The Welcome Party
You meet someone new and suddenly think you’ve found a strong connection with them huh? soulmate innit? But isn’t it too early to pitch your conclusion around that? 😌 Oh well, keep reading…
When we meet someone new, a kind of adrenaline pops. Like fuel, it nurtures our mental ability excellently, making us want to go the extra mile in knowing them. We try to know more about their life, best meal, favourite colour, if they love ice cream, etc.
At this stage, who we truly are dissolves in the background of our lives because we have taken to compromising but can we live up the routine forever? 🤔
Change Was Expected
Fine! I totally get it. You got carried away in the frenzy, knowing you loved the same genre of music, same hangout spots, matching intellectual strength and what have you. You were happy to have found someone like that yeah?
But who would have envisaged you two will begin to share some awkward moments. Well, I did😶.
It’s no news that two people cannot maintain the same energy forever. Highs and lows are definite. But more than half the time, one person changes first. If it’s not you then sorry!🙃
“They are changing”, you think! So you begin to hassle your mind for a thousand and one topics that can keep the flow between you two. Yet it’s not working😊. This wasn’t so hard before, was it? Now it all seems like you are struggling just to have something to say to them.
But here’s one truth I realized over time, especially with me as a case study…
The Welcome Party is Over
You will be more doomed if you start screaming in their face that they’ve changed😑.
Its time to step up your game! Know who they truly are. All that happened, in the beginning, was basically for courtesy sake, it was your ‘welcome party’ and now it is over and you have to wake up.
Ask more relevant questions other than what they wore to bed last night🤭. We all like the rarest forms of care compared to the regular. Give it!
You can ask them what their deepest fears are, career goals, if they like science or philosophy tickles them, worse case scenarios, their opinion on murder and so many terrific and terrifying stuff, PICK THEIR BRAINS!
Now is the time to know their real demons because the welcome party is over my friend😉.
NEWS FLASH: The world is changing… Oops! I meant the world has changed! Don’t ask me what I had for breakfast every day, don’t ask me what my favourite colour is or worst of my favourite sex position, yuck!… That’s basic! You can ask though but it shouldn’t crown your discussion😋. I like that you can ask me questions like “have you ever so bad considered slashing someone’s throat” Ok just kidding, I’m sure you get the point🏃♀️🏃♀️.
Have you ever been in this situation before? Let’s talk in the comment section 😄👇