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When a man finds a wife…who should be more Thankful?

Writer- Taiwo Omotesho
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I belong to a little group of sisters and one of us was recently proposed to by her long-time boyfriend. It’s a thing of joy yeah? Of course, we were all happy for her, especially knowing that society reckons it an icing on the cake for every lady.

A few moments later …“Thanks, **** for a new beginning”, my beloved friend had written on her social media page. I automatically got bemused. Why do women feel thankful to a man that proposes to them?

READ: 6 THINGS EVERY MAN WILL CONSIDER BEFORE PROPOSING

I began to relate it to my own man.  Apparently my man thinks he is doing me a favour by travelling down to Lagos before Connecting to Portharcourt where he stays. During one of our conversations, he said “I’m doing this because I love you. When a man loves a woman, he can go to any extent to prove his love”. Minutes later, I called and told him to change his flight plan and that I would want a man who would do things for us and not because he wants to prove anything…funny right?

READ: PROS AND CONS OF SINGLEHOOD

Love is commitment. Commitment, on the other hand, is an INTENTIONAL thing.  Nothing comes freely to a man, we are not natural doers but those who DO are those who make a conscious effort to growth and commitment.

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I know in this part of our world, women are taught to adore men like their Lord and personal saviour. But remember the Bible has that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. Amid the cliches and religious sayings, can we women just wake up!!! Can we see above the stereotypical sayings and take hold of our lives?

No woman should feel thankful because a man proposed to her because in the long run and in the corner of the man’s heart, there is something in it for him. No man would choose a liability to be in charge of his future!

In my own opinion, If anyone would be thankful, it should be the man. After all, the woman has more to give. I shouldn’t be thankful to wanna add light to your life even if I am, I would rather bury such feeling in my closet.

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Beloved women, I know in this world of ours, we have to wait for a man to do justice to whatever, but can we at least protect our dignity and self-esteem? It’s all we’ve got. When all is gone and we are old and grey, that might be the only thing we can hold on to even up until our deathbeds. Can we at least die in peace???

 

This article  was written by Taiwo Omotesho, owner of @tash_props on Instagram 

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Sifon
Sifon
7 months ago

Yea, u are right, the men should be thankful, as u quoted a Bible passage that says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Even if we are happy as well, we can bottle that in our ♥. But another thing is perhaps the “thank you” might not be for proposing but for choosing her over many girls he has met or so.

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Admin
7 months ago
Reply to  Sifon

Wow🤣🤣🤣🤣 dead! Choosing her? Who knows!

Tai
Tai
7 months ago
Reply to  Sifon

Oh well… i wrote from my own perspective and i doubt she was thankful for something else…

Seyi
Seyi
7 months ago

I may not have totally agreed with everything at the beginning till I read on, I respect the angle and perspective.

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Admin
7 months ago
Reply to  Seyi

Glad you followed through 🙏

Tai
Tai
7 months ago
Reply to  Seyi

Thank you!

Queen
Queen
7 months ago

The both should be thankful

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Admin
7 months ago
Reply to  Queen

I agree🤭🤭

Darius
Darius
7 months ago

Hmmmm… I don’t think men expect women to be thankful when we propose to them. Women are just excited about proposals and we are not to blame for this. You put forth a good case why women shouldn’t feel thankful to men when they are proposed to and you ruined everything by saying that men should, instead, be the ones to feel thankful. You don’t try to uplift women by bringing men down. And if my gf told me to cancel my flight because she felt upset that I told her I was visiting to show her how much I… Read more »

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Admin
7 months ago
Reply to  Darius

🤣🤣🤣 how dare you! She’s not. Everyone has different ways of conveying their message. I will have her reply you soon🤣🤣. Why am I even laughing! This gender war tho

Bubu
Bubu
7 months ago
Reply to  Darius

I was about to reply you with a kudos cos I agree with what you’re saying until you wrote “Angry Feminist” why does a woman airing an opinion which usually doesn’t sit well with some men automatically makes her an angry feminist. Y’all need to correct this notion, it really isn’t cool.

Darius
Darius
7 months ago
Reply to  Bubu

Are you saying that some women do not espouse feminist ideas? If I say kneeling to propose to a woman or opening the door for a woman diminishes a man’s worth, won’t you think I’m a male chauvinist? And if you call me out on this and a guy comes to my defence saying: “every guy airing his view is not a male chauvinist”. Would you still accept that I’m not a male chauvinist? We are judged by what we say or write. If someone expresses hateful views about a particular tribe or religion, it is not out of place… Read more »

Melody
Melody
7 months ago
Reply to  Darius

telling him to cancel his flight wasn’t the best thing to say then…
nonetheless, the both are to be thankful

Tai
Tai
7 months ago
Reply to  Darius

You know nothing DARIUS!

Darius
Darius
7 months ago
Reply to  Tai

🤣😂😂 thanks for pointing it out, knower of all things.

Mykel Oche
Mykel Oche
7 months ago

People express their feelings differently, I have witnessed a man proposed to his girlfriend, months later when they got married he bought her a car and thanked her for marrying him. Men are also excited about marriage especially…..

St3phanie
St3phanie
7 months ago

Well well, someone drops the bomb 😎… “he who finds a wife, finds a good thing” that’s just the koko… don’t go making a babe feel like “she lucky” so isn’t she as a matter of fact you both are… e go be *drops mic*

Bubu
Bubu
7 months ago

I totally do not agree with everything the writer has to say, but at the end of the day, we all have different opinions and that’s hers. Everyone wants to find that special someone and get hitched, the way they decide to celebrate that engagement or their partner is up to them and that shouldn’t be our issue. Relationship and marriage is a partnership, it takes both individuals for it to work effectively, No competition, No hierarchy but partnership. In this day and age where people marry for the wrong reasons and some marriages doesn’t last longer than few months.… Read more »

Onyii
Onyii
7 months ago
Reply to  Bubu

End of discussion

Onyii
Onyii
7 months ago

God bless you deeply

Dante Onwe
Dante Onwe
7 months ago

In a union lets not apportion who should show gratitude because if one party is less grateful than the other then the union will not hold so in my opinion the man most be grateful likewise the woman.

Oreoluwa Osinuga
Oreoluwa Osinuga
7 months ago

Happiness differs from person to person , find your own happiness and don’t use your own happiness or others happiness to measure yours. The problem we have with this age and level of wokeness we all claim to have is not believing that people enjoy what they have , a lady being thankful to her man and not getting the same in return might be wrong but she is happy. However, in a relationship or marriage both partners should be thankful to each other because of the value they will be adding to each other. The lady wrote “Thanks for… Read more »

Sue
Sue
7 months ago

What makes u think she was thankful to the man. I believe she was thankful to God for the new beginning. Marriage indeed is a new beginning and you should be grateful to God for that. I’m just saying.

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Admin
7 months ago
Reply to  Sue

Yeah! Yeah! Looking from another angle, you are probably right.

Kenneth
Kenneth
7 months ago

In my opinion, both parties should be thankful…love is a good thing

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