I used to feel absence heightens the rate at which I’ll be missed by people. Well don’t blame me, that’s the reaction I got from friends and family at first sight of seeing me after a long while, considering that, *”where have you been? I’ve missed you”*, was the regular cliché I got from them at first sight.
I realized the ‘you’re gonna miss me when I’m gone’ cliché scammed me when I lost a relationship I’ll forever cherish cos I stayed away on purpose. He missed me to the point that missing me became exhausting, the nigga had to resolve to the available. I would have shown up sooner, but I felt he hadn’t missed me enough. This is something a lot of humans do. Nwanne, IT IS NOT NECESSARY☺.
Except it’s a business trip or educational reasons or a long distant relationship, do not, I repeat, DO NOT ABSENT YOURSELF FROM YOUR LOVED ONES ON PURPOSE. That low-key journey you want to go on both physically and communication wise cause you feel there’s a ‘see-finish’ syndrome involved, IT’S NOT NECESSARY. Show up when you need to, and stay away when you have to. Don’t just decide to travel because you want to be missed, you could end up being misplaced with a replacement.