Is it possible to miss what you haven’t experienced before?
YES or NO… Well for me it is a capital NO!
A friend of mine said to me once “hmmm Uju! with the way you’re going about being too serious in life, I hope you won’t begin to wish for all these flexing when you get married’ (paraphrasing).
I was surprised at the sequitur she had gotten from studying my lifestyle. How can I miss what I do not know? It doesn’t even make any sense. We might have fantasies about places we haven’t been to, fantasies about some activities we wish to indulge in…etc. but it is not us missing it. It could pass as a ‘craving‘, but definitely not a ‘Miss‘.
One can have a craving for new experiences, probably because of how much knowledge they have gathered about it through reading, movies or how they have heard people talk about it but it is just a craving. With or without having any of it, life goes on and you don’t feel like there is a loss.
To miss on the other hand puts you are the mercy of the so called things that you ‘miss’. You can’t hold back but instead look for satisfaction at all cost simply because you have once or the umpteenth time had a feel of it and not having a taste now will not tell well on you.
You cannot Miss what you haven’t experienced, it is impossible. Imagine someone who hasn’t had sex before saying they miss sex; does it make any sense? Hell No! Craving is the word there! And the good thing about cravings is that it can be either controlled or shoved away completely. So yeah, I am safe 😊.