thought keeps creeping in. And if u are a much busy person , sex itself won’t even come to your mind cause all your body will always crave for after the days toiling it’s adequate rest. Which in turn decreases one sexual drive, o don’t even again self. Bye
😂😂😂😂 you don’t even know again, at the end of the day, too much of everything is bad, abstinence inclusive. Yes I said it 🤭
An idle mind is the devil’s workshop indeed👌🏿
So people masturbate with Pencil? Good to know shaa!
😂😂😂😂😂 it comes in sizes
Usually, I don’t comment on issues like this, cos I don’t have many experiences in this area, and I can’t deny the fact that, many folks are going through it. I’m in that marriage stage of life, where my folks are expecting me to bring a girl home. That is to say, I’ve lived on this earth, for a while, to know a couple of things. So, my comment is solely because of some comments that talked about, the inefficiency of “religion” against it, and primarily for my Christian brethren. Head on; this comment is “Christianic comment”. I don’t masturbate,… Read more »
As usual it’s Dosbambi with the words 🙌🙌 (Hailing you😆) Okay going forward, I’ll point some things I do not agree with in your comment. First, sin is not sin (my opinion). Take the court case for example, does a man who steals face the same sentence as one who commits murder? I bet you spoke from the idea of hell fire, well I don’t subscribe to it either, heard of purgatory? Also during confession in the Catholic Church, a priest does not give the same penance to everyone, it varies per weight of sin. Sin is not sin! Also… Read more »
Like, I don’t understand either😂 There’s no Bible you want to quote to me that can convince me otherwise because what he is trying to say is that only Christians can be saved from addictions. And that’s where he has it all wrong. Even Jesus himself said he didn’t come for the righteous. So, apart from praying for ‘people like me’, what other option of ‘deliverance’ is there for us? We can’t even start talking about how science is almost the same as spirituality, we won’t leave this place. But, therapy is science and science we know has worked wonders… Read more »
Last line😅👌
Ok, thing is…I’m more of the religious guy and because you wrote that, you are Jesus baby, I will reply you in full. So, patiently read. Some of my words might be surprising, you might need to study your Bible to get them, however, feel free to ask questions. First of all, there are many things, for us as Christians to give us victory over our challenges, struggles, weaknesses, fear and everything we don’t want. Aside praying, there is; * renewal of mind, * anointing oil, * communion table, * stewardship, * evangelism, * giving in all its form, *… Read more »
My favourite blogger at the moment, for a couple of reasons like your “wordsmithship” and how you are open with your stories. True life stories have always get my attention, and since I first read my first article here, I’ve remained glued! So, kudos to you for doing such a great job here🤗 Moving on, I feel like…you didn’t read comment very well, or you misunderstood many of my points. First, lemme address the issue of sin. Sin is sin, not because I (or you) feel that way, or because I (or you) think so. It is because, that is… Read more »
😂😂😂😂 @sorry for the epistle lol. When I woke up at midnight and saw the comment notification, I said “its Dosbambi so it gotta be long, better go back to bed and attend to it tomorrow.”😂😂😂 Well well, I read your points with clear eyes and did not misunderstand you. You have your opinion and having acknowledged it, I pointed out my dissatisfaction from a personal angle. I love to think with a clear head, and I have a bias for judging everything with the bible as a leverage because at the end, not everyone reads the bible or is… Read more »
Lols…about my long words. I’m that way with words, however God is helping me to stop overdoing it, and I’m getting better. I noticed a couple of error in my comments, plz do bear with me. Ofcourse, we will continue to remain buddies, and I won’t shy away from always sharing my thoughts on issues, I know about, as i seem fit. I probably would have been able to contribute a lot more on sex issues, had I not get saved in 2013, before getting into the poly after few years at home. I was well set on that path.… Read more »
😄😄😄😄 thank you. I actually like it lengthy, it shows dedication. Let me even spill, someone sent a mail to me concerning your comment thread on this story. He said your conversation with the writer of the story caught his attention the most. I bursted out laughing, a line of my response was “It’s Dosbambi ooo, what do you expect?” 😂😂😂. We can only disagree, but I’ll never condenm you for speaking from a point of faith. A person cannot give what they don’t have, its what you have you give and I appreciate that you’re vocal about it. Concerning… Read more »
Awwwnn! Be making me blush😁 Nice of you, to see my lengthy comments that way. For someone who have always receive “backlash” for talking too much all his life, that means a lot. Thanks. This your “it is Dosbambi oooo…” makes me laugh 🤣🤣🤣 the person will get used to it too. Would have love to see his/her comment here o. Most times, I stay up late when I don’t have work the next day. I’m a photographer o, I won’t mind a referral o. Events and portraits 🤗 *dosbambi_kingdomstar on IG”. Plz, permit my small advert! I really need… Read more »
😂😂😂😂 so you don’t know my name or you’ve forgotten? It’s Uju though. Alright night crawler, I hope you get clients lol. You should have hyperlinked the IG handle though, I’m sure the feature is available to you cause I’ve seen some commenters do so.
I hope you don’t preach a certain outfit to your clients though as per Jesus baby lol🏃🏃🏃
Oh! I don’t know how to go about that.
I know your name, but I’ve forgotten. Names I don’t engage regularly, easily slip out of my mind.
Contrary to how you might have picture me, I’m not one those regular religious folks, you know.
I’m actually open to a couple of things, you won’t expect from religious folks, as they have made it to be. My clients are free to wear whatever they want. The worst that will happen is, I won’t post it on my page.😁🤗😊
I talk am! You won’t post it??? 😂😂😂😂
Uju, I won’t o. In one of Apostle Paul’s epistles, he wrote that; “this freedom of ours in the faith, we shouldn’t use it anyhow….if my action will cause another young believer to fall, and that action is avoidable, then I should not do it, in other to save that young believer from falling” (paraphrased) The young believer who might be following my page because of my Christian values, hasn’t attain the level,I have in the faith, might get into trouble through that post, even though, I may not be responsible for his fall, i have acted as the catalyst.… Read more »
Alright then, whatever works for you.
Happy Easter to you too, God bless you especially for taking out time to contributing here often❣
I feel theres alot of things we accept over time especially when we feel helpless to control it or feel like it’s just instinctive But are they really beyond our control? for example there are those who can’t help but steal(cleptomaniacs) but since we generally (morally and in every other way) frown on stealing we see such people and advise them to seek help I’m not in any way equating masturbation with theft I’m trying to highlight the fact that based on how we may personally perceive an action we would be willing to ignore or frown upon the word… Read more »
Awwwww, I love your deviated comparison, makes sense. Struggles are normal, some take baby steps to conquer, like masturbation addiction. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up. Thank you👌
May I just hug you😢. Thank you for this. You’ve summed up who I’ve come to be and what the purpose of this long article is all about. Thank you🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤
Hehehe 😅
I’m a guy….another advantage (not justifying it) of masturbation for me is great reliever of stress. When im at the point of breakdown or mind in chaos …it helps in bringing calmness to the storm and needed serotonin
Ooo yeah, thats part of the benefits especially when sex is unavailable. Thank you 👌
My take on this as it relates to sin or not sin is this. A lot of things minus the obvious, “do not kill” and the rest. Is not a direct sin but like the saying, goes “the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Nothing is really good or bad, it’s the use/context/effect that determines that. Soldiers kill but are not called murderers because it’s for the security of their borders and lives of civilians… even Israelites did and still do. Same with drinking, its more on the effect of alchol: talking too much, lacking focus and coordination.… Read more »
Heyyyyy Vandy!! Long time no see😄🙌 you’re right, it all starts in the mind, likewise every other thing we do. About “the habit it then creates”, I agree too, just like some people who masturbate started with as little as a pencil to cucumbers and the likes. Habits creates room for more deadly experiments.
I can’t say it’s a sin like dat cos who am I to judge but I know it’s wrong. For the fact that you feel a guilt at the end of the process. Then it should be reduced or stopped.
You’re somewhat right. I once heard that a man’s conscience is his true judge. If you feel guilty doing something then it’s wrong.
But on the other hand, what of those who feel no guilt after masturbation? Will you qualify it as wrong?
So helpful, thanks
Thanks for bringing up this Insightful Topic. Yes I masturbate which I do feel ashamed of afterwards. This hormones of a thing and Ovulation I put them to blame. Whenever I am ovulating I do feel horny which my libido for self pleasuring becomes high. Regardless of me having sex I don’t feel satisfied until I masturbate. I tried reading articles on how to get rid of masturbation but I haven’t seen the right one that suits me. Some will say try to be among people, you should get busy or don’t read any sexual novel or watch erotic movies.… Read more »
Hi Lefty, first I need you to know you’re not alone on this. I figure you want a fast solution to stop but you should know that just like it took a process to get to this level, it takes a process to reducing the frequency and stopping completely. You can try out these steps you mentioned more dedicatedly, you’ll see a difference.
Also you should communicate with your fiance about your dissatisfaction with sex😄. You can also teach him how to touch you rather than allowing him do his thing.
I hope this helps 😁
. It’s almost impossible to tickle yourself (armpit area, and the sides of your ribs) but that same hand is so pleasurable once it gets to your genitals. If God didn’t want us to masturbate, why did he make it only pleasurable once you touch your genitals
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 what a question!!
I don’t masturbate because am always scared of putting anything in my vagina, even my hand. But I feel the urge and just lay down imagining it.
Hmmm are you scared of sex too? 😟