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Old Age; A Blessing or a Curse?

Writer- Fisayo Oguntade
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Everyone wants to grow old. I mean, I’ve never met anyone who craved badly to kick the bucket in their 30’s or less, except they’re been tormented by poverty and her colleagues; sickness, hunger, beggary, hardship, pity, you know them all. Suicide is the exit. Sometimes I wonder, is it a cliche desire to want to grow old? Or is it something we’ve individually sat down to reflect about and reckoned that we want it… badly enough? If you knew what awaits you in your old age, would you still fancy an entry into the phase?  In my opinion, there are two sides to old age; Beauty and Torment. A man may experience only one, but most men would have their face stuffed on both sides of the plate. At this stage, choice would not be confusion, rather the physical and the supernatural makes the choice for you. 

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Who Daddy Was

Watching my father for the past seven years, I have an elevated share of the torment old age gifts. How do I even begin? Imagine this, one person who almost all your life was well forfeited, vigorous, a lion who would protect and a lamb who could be meek, but never weak. His temper was Jehovian, mercurial and we feared him. Discipline was his love language, I can’t throw many stones of fault, he is African. That’s what we do best, beat our children into submission, beat out any cockiness of bravery they might have. I rated him more infallible than a pope and then poof!! Like a wilting flower, his feathers started to shed. There is no other way to sugarcoat this, my old man has dementia. 

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Before the hit, I remember the good young days. My dad nurtured me and my siblings in ‘the way of the truth’. He is(was) a hardcore Christian. My mum who is currently a retired civil servant at a point in our lives, she was redeployed to Abuja from Lagos where she was with the Ministry of Communications. It was a difficult time for us but my dad ascended the task. At that time, it was me, my elder sister, and my two younger brothers. When she traveled to Abuja, she took along the last-born. She tried to come home at least once every two or three months. At the time my dad was an auto-mechanic, and an elder in our religious circle (name withheld). It wasn’t easy raising four boisterous children on his own, and most evenings I could see the strain on his face.

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I would forever be grateful to him. Not once were we made to feel that we were lacking even though we were not financially buoyant. At the time we lived in a one room apartment, popularly called face-me-I-face-you somewhere near Òkòkó, Lagos State, Nigeria. Despite the slow income lifestyle, we attended a private school with a British curriculum (this has been very instrumental in shaping who I am today). As much as he loved to break his back, my father was also a strict disciplinarian.

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I remember coming home one day from school and not finding our black and white television where it always sat. Me and my siblings panicked and called the neighbors, the only logical answer was that someone broke in and stole it. We later found out that he was the one that took it away. He said we watched too much TV and he wanted us to take reading seriously. This decision made even more deficient my already weak social life. I had no TV to watch, so I turned to books for entertainment. This pleased my dad to no end even though later on, he would complain about my choice of books when I started reading novels and other genres.

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At about the time I finished primary school, my mum resigned (early retirement). It was also around that time we moved to Badagry where my parents owned a piece of land and had erected a structure. Few months later my immediate younger brother would die of acute malaria. Those were rough times.

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The Straw That Broke Daddy’s Back

The fact is that, if you don’t have a loved one who suffers dementia, you have no idea how hard it can be. It is very heartbreaking. When can I say he started to deteriorate? In our religious circle, he was an elder a long time before he even got married. He had vast experience, and over the years had taken on a number of key positions. Unfortunately, he was stripped off his eldership due to some decisions he made regarding his children. To spill the beans our religious circle frowns at higher education but he threw caution to the wind and funded our university education. The consequences rattled him badly. 

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Imagine a moment where a title that crowns your whole existence is taken forcefully from you? It was his identity and the lack of it wrecked him into chronic depression. In 2015, when I finished university, I came to meet a man I almost did not recognize. He was a shell of his former self. I was angry. I pitied him. This (and other factors) deepened my disdain for religion in general. We all knew he was depressed, he would drive his tricycle, return home tired and just eat and sleep. Even on Sundays when we did things together as a family, he would just mope around. 

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Daddy Now

Dementia is a terrible thing to suffer. It’s mutual suffering for the patient and their loved ones. My dad used to be a very avid reader, a trait I took from him, however, something abnormal started to happen. Gradually he couldn’t pronounce familiar words. His activeness amid his circle of friends too started to wane. It became embarrassing seeing his friends and acquaintances try to juggle his memory and he would just shake his head forlornly. 

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As this happened repeatedly, we knew something was wrong. Even my dad knew something was wrong. Often, he would call me aside and tell me he was losing his memory. When I went to his room, I would see notes scattered about, notes he had written to help jog his memory. Being a well educated family, we concluded they were signs of dementia then sought medical help. It’s quite expensive. We did a private hospital routine for a while until my mum insisted on trado-medical treatments because it’s more effective and less expensive. My mum is only a pensioner and myself and siblings are ascending the career ladder, we wouldn’t want something that wrecks the entire ship.

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Dementia has no relapse. Once you have it, it’s progressive. It only gets worse. The only thing you can do is treat it so it can be managed. Now he can’t remember his children’s names and only calls us by our pet names. I’m Omo ìyá (mother’s child), as he fondly calls me. Me and my siblings have left home. I go home once in a while to visit. These visits are always bittersweet. There’s my mother looking all frustrated and worn out from all the care, they’ve been married for 32 years. And then dad, asking me the same questions over and over again cause he forgets the answer every five minutes. At first, he sees me, he smiles, and calls me Omo ìyá. Five minutes later, he sees me and he’s asking “When did you get home, have I seen you today?”

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He likes to wander, and nobody goes along with him. My mom just complains, I know she’s scared but I try to make her at ease cause my dad has assured me sometime that when he walks about, his head is clear and he will always know the way back home. I sincerely hope he keeps knowing the way home. 

Wandering & Dementia – Making Sense of It

One terrible thing about dementia is that the patient believes those around them to be their enemies. Strong word? He uses the word enemy to describe my mum sometimes especially when she tries to stop him from going out and wandering. He retorts that she is holding him back. However, his spirituality tames him perfectly. He has never abhorred violence of any kind. 

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Having a loved one suffering dementia is not something to be ashamed of. Why should anyone be though? It’s an attendant effect of old age. We’ve done well to inform the neighbors and Landlords Community Association where he was once the financial secretary. Almost everybody knows how to react when he keeps repeating questions. 

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Seeing A Parent Fall Sick

Sometimes I ask myself; if my dad had retained his eldership position, would dementia have set in? Probably, I don’t know. What I know is, the fons et origo of his depression was his being yanked off something he obviously loved doing. One thing I’m taking out of all this is never to attach my happiness to anything, or anybody. My dad attached his happiness to his eldership, his religion and fell apart when it was taken from him.

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I love my dad, I know my siblings love him too (it’s so hard to read them). I feel for him. I feel for the loving dad who bought me a bottle of Coca-Cola when I finally learnt how to tell the time correctly. I feel for the loving dad who would trek to my school from his workplace to give me my lunch box when I forgot it at home (I was quite forgetful as a kid). I think he deserves more. I know he deserves more. I also feel for my mum. They love each other deeply, I admired how he was always attentive to her needs and especially loved how he brightened whenever she was around. I can’t imagine how it must be for her now, seeing her once active husband now behaving like an infant. It must be very tough on her.

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It’s painful seeing a parent fall sick especially in their old age where it hits you that they would not be here forever. And a hurtful truth is that life is moving by too fast, you cannot offer them your presence as much as you wished. Taking care of a sick parent (a loved one generally) comes with every shade of fear, it exhausts you emotionally, physically, and financially. Whenever my phone rings, and it’s my mum, I’m scared of what she might say. One way or the other, we’ve all had our share of fear of losing our parents. Some have already lost, some have won the battle that may only last a while, and some would have their experience soon. I’d like to learn about your own personal experience/ unique ways in catering for your parents. Importantly, what do you reckon as best ways we can care for our parents in their old age or in sickness, despite chasing a busy career path or better put amid trying to find our footing in real adulthood. 

The Old Age Gamble

Like I asked earlier, if you knew what awaits you in your old age, would you still fancy an entry into the phase? Dementia is one out of a hundred illnesses that is associated with old age. You don’t know what will happen, the phase is a gamble. I’ve heard some folks say they do not want to live beyond 70, because it can be so stressful. Beyond the age, you have no dream of becoming anything, you just want to witness what your children would become. The excitement of living is dependent on what others can do for you or achieve for you. Except the rich folks who are a bit different in the sense that they do not become a financial burden to their loved ones. Would you like to turn old and gray? What are you most afraid of that could befall your old age? And the ultimate question, is old age a blessing or a curse? Let’s discuss in the comment section.

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2 days ago

I thoroughly enjoyed every bit of working on this story.  Fisayo has been a long time reader of the blog and this story makes him a two-time contributor. At first, when he sent the story, it wasn’t so telling and I was like nahhhh, Mutterers deserve something more revealing 😄. This was where work begun. I appreciate his cooperation throughout the time despite being a busy 9-5 person.  Coincidentally, I worked on this while my mum was really ill and one of those days, she made a statement that she read something somewhere that when the body is approaching 60,… Read more »

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Obong
Obong
2 days ago

Glad your mum is better now Uju.

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2 days ago
Reply to  Obong

Thank youuuuu ❤

Nana
Nana
2 days ago

Glad mummy is better love

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2 days ago
Reply to  Nana

Thank you ❤

Obong
Obong
2 days ago

After no story for weeks, this makes up for it really. It’s no cap one of the best I’ve read here. Reading this make me realise that I haven’t much thought about old age and sincerely I’m one of those who say they want to grow old because everyone is saying it and because of the fear of death too. Like Tuface sang; nobody one die but they one make heaven, that’s me too. In my family we barely fall sick, I thank God for that, never had to take care of a sick loved one except for what qualifies… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  Obong

😂😂😂 the last part, what kind of ps is that?! Would try really, busy schedules driving my consistency crazy.

Good for you mehn, I pray you never have anyone fall sick because it’s scary 🥺🥺. Truth is, no one is ever prepared for anything like this, not just old age, life itself is a gamble. We can only hope for the best mehn 🥺🤲🏿. Thank you Obong

Obong
Obong
2 days ago

Just because i miss Friday stories. The lord is your muscle o

Obong
Obong
2 days ago

And yes, I’m hoping for the best o

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2 days ago
Reply to  Obong

❤❤

Ezeugo 1
Ezeugo 1
2 days ago

This one has loads of hearts to it. My dad would be 75 years by November and we’re planning a birthday party for him. We’re doing all these now that he’s alive and still strong and we’ll do much more every year. I bless God everyday for giving him good health. The man doesn’t look 75.

Evryone I know who has dementia had one point in their life suffered from a very dramatic event. I think dementia is associated with that.

Dementia isn’t something ill wish on anyone

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ezeugo 1

Awww congratulations to your pops mehn 🥳🥳 I wish him more strong years.

Yeah reading about dementia, I realised the connection with dramatic events too. Its unfortunate that less awareness is made about the illness.

Ezeugo 1
Ezeugo 1
2 days ago

Thanks.

Nigeria in general don’t take mental health seriously

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ezeugo 1

Sad to know 😞

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2 days ago

Illnesses like Dementia are usually associated with witchcraft. Just reminded me of one video I saw on Instablog where the old man was on the roof and people were cabashing 😂😂. Baba wey fit get Dementia,chai

Fisayo
Fisayo
2 days ago
Reply to  Ezeugo 1

This is Fisayo. The co-author. Thanks for this. Comments like this gives me buoyancy.

Ezeugo 1
Ezeugo 1
2 days ago
Reply to  Fisayo

You’re welcome dear. Stay strong 💪🏾

Ebere
Ebere
2 days ago

Disclaimer: My Comment is Brutal  I’m not afraid of death. If I grow old and eventually fall sick, a sickness that makes my family and I uneasy and makes me a financial burden, I don’t mind ending my life. I will end my life. It pains me when I read stories about someone who was ill and after spending so much, they eventually died. We humans are weak, we lack courage. It’s unfair how we put pets down but we cannot do the same for us. The economy is bad enough, let those who have life continue to live.  In… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ebere

Wow. Your comment made my lips apart. I’ve never met anyone not afraid to die until this. Yeah I’ve heard some say so, but not with as much conviction as you’ve written. I’m curious though, what’s your family like? Please don’t feel offended by my question. 🤲🏿

Ebere
Ebere
2 days ago

It’s okay, I get the questions a lot when I air my views. You think I don’t have a family worth fighting for I guess. Overtime I learned to function as a single unit, thanks to philosophical knowledge. I also studied philosophy in school so that should tell you something. The more I live, the more my emotions fade. Importantly, I’m happy to have made peace with whatever life brings my way. 

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ebere

Makes sense then. Glad you’re living your truth 😶

Eunny
Eunny
2 days ago
Reply to  Ebere

You see that part about letting loved ones spend money ehn, money they dont even have self. Just shared my family’s experienfe on it

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2 days ago
Reply to  Eunny

Hmmmm

Ebere
Ebere
2 days ago
Reply to  Eunny

Like!! Make it make sense!!

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ebere

Lol

Oguntade Olufisayo
Oguntade Olufisayo
1 day ago
Reply to  Ebere

In all honesty……I feel the same way as you. Pull the plug if I’m almost becoming a vegetable.

King
King
2 days ago

Old is truly a desire everyone but I get scared when I see old people, weak, suffer and dependents. My father didn’t have dementia but he practically became my son and had to give up some of my big dreams so I could take care of him. He was always full of gratitude for taking care of him and his greatest fear so my plan to travel abroad. My Dad died a strong man at the age of 95 but thank God for a caring son that resumed the position of a son. My Mom is in her late 80s… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  King

Awwww 🥺🥺. I hope that you’re able to fulfil those dreams you left pending. Sincerely, having someone to care for you is priceless, a gift. Some people have no one, don’t know where their next meal would come from. If old age came with so much wealth as they say it has wisdom in it, I bet we would all want to turn old and gray.

Even the wisdom self is not guaranteed 🤭

King
King
1 day ago

Thank you Oremi, Akowe.
Yeah, I’m on the dream now.

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1 day ago
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❤❤

Eunny
Eunny
2 days ago

Yesterday I selected old age is a curse on the poll on IG. And this is why… My grandma died above 100, there were speculations that she was about 120 years old lol. Everytime I saw her gave me every reason to not want to live above 70/75 (fair range). She was scary, so scary self.  I remember anytime my mum wanted to travel to the east, she would buy adult diapers and cut our old wrappers into napkin size for grand ma. At a point she had breathing problems and they would admit her in the hospital. My dad… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  Eunny

Hmmm we share quite similar stories, my grandma (my dad’s) and even grandpa (my mum’s) were both ill before they died. Couldn’t really tell the cause of my grandma’s recurrent health crisis but my grand pa had parkinson. Both needed urgent medical funds all the time till their last breath. Although I wasn’t close to either of them, I could tell how tasking it was to my parents. Personally, I do not want to live to a point where I become a burden or start wearing diapers. That’s a sorry sight, there’s nothing beautiful about it. The beauty of old… Read more »

Ebere
Ebere
2 days ago
Reply to  Eunny

Just imagine. Like I said earlier, we need more awareness on death

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2 days ago
Reply to  Ebere

I’m curious again, what would the whole awareness of death be about? I can’t picture how that would play out.

Ebere
Ebere
1 day ago

Lolllll you are curious again 😆. Well i simply meant that we should be educated more about how to deal with death. Not only with the help of religion but other ways. Emphasis on philosophical. In my opinion, religion is weak when it comes to addressing death.

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1 day ago
Reply to  Ebere

Hmmmm I agree with you though 😌

Zhee
Zhee
2 days ago

I actually shed a tear while reading this especially the part the writer mentioned how his abi her dad used to bring her forgotten lunch pack. It reminds me so much of my dad too, he used to do same lol. Is old age a blessing or a curse? Well, sometimes it can be a blessing but I sure do know that old age is scary, reallllyyyy scary. I’m really always happy to see vibrant old people. Like when I’m having a bad day, one of the things that can cheer me up is just seeing an old person still… Read more »

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2 days ago
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Awwww I can tell you had a swell read. Vibrance is indeed the beauty of old age like I said in one of my comments. My parents are starting to age too and it makes my heart beat faster whenever the thought crosses.

Meanwhile, practicing detachment is one of those things that are also easier said than done. We’re attached in one way or the other. It takes really conscious effort to accept defeat when the actions surrounding our ‘attachments’ does not go the way we planned. Been there, its devastating.

Oguntade Olufisayo
Oguntade Olufisayo
1 day ago
Reply to  Zhee

When my younger brother read this piece,his reply was…..mehn, I shed a tear when I read this stuff. Old age is tough mehn. It ain’t easy.

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1 day ago

Awwww… glad you shared with him ❤

Boblin
Boblin
2 days ago

Reading this brought a truckload of emotions, and reminds me of the situation with my grandma. I’m a grandma’s boy if you know what that means. I go to her for everything and she’s the only one that can truly pacify me when I’m hurting. Over the years, I’ve watched her health deteriorate so bad and I get so scared. She’s about 90-something now and sometimes she talks about being tired and wanting to join her friends and on the other hand, still wanting to be here for me till I’m standing firm. It breaks my heart every time I… Read more »

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2 days ago
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This is so beautiful 🥺🥺. I don’t even have a cordial relationship with any of my grand parents but here you are. This is the kind of vulnerability I admire. It makes me want to ensure I’m close to my grand kids (that’s if I live up to the age).

There’s no blue print indeed, one step at a time until there are no longer steps to take. I feel privileged to read about your special relationship with your grand ma. Its so special ❣

Boblin
Boblin
2 days ago

A true blessing, the only way I choose to see it.

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2 days ago
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❤❤

Kaysea
Kaysea
2 days ago

There’s always a great joy that comes with seeing your parents grow old but sometimes the pains outweighs the joy. I know what it feels like taking care of an old one and it’s not really fun because it feels like taking care of a baby only that this time you’re taking care of an old baby that knows things. Sometimes their actions are not of their accord but that doesn’t dispute it been from them. After seeing the pains that comes with old age especially when faced with those sicknesses that can’t be explained, I unsubscribed to the fact… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  Kaysea

That part “only that this time you’re taking care of an old baby that knows things” so deep 😰

Long life is not a proof of a good life spent on earth. For all I know, those long years could be tormented by penury. I love your take on this. Thank you

Ebere
Ebere
1 day ago
Reply to  Kaysea

LOVE THIS

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1 day ago
Reply to  Ebere

Why wouldn’t you??!! 😂😂

Tina
Tina
2 days ago

This is so touching and sad. I remember when my dad had arthritis. It wasn’t funny for us at all. It was so bad that my dad who was once agile was so slow and can’t even walk around like he enjoys doing. The thing not only stopped his movement but sucked his weight as well. My once “fleshy” dad was now too thin that I thought he wasn’t going to make it. Anytime, I get a call from my brother or my mum then, my heart just skips as if something bad has happened to my dad. Throughout that… Read more »

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2 days ago
Reply to  Tina

Wow, I never knew arthritis could be this complicated. I’m glad he’s better now. You make a point there, emotional preparedness is not so talked about. A person could have all the money in the world but if they’re not emotionally prepared, it a different ball game entirely.

JoG
JoG
1 day ago

Interesting story. Thanks for sharing Fisayo. It was pretty vulnerable of you, and kind and strong of you to take care of your father. One of the things that inspires me about the Christian Religion, is it’s main character: Jesus Christ. Dude lived for just 33 years, and 2022 years later, his legacy is still strong. When I hit 33 years old, i declared to all that I am ready to die. No be by old age, it’s how rich and impactful your life is. Old age is both a blessing and a curse. Nothing in this life is free,… Read more »

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1 day ago
Reply to  JoG

Typical of you not to mince words. You know I’ve never really thought about Bros J this way, I’m glad you brought it to mind.

I laughed at the part where you said “you are currently chopping your burial money o” 😂😂😂

Meanwhile so you men love that walking daughter on the aisle 😆😆, it’s beautiful ❤

JoG
JoG
1 day ago

Don’t goan be generalizing o. I don’t know if men love doing that. My daughter picks my temperament. Reserved and not so social. I know it would matter to her for me to hold her hand and give her away to the dude that she chooses. If she truly follows my steps, i doubt there would be an aisle to walk down. It might be a small palour wedding.

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1 day ago
Reply to  JoG

😂😂😂😂 I forgot I was dealing with your gender. Please o, we the Mutterers don’t want parlour wedding 😂😂

Oguntade Olufisayo
Oguntade Olufisayo
1 day ago
Reply to  JoG

Gosh!! I love your outlook on life. Pretty inspiring. That’s why I always hope that if I ever get involved in an accident,it should either be minor or fatal. No disabilities or crutches for me….. lol

Melody
Melody
1 day ago

Currently having a relatable story where old age is setting in. Menopause tells on mothers too. Let’s not forget to talk about stroke(my mum just survived a partial stroke era of recent) I myself didn’t think I’ll survive this bad season till now. All I can say is nawaa😔🥺

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1 day ago
Reply to  Melody

Awwwww so sorry to hear. I’m glad your mum is better now. Menopause a topic we should explore too, we don’t have to wait until we get to that phase. Sending you hugs ❤

Femiwager
Femiwager
1 day ago

My grandpa is 92 years old, and we bond like old fellas. Drink a bottle or two of beer sometimes and I just love the sync in our line of thinking. I know it can be draining dealing with dementia, thinking about it itself is scary. But if there is anything I picked from this article, it’s that we should live life objectively. With regard to attaching so much value to things we love, I know I’m flawed in that respect. I mean, I’ve seen myself angry and all cos I was disappointed, but would I want to give up… Read more »

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1 day ago
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You make a strong point there. Its one thing to grow old and another to have a family that can shower you with all the love you need. Some people were not brought up with love so times like this, the individual is bound to be abandoned. This does not only apply to old age, other mental health issues and sicknesses too. We all need a shoulder to lean on.

Thank you Wager ❤

Anonymous **
Anonymous **
1 day ago

I don’t even know where to start. I can only relate to this regarding my mum (She’ll be 60 next year). I had this selfie with her in April and while checking the pictures, it dawned on me that she had lost her youthfulness. I cried o, cos I don’t even know how I’d feel if anything happened to her. The picture of her in my mind is different from the picture of my late Dad. Man died a young man and that’s the perfect memory of him that I hold on to. Old age is neither a curse nor… Read more »

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1 day ago
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The last sentence 🥺🥺

Sometimes I look at my mum too and I’m sad especially recently. That vibe wanes daily and my heart beats faster. Like you said, every phase in life has its own hiccups, we just hope that whichever we’re faced with, it doesn’t weigh on us badly. Thank you Anon ❤

Ezikel
Ezikel
1 day ago

Well for me I can’t say if it is or not. But what I’ll basically say is that like all things are not the same and are not experienced same ways by individuals, same goes for this. Growing Old I’m not sure I’ll necessarily term it a blessing or a curse. All I’ll say is it’s just part of the normal phase of life.

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1 day ago
Reply to  Ezikel

Hmmm so true, it’s never a one size fits all. However, we cannot overlook the similarities.

Nedu
Nedu
1 day ago

Old age is just something we don’t really talk much about, that’s why I’m really trying my best to age well in good health for my children and grandchildren unborn, sometimes my elder brother that lives abroad always says some harsh truth to my dad, if he dies he is not ready to lavish money on the dead, so he should watch what he takes into his body system cuz my old man doesn’t care of what enters his body system and all, I always watch this animation Rick and Morty, it’s a cartoon but it details the life or… Read more »

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1 day ago
Reply to  Nedu

For real? Rick and Morty is that deep?! I never knew. Two friends I trust their judgement have recommended it to me, but I’ve been hesitant to watch.

I agree with you, Living right is key. I don’t joke with my exercises.

Nedu
Nedu
1 day ago

Rick is the grandfather while Morty is the grandson, but their bond is on a different level, rick does everything to always stay healthy so that he doesn’t become a burden to his daughters family and grandchildren, evry problem morty has with school rick is always there to solve it so that the parents dont complain about him hanging too much with granddad. He’s the king of exploration, he so loves his grandchildren that he made many of them and have their each memories like when you back up your WhatsApp chats that you get to retrieve them when logged… Read more »

muttering minds
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1 day ago
Reply to  Nedu

Wow!! Sounds really interesting and so much to learn from. As I was reading I was imaging the animation 😂😂 cause I’m familiar with that. Would see if its on Netflix 😁

Yusjet
Yusjet
15 hours ago

I remember one conversation I had with one of my Professors back in school. He asked me which was my greatest fear between marriage and old age? I said marriage. He said okay, and asked how about my old age? I couldn’t say a word. He then told me that his greatest fear is his old age. He can manage his marriage, but he’s too afraid of his old age, because that would be when he would depend on people to do almost everything for him even despite having everything himself. He continued and said, once you marry wrong, your… Read more »

Last edited 15 hours ago by Yusjet
muttering minds
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4 hours ago
Reply to  Yusjet

He made so much sense. Glad you were privileged to have the conversation with him. Old age is not undefeated 🥺

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