We all have the mask we put on which is good as it protects us, helps us blend in amongst peers; the proper way to talk, approach matters and people. It is called “The Mask Of civility”.
By all definition it is welcomed as we can’t go about insulting and fighting everyone we have disagreements with or acting like animals and touts (no offence to touts) but the meaning of this “mask” in reality is lost on us.
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Our definition is “smiling at someone while bashing them behind their backs”, “feeling you are better than someone because their mindset and beliefs are different from yours” or “looking down on an individual earning an earnest living”.
What’s on your mind while retiring to bed every night? Knowing you had to wear the mask all day, how do you feel? When you lay all by yourself in your darkroom, how genuine are your thoughts? I hope you know ‘genuine’ doesn’t mean all positive thoughts? Do you feel cheated knowing the mask constrained you from being you?
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Wearing the mask is good, but replacing it with a full-blown kiss-ass morality/ ethics amounts to hypocrisy and fakery. Be bold and proud enough to be who you are but do not disrespect the next man’s individuality.
Sometimes to avoid beating yourself up, you don’t have to wait to get to your darkroom before taking off the mask. Mask off.
I beat myself up to many times on this… so alot of people will term it being “fake” but it’s rather self control because I personally, hehehehe!! If i always show myself (which I do sometimes if I cannot take it) I’m sometimes termed “tout” 😂😂 as you call am here but I don already do and shout wetin dey my mind, I refrain myself from letting emotional rush take over me other times I don’t. This then brings me to the people that are always opening their crap mouth to say “this is who I am” “I cannot change… Read more »
I agree. The truth is at some point, we all kiss ass, just that some have it more intense. And as for the ‘I cant change for anybody’aegis, I wish them well. Sometimes its good to allow mountains move you.
I love how he ended it “… Be yourself by all means necessary but do not disrespect another man’s individuality”.
Cos this people have this warped idea of ” Be yourself” and be that as it may, it takes a level of self awareness for one to be able to know when they’re being civil and when they’re kissing ass.
Interesting read. Love it.
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