I hate it when someone says something like this “If I tell you your dress is beautiful, you will become swell headed so I rather not say”
Wait a minute! What is the essence of compliments if it’s not to massage an individual’s ego at least for the moment.
Common people! compliments are designed to make us have that tingling in our heads, we can’t even help it.
So I received a call from a friend last night, you know one of those friends who don’t call often but when they do, you have this long conversation. So we got talking and towards the end of the call, he said “Uju you are enjoying life o, what’s the secret behind your glow?”
I was shocked. “When was the last time we saw that you can tell I am glowing,” I queried.
He said he’s been seeing my photos via my WhatsApp status. I became bemused. This is someone who barely chats me, I could swear he wasn’t active on Whatsapp. Then I asked, “Why dont you always compliment me via WhatsApp? a little chat about it wouldn’t hurt yeah”.
Immediately he became defensive… “Ah! No o! Why should I? I don’t want your head to start swelling”.
His response was funny as well as stupid.
Why hoard a compliment? it’s not like his compliments will feed me though, neither will saying it harm him.
If someone warrants a compliment, give it. It is not your business if they become swell headed afterward. Compliments are a sign that we are doing something right and conspicuous. They are natural self-esteem boosters. Imagine doing the right thing and no one commends you, sincerely how will you feel? I bet your head will swell in the negative and eventually burst out of frustration. We can do better!