Pros and Cons of Singlehood

Writer- Ruth Oreva
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Most, if not all of us, go through the single-phase at least a dozen times in our lives and there’s nothing wrong with that. Being single can be fun, especially in college, but it can get frustrating at times too.

No one’s life is perfect. And no matter what your situation is, there are always pros and cons. I’m sure most people would agree with my assessment of the single life. Many of us would like to meet our soulmate, but until that happens, It’s just best if we just focus on the pros and not the cons.

So here are the pros of being singlehood;

Freedom to Control One’s Life: Singles are free to do what they want without having to consider a spouse’s desire, they enjoy more autonomy of their own life, hence they tend to be free to do whatever they want to do.

Opportunities for Career Change and Development: Another advantage of being single is more opportunity for career change and development, singles are not locked into family responsibilities and obligations; they consequently can be more mobile and flexible in the climb up the career ladder.

Economic Independence and Self-sufficiency: Singles can earn disposable incomes with which to consume. For the single ladies, they do not need to depend on any man for money, while for the single men, he may likely spend his money to the delight of himself only.

READ: Singlehood is a gift, too. Your future doesn’t begin once you find a “significant other”. It’s happening now.

And then the cons of Singlehood are;

Loneliness: It can be a major disadvantage of being single. There’s nobody to share your thoughts, ideas, dreams, and aspirations with, you spend most of the weekends alone, wishing someone was around to hang or sit out with,  no soulmate to advise you when you are downcast, most important holidays like Valentine’s Day, Christmas Eve, etc are celebrated alone.

Loneliness can be a major disadvantage

Feeling Embarrassed in Some Social Gatherings:  I know someone is curious to know how? Take for instance when a single lady or man is required to bring a spouse to a company’s Annual party, Dinner events, social gatherings, etc. And here comes the absence of no date in your life, you would often hear side talks and gossips like ” why did he/she come alone?”, ” wasn’t he/she aware of the criteria  of attending this event?”, ” oh poor lady/man, he obviously does not have a date”! These could be embarrassing or worrisome.

Whereas the most frequently cited drawbacks to not being married were the absence of being special to a man/woman, the lack of with whom to share interests, happiness,  and sadness and the worm consciences to parents for not meeting their expectations.

Nevertheless, finding the right mate is the desire of many singles, being single is just a temporary phase. Singles will get married sometime in the future.

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2 years ago

The pros outweighs the cons.

Being single also guarantees absolute peace of mind.

Do Nigerian ladies even ask a guy they are dating what his goals and aspirations are? All they care about is being taken from one eatery to another. Maybe it’s the ones I have met, let me not generalize.

One thing I love about being single is the fact that I get to keep my money. I have noticed that whenever I’m in a relationship, I usually become broke before next salary is paid. The reverse is the case when I’m single.

muttering minds
2 years ago
Reply to  Darius

hahahhahah! relationship turns you into a cash machine, lol. Yeah, do not generalize.

2 years ago

Like someone rightly said, the pros far outweigh the cons. AS a single guy that I am, I enjoy my peace of mind, not feeling obligated to call someone who’s mostly bothered about how many times I should call in a day, I can breathe both mentally and spiritually not to even mention that time airtime is used wisely too cos I cant remember the last time I owed MTN or AIRTEL . hahahhaha! The only thing that I miss about the title boyfriend and girlfriend is just someone to fill that lonely void sometimes and the fraudulent license to… Read more »

muttering minds
2 years ago
Reply to  Obama

Fraudulent license😂😂…you will be persecuted for this! But jokes apart being single comes with so much peace of mind but I heard getting too comfortable is risky🤨.

2 years ago

At least till I get uncomfortable with being too comfortable..: lemme flex this moment.

Even the grim reaper gat nothing on me…let the prosecutors step forward. 😂

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