Everyone wishes they knew tomorrow, some claim they have the gift and a reasonable number, have their optimism fuelled with faith that their tomorrow is bright. The truth is, while we know where we wish to be, we do not know where we will be.
Ever felt so happy at some point that you’re finally getting it right and then you begin to savour the moment but while at it, the light goes off, the rug beneath your feet turns to thick mud, you can barely move your feet. Stuck! Shattered! Not again! Times like these are depressing, you wonder why the good days have a short lifespan and the bad days, the best laugh.
Deep inside we are all scared. Hardly can I go a day without getting pensive about my future especially with the way my success and failure stories keep castling the baton at their own will. Will I leave this world a failure? Or will I have the world reckon with notable flags of my achievements even after I am gone?
Will you forgive yourself if you do not succeed on earth? Before you try to answer the question, what does success mean to you? Have you coined a unique definition of the word for yourself or are you entangled in a merry go round of society’s opinion on what it is and should look like?
I realised that it is our idea of success that makes us not appreciate our achievements no matter how little. The idea of the ‘grass is greener on the other side’ and that ‘where we are is not where we are supposed to be’. Maybe we are right, well only God knows.
Cruising on the best islands in Hawaii, looking dapper on the finest clothes and having oodles of money to afford whatever you want can be your definition of success and that’s perfect. If success means to you happiness, career fulfilment, peace and quiet while raising a family, that’s valid too. My definition of success is a mixture of all these elements. Success to me must have some substantial amount of finance before the other elements come to play.
Whatever our definition of success is, we are working to achieve it. Sometimes the journey gets difficult, I hit rock bottom and I’m tempted to remain there. What’s the fuss about anyway? I’m gonna die someday. Why do I push to achieve a whole lot that won’t go down six feet with me? It is painful.
In as much as not fighting feels good, I cannot hold still, the next minute I get back up, struggling to keep my head above the water. At every point I lose hope, I reminisce on some peculiar accolades from friends, for all the times they said to me “nice job”, and giggled chin to chin because of how amazingly talented they see me, I find courage. While I pick me up, one of my demons whispers to my mind, “what if they said all those to make you happy? You are not as talented as you think”. Do I rebuke the demon or accept her words? Well, it all depends on what day it is.
The thoughts of failure are like vultures preying on a carcass. One perches first then the others begin to assemble one after the other until they fill the place tearing it apart. They’re ugly, aggressive, and have pretty rotten feeding habits. Just like the thoughts of failure, once it shows up, it replicates itself into many terrifying scenarios that feast on your mind.
We all want to be successful but the truth is, not all of us will be. Yes, the sky is big enough for everyone to fly but first, look within you. Can you fly? If yes, what is the size of your wings? Are your wings punctured or built up? One bitter truth is, you might get all these right and still not make it. Life is a mystery, if not for anything, I wish I knew tomorrow.
Will you forgive yourself if you do not succeed on earth?
I can’t forgive myself if I don’t achieve success in life…
My own definition of success aside putting the above elements in that write-up in place, success for me is living for tomorrow (tomorrow isn’t about me but the generations yet unborn…)
If I die, nothing I’ve achieved goes six feet with me, but you see the coming generation? Being blessed for coming through me and having 80% of all they might be needing even before their arrival to this world- means success to me.
Sometimes I wonder why I need to think and work hard for my unborn generation. What if I leave them with so much wealth and an idiot decides to jinx it while I’m gone? Is that not back to square zero? The next generation better be ready to soil their hands like I am doing for me. 😌
You just play your part well…
You can’t control or put things in place after your demise.
When facing a difficulty and i know I’ve given it my all and there’s nothing else I can do to change the present situation I just let go and let nature take its course. I used to beat myself down whenever things don’t go as planned but with time I’ve realized that setbacks are bound to happen and it’s up to you to either sulk and remain in that sour mood or pickup from where you left off and continue your grind. Yesterday after our conversation and reading a paragraph of this topic on your WhatsApp status, I found myself… Read more »
I wish we had the answers but then will life be interesting if we did? Maybe some balance will do, by this I mean 50-50. Ah ha! Maybe I should adopt wetting your appetites on WhatsApp before the real deal 🤔
All I can say is “life is a pot of beans”
Oh well! Yes😓
Isn’t life messed up? “We all want to be successful but the truth is, not all of us can be” this is the sad reality of life but then, it all depends on what is success to us individually..
Yeah another angle. But no matter which we say is our definition, not all of us will get there.🤞
As I have gotten older, my views have changed on many things. To many people success is about money. Success to me has never been about money, or status, but of security. Success to me is completing whatever I start, having money to pay my bills without the shame of having to ask others for help, raising my children as my positive contribution to society, leaving a legacy, and living a peaceful life free of dis-ease and strife. A successful person I would say, is one who done his/her work properly. Success is a personal thing. It’s about perception. It… Read more »
In a training I did a while back about dreams…Mind you, the only people who attends trainings like this are those who are actually chasing success but are finding themselves at a crossroad.. I picked up a survey that was done for people who in the eyes of the right thinking members of the society would say ‘they have made it’s 1. Do you have a dream for your life? YES 2. Are your times frustrated in the pursuit of your dream? YES 3. Have you ever given up on an important dream? OH YES! 4. Have you accomplished your… Read more »
RELEVANCE! How relevant do we want to be? I’m sure our definition of success affects our crave for relevance as well. Thank you for this 👏
Sooooo damn yes!! I will definitely forgive me 😉
Amazing thought. I love it.
Well, for me; Success is investing in your personality and influencing your world with the products of your investments.
It is therefore, finding human needs and met them; it doesn’t matter what I face or go through in the process ….it is actually a part of growing up.